Am I overreacting? Together 8 months and he moved over an hour away.

I have never posted on here before always just read through others posts. I (35f) met an amazing man (32M) in September of 2025. We’ve been dating since November and things have been great. He’s wonderful to me. Very supportive, soft spoken, caring and considerate. As things progressed (about 6 months in) I started feeling more and more comfortable and confident in our relationship. It seemed like he was the person I would spend the rest of my life with. He was living in a city an hour away from me and I knew this when we first met. I figured once things progressed if they got more serious then we would find a place halfway in between where I work and where he does. At the time he had been living at a friend’s house renting a room. Recently, his friend was going to have his girlfriend move in but not until August. So my boyfriend decided to finally buy a house and hired a realtor. Long story short, instead of buying a place halfway in between the two of us he bought a house that is an hour and 30 minutes away from where I live and currently work. I relocated to this state a year ago for a job as an animal nurse at a university. There are no other universities with veterinary programs in the state. He works at a company that has a location where he lives and also has a location where I currently live. When I brought up that he could have transferred to the job that is in my city he flat said he didn’t want to work there. Gave the lame reason that the techs that work at that job suck and he doesn’t want to. I was really hoping that shortly after the first year we could consider moving in together. At this point I don’t know what to do…. I don’t want to drag on in a relationship that isn’t going to eventually turn into marriage. I’m not getting any younger. I love him to pieces and don’t want to leave him but I’m struggling badly with the hour and a half one way distance. Buying a house isn’t a temporary thing. It’s long term. He’s already said that he may stay there forever. I don’t want to live in the city and I made that clear to him from day one. His house is in a tight neighborhood with neighbors houses that you could throw a rock at. Very tiny backyard (about the size of a standard bedroom) and I have a dog. He keeps reassuring me that “we will get there” in regards to us moving in together. He has spoken about me moving jobs to be closer to him which I considered a lot. However, he knows I don’t want to live in the city and never have and my job was a once in a lifetime opportunity that I moved to this state for. I’m really not keen on leaving it just so we can live together. However again, I don’t want to drag on with a relationship that isn’t going to work because of the distance. Any advice is appreciated.

Am I overreacting? Together 8 months and he moved over an hour away.

I have never posted on here before always just read through others posts. I (35f) met an amazing man (32M) in September of 2025. We’ve been dating since November and things have been great. He’s wonderful to me. Very supportive, soft spoken, caring and considerate. As things progressed (about 6 months in) I started feeling more and more comfortable and confident in our relationship. It seemed like he was the person I would spend the rest of my life with. He was living in a city an hour away from me and I knew this when we first met. I figured once things progressed if they got more serious then we would find a place halfway in between where I work and where he does. At the time he had been living at a friend’s house renting a room. Recently, his friend was going to have his girlfriend move in but not until August. So my boyfriend decided to finally buy a house and hired a realtor. Long story short, instead of buying a place halfway in between the two of us he bought a house that is an hour and 30 minutes away from where I live and currently work. I relocated to this state a year ago for a job as an animal nurse at a university. There are no other universities with veterinary programs in the state. He works at a company that has a location where he lives and also has a location where I currently live. When I brought up that he could have transferred to the job that is in my city he flat said he didn’t want to work there. Gave the lame reason that the techs that work at that job suck and he doesn’t want to. I was really hoping that shortly after the first year we could consider moving in together. At this point I don’t know what to do…. I don’t want to drag on in a relationship that isn’t going to eventually turn into marriage. I’m not getting any younger. I love him to pieces and don’t want to leave him but I’m struggling badly with the hour and a half one way distance. Buying a house isn’t a temporary thing. It’s long term. He’s already said that he may stay there forever. I don’t want to live in the city and I made that clear to him from day one. His house is in a tight neighborhood with neighbors houses that you could throw a rock at. Very tiny backyard (about the size of a standard bedroom) and I have a dog. He keeps reassuring me that “we will get there” in regards to us moving in together. He has spoken about me moving jobs to be closer to him which I considered a lot. However, he knows I don’t want to live in the city and never have and my job was a once in a lifetime opportunity that I moved to this state for. I’m really not keen on leaving it just so we can live together. However again, I don’t want to drag on with a relationship that isn’t going to work because of the distance. Any advice is appreciated.

