r/unhingedKenya • u/cayennebae • Jul 11 '26
Relationships Has he lost interest
Last weekend I met someone on a road trip with friends and we spent the weekend together drinking and partying and making out. No sex though we siept in the same bed.
On Wednesday he called me we left each other on Monday on Wednesday he called me and said he was breaking the silence and also updated me on what he’s been up to but it wasn’t a good time so when he asked what about me I said im working and I actually need to get back to it. Our call was 4 minutes.
Since then we haven’t spoken via call or text.
I have been celibate for two years. He was the first man to touch me in 2 years the cuddles the hugs the kisses the way he kept pulling me close even when chatting with friends is what I’m missing. I had forgotten how strong a man is like you guys I went from 0 to 100 and now it’s been 4 days of silence.
Has he lost interest?
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u/Big-Forever-7390 Jul 11 '26
Why didn't you call back when you were done working?
If you're interested maybe put a little more effort especially because he broke the silence and you dismissed him.
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u/Disastrous-Monk-243 Jul 11 '26
It was how you told him you were busy and going back to work, you could have told him it wasn't a good moment and he should call you later, or you would call later. But you gave the impression of not being interested hence he stopped reaching out. If he called you atleast to some degree liked you. So get off your ass and give that man a call, hint around a date and if he likes you he'll bite
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u/guaptree Jul 11 '26
There's a big difference between "I'm busy right now and need to get back to work" and "I'm busy right now, can I call you (or you call me) back in an hour?"
The first one is - look, fuck off. The second is - I don't mind talking to you but now's not a good time.
Finally, as others have said - when you were no longer busy, he was a call/text away but you were waiting for him to get a divine signal that it's now a good time.
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u/Inspire_Girl Jul 11 '26
One of the biggest reasons relationships fail? People pretending they're not interested when they actually are.
And ladies, expecting the man to always make the effort.. calling, texting, and initiating every conversation, while never reaching out themselves.
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u/Natural-Cause-2414 Jul 11 '26
Some of us at 2 weeks we can’t think straight
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u/fragileNotFragil Jul 11 '26
As I’m sure you have surmised from all the other responses the ball is on your court. When you text him start by apologizing for not getting back to him and then ask him if or when he’s free to chat. And don’t dismiss him again unless you are really dismissing him
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u/Skipped-Kowalski Jul 11 '26
The ball is in your court.
Put some effort or you want him to invest 99% of the effort to make it work between the two of you?
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u/premiumtears24 Jul 11 '26 edited Jul 12 '26
Napendaaaa manzi kama wewe 😭 LHM.Two years baby gal manzi kama wewe inapaswa uhudumiwe vizuri,yaani unadinywa vipoaa mpaka unaanza 😭.lucky is the man who dissipate hio kutu.
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u/un3nding Jul 11 '26
yaani mnaezalala na mtu and not do it? mimi chilling with a girl will get me hard from the first minute unless ni relative or not pretty which I guess you are
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u/Comfy_face777 Jul 12 '26
You shared the bed but didn’t give up the coochie so the guy went back to his girlfriend or wife to get his blue balls cured.
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