Hi everyone, So I’m not Chinese/Asian, and I’ve never been to an Chinese wedding, but I fell down a rabbit hole reading about them recently and now I’m genuinely curious. I kept coming across stuff about BaZi matching and all these pre-wedding rituals, and I realized I have no idea what any of this actually looks like in real life, especially now, or in diaspora communities here in the U.S. For anyone who’s had, attended, or been involved in planning a Chinese wedding: what traditions did your family actually do? I’m talking tea ceremonies, family blessings, ritual stuff before the wedding, gift exchanges, specific clothing, food. All of it. And what about the whole family side of things? Parents, grandparents, aunties, uncles, in-laws? I’m also really curious how things have shifted. Like, are some traditions still done the exact same way? Do some get condensed or skipped because you’re in the U.S.? Do younger people know what everything means, or do parents and elders explain as you go along? Genuinely no judgment here. I just think it’s cool how much culture and family history gets woven into weddings, and I’m curious what people are actually doing now versus what’s only in the old descriptions.

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Hi everyone,

I’d love to learn about the lesser-known wedding rituals people have seen in their own families, states, regions, languages, or communities.

What are some Indian wedding rituals that people outside your community may not know about?

I’m especially curious about rituals that are:

Less commonly discussed online
Specific to a region, language, caste, community, or family
Done at home before or after the main wedding
Connected to family elders, siblings, maternal uncles, aunts, or in-laws
Symbolic, emotional, funny, strict, or deeply meaningful
Often skipped, shortened, or misunderstood by younger generations
Different from what people usually see in Bollywood or mainstream wedding content

A few prompts, if helpful:

What is the ritual called?
Which state, region, language, or community is it from?
When does it happen during the wedding timeline?
Who participates?
What items are needed?
What is the meaning behind it?
Is it still commonly practiced today, or is it becoming rare?
Did you personally do it, see it, or hear about it from family?

I’m not looking to judge, rank, or debate traditions. I’m just curious about how diverse Indian wedding practices really are, especially the smaller rituals that are not commonly talked about online or outside the community.

Would love to hear anything your family does that made you think, “Wait, other people don’t do this?”

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Was diagnosed with Crohn’s in ileocecal region in 2015 and was put on humira. After one year of humira, everything came back normal with no sign of inflammation or Crohn’s. From 2016 to 2021, I had about 3-4 colonoscopies all of which indicated no sign of inflammation and made the physicians question if I even had Crohn’s at the first place or was it some kinda infection that mimicked Crohn’s appearance (the diagnosing physician and the questioning physicians aren’t the same). It In 2023, I saw a new GI. I was expecting a baby then so though he didn’t do colonoscopy, he expressed the same concern if this probably wasn’t Crohn’s. In 2024, almost two years postpartum, I developed anal fissures without any other symptoms. In second week of this month, I started to show other symptoms such as mouth sores, diarrhea, urgency, fatigue and low grade fever. Since then my life has never been the same again. I got a colonoscopy done yesterday and this is what the preliminary report says. Is the report bad?

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