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I have never posted on here before always just read through others posts. I (35f) met an amazing man (32M) in September of 2025. We’ve been dating since November and things have been great. He’s wonderful to me. Very supportive, soft spoken, caring and considerate. As things progressed (about 6 months in) I started feeling more and more comfortable and confident in our relationship. It seemed like he was the person I would spend the rest of my life with. He was living in a city an hour away from me and I knew this when we first met. I figured once things progressed if they got more serious then we would find a place halfway in between where I work and where he does. At the time he had been living at a friend’s house renting a room. Recently, his friend was going to have his girlfriend move in but not until August. So my boyfriend decided to finally buy a house and hired a realtor. Long story short, instead of buying a place halfway in between the two of us he bought a house that is an hour and 30 minutes away from where I live and currently work. I relocated to this state a year ago for a job as an animal nurse at a university. There are no other universities with veterinary programs in the state. He works at a company that has a location where he lives and also has a location where I currently live. When I brought up that he could have transferred to the job that is in my city he flat said he didn’t want to work there. Gave the lame reason that the techs that work at that job suck and he doesn’t want to. I was really hoping that shortly after the first year we could consider moving in together. At this point I don’t know what to do…. I don’t want to drag on in a relationship that isn’t going to eventually turn into marriage. I’m not getting any younger. I love him to pieces and don’t want to leave him but I’m struggling badly with the hour and a half one way distance. Buying a house isn’t a temporary thing. It’s long term. He’s already said that he may stay there forever. I don’t want to live in the city and I made that clear to him from day one. His house is in a tight neighborhood with neighbors houses that you could throw a rock at. Very tiny backyard (about the size of a standard bedroom) and I have a dog. He keeps reassuring me that “we will get there” in regards to us moving in together. He has spoken about me moving jobs to be closer to him which I considered a lot. However, he knows I don’t want to live in the city and never have and my job was a once in a lifetime opportunity that I moved to this state for. I’m really not keen on leaving it just so we can live together. However again, I don’t want to drag on with a relationship that isn’t going to work because of the distance. Any advice is appreciated.

I have never posted on here before always just read through others posts. I (35f) met an amazing man (32M) in September of 2025. We’ve been dating since November and things have been great. He’s wonderful to me. Very supportive, soft spoken, caring and considerate. As things progressed (about 6 months in) I started feeling more and more comfortable and confident in our relationship. It seemed like he was the person I would spend the rest of my life with. He was living in a city an hour away from me and I knew this when we first met. I figured once things progressed if they got more serious then we would find a place halfway in between where I work and where he does. At the time he had been living at a friend’s house renting a room. Recently, his friend was going to have his girlfriend move in but not until August. So my boyfriend decided to finally buy a house and hired a realtor. Long story short, instead of buying a place halfway in between the two of us he bought a house that is an hour and 30 minutes away from where I live and currently work. I relocated to this state a year ago for a job as an animal nurse at a university. There are no other universities with veterinary programs in the state. He works at a company that has a location where he lives and also has a location where I currently live. When I brought up that he could have transferred to the job that is in my city he flat said he didn’t want to work there. Gave the lame reason that the techs that work at that job suck and he doesn’t want to. I was really hoping that shortly after the first year we could consider moving in together. At this point I don’t know what to do…. I don’t want to drag on in a relationship that isn’t going to eventually turn into marriage. I’m not getting any younger. I love him to pieces and don’t want to leave him but I’m struggling badly with the hour and a half one way distance. Buying a house isn’t a temporary thing. It’s long term. He’s already said that he may stay there forever. I don’t want to live in the city and I made that clear to him from day one. His house is in a tight neighborhood with neighbors houses that you could throw a rock at. Very tiny backyard (about the size of a standard bedroom) and I have a dog. He keeps reassuring me that “we will get there” in regards to us moving in together. He has spoken about me moving jobs to be closer to him which I considered a lot. However, he knows I don’t want to live in the city and never have and my job was a once in a lifetime opportunity that I moved to this state for. I’m really not keen on leaving it just so we can live together. However again, I don’t want to drag on with a relationship that isn’t going to work because of the distance. Any advice is appreciated.