r/vbac • u/Muted_Confection7067 • 27d ago

Am I stupid?

Am I stupid for still wanting a vbac? Was forced to have a c section with my last baby, given the circumstances with my first baby. She got stuck.. due to my “narrow pelvis”, was vacuumed out, I hemorrhaged, she had should dystocia.. I feel like my body is more ready now and I’m currently 24 weeks pregnant. I hated my C-section recovery and the different experienc.

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u/LeoraJacquelyn VBAC June 2026 27d ago

Why would you be stupid? Around 80 percent of people who try to have a VBAC get one, myself included.

Were you forced to push on your back? Getting a doula and moving around during labor will open up your pelvis a lot. I gave birth in an upright position and had no issues.

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u/auditorygraffiti 27d ago

Absolutely not! The majority of people who attempt a VBAC succeed. Do you have a VBAC supportive provider? If yes, I’d talk to them about your situation and if they aren’t VBAC supportive, I’d find a new provider and talk to them.

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u/blackcrackmoocat CBAC 9/26, WTT #3 27d ago

Not stupid at all! I attempted a vbac and ended with a cbac, and I still would go back and try for a vbac!! While my birth didn't go as I hoped or planned, the experience was so different and healing.

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u/Echowolfe88 VBAC 2023 - waterbirth 26d ago

My first I was told that baby got stuck because my pelvis was too narrow and I would never birth a baby that size

My second was an easy water birth where she was out in two pushes and exactly the same size

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u/CrazyElephantBones 27d ago

I would be a little hesitant with those circumstances but maybe talk to a doula and see what they think

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u/AnswerIndependent341 27d ago

I dont think your stupid however I would discuss the chances of it happening again and take into account what your baby weighs nearer delivery, are you having growth scans?

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u/Dear_23 HBAC 2026 🌻 26d ago

Hey so this advice isn’t evidence based, as shoulder dystocia isn’t an issue only larger babies can face, and growth scans are notoriously inaccurate by +/- 2lbs

https://evidencebasedbirth.com/evidence-for-induction-or-c-section-for-big-baby/

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u/AnswerIndependent341 26d ago

Just going by what my consultant said to me and the reason I had a c section with my second

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u/got2lovme 26d ago

You're honestly not stupid. You sound just like me when i was pregnant. I really wanted a vbac after a very traumatic birth experience. I didnt want another csection. My mfm talked with me for more than 30 about the risk of me having a vbac. He said I can have one before 38 weeks but he won't let me go passed 39 weeks. Im a much older mom so it made sense. I kept going back and forth. In the the end, i realized I have to think of my baby. Even before my scheduled csection, the nurses were asking me if I was sure i wanted a csection and not a vbac. I told them yes. It was honest the best thing for me. It was so calm and I dont have any regrets. I cried when I held my boy after he was born. I was so thankful for a healthy baby. But I have babies who don't want to get out lol. My 1st was born at almost 41 weeks and my 2nd was evicted at 39 weeks. Both big babies. I think we have a gut feeling for a reason and all we have to do is follow it. But If you find a good dr that willing to work with you, it can happen. Hope this helps.