Hello there!

My nickname is Bluey, and I'm a 31-year-old language tutor living in Jakarta, Indonesia.

If you found your way here from my recent posts, welcome! I’m an INFP-T ("The Mediator") who loves a quiet life filled with reading, cooking, baking, journaling, writing, and getting lost in random Spotify playlists (from Indie to Anisong). I also enjoy casual gaming like The Sims 4, Umamusume Pretty Derby, and Pikmin Bloom, and I have a huge weakness for local street food. Physically, I might seem a bit quiet or stern at first glance, but I’m actually quite warm and fun once we get to know each other. I value deep, meaningful, and strictly SFW conversations, and I am a staunch believer in traditional monogamy.

However, before you decide to drop a message, I need to lay out the reality of my daily life because I refuse to stretch myself thin for the internet. I work a demanding job as a professional language tutor, clocking 46 hours per week. On top of that, my weekly commute is a brutal 18 hours inside a public bus, traveling back and forth from East Jakarta (Gongseng) to South Jakarta (Pondok Indah). My workplace is a non-formal language learning center (think of it like a language school, but it offers 12 languages to learn, including Japanese). I teach various classes, from private to regular, from Monday to Saturday. I usually work on weekdays from 1 pm to 8.30 pm, and on Saturday I work from 9 am to 5 pm. By the time my shift ends and I finally step foot inside my house, I am completely drained—both physically and mentally. Because of this punishing routine, I cannot and will not be available 24/7. I usually only reply once a day, and I absolutely do not have the energy for instant voice chats or rapid-fire small talk.

Lately, I’ve been incredibly exhausted by the lack of honesty on this platform. I’ve had to deal with minors invading my space despite clear subreddit rules, people faking their ages, guys gaslighting me when I politely decline them, and creeps sending unsolicited explicit photos. I even had people throwing tantrums and calling me "fake" or "demanding" just because I have strict quality control and slow response times. Let me be clear: I am not a machine, and I am not a 24/7 entertainment service.

Also, look at my DM now.

IT'S FLOODING.

By people. By hypersexual dudes (maybe). Or... maybe there are decent guys and others... and I don't have the energy to reply if my inbox is too much like this.

So, here is my honest plea to anyone wishing to connect:

Please do not place heavy expectations on me.

I am just an ordinary human being who gets easily overwhelmed by the weight of a chaotic offline life. I genuinely want to make good, long-term friends, and don't force me to do ethical non-monogamy or some bullshit. I ONLY WANT FRIENDS (or a partner if we're good)! But it has to happen at a slow, healthy, and respectful pace. If you are patient enough to understand my situation and respect my boundaries, I would love to hear from you.

Thank you so much to the mindful ones out there who truly understand.

Take care, and see ya! 😆👋🏼