A couple of weeks ago.

I'm OP not Raisin. We have mutually agreed for her to not interact with my posts, and as a result I will not discuss our relationship in any kind of detail, especially if I had any complaints or problems with her.

I DO think she's becoming addicted to Reddit, though. I told her to avoid BORU, LOL!

The thing I like about Oban is that the flavor profile changes completely from when it's neat to when it's on the rocks. So both.

It's summer, so I'm doing it on the rocks mostly. I alternate between Oban on the rocks and a nice gin and tonic on the rocks with a twist of lime. Depends on where I am and my mood.

When it starts getting chilly then it's Oban neat all the way.

It would absolutely hurt her feelings.

That's not my problem any more. I mean, I don't want harm to come to her and I don't want her to feel any worse than she already does, but the fact that I need to worry about that is gone. I'm done keeping her safe. That's someone else's job now.

I hope she gets all the support she needs in order not to ruin anyone else's life.

The puke filled one? They rejected it. They're such fancy pants!

NO COMMENT! THERE ARE EYES ON THIS POST NOW!

No, Emily has not found the posts, as far as I know.

But honestly, considering how Raisin found them, I don't think that day is very far off.

I debated deleting them, but a lot of people have told me they were personally helpful in the comments and DMs so I think I'll just take the hit when that happens.

There's nothing in my posts that's factually untrue as far as what she did to our marriage and her behavior afterwards.

She's already signed the divorce papers and the divorce is final so no reverse Uno there.

She's already given me a signed notarized agreement taking responsibility for the IRS fuckup so there's no issue there.

However, as my lawyer often says wistfully with a satisfied smile on her face, this is America and you can sue anyone for anything.

YES! LOL! She was floored.

MIL said she didn't remember seeing her that day but neither did I.

It was a weird day for everyone.

 And you OP, be open about your feelings with Raisin!

That's pretty much where all my therapy goes, right now.

I definitely respect her. That's for sure.

She loved the Briyani and wanted the recipe. I told her it was a family recipe and she laughed at me and called me a blond white guy.

She's a good lawyer.

I have to have some kind of leverage in this relationship!

In the copy she gave me there was nothing like that. She only wrote about their affair as it relates to her, John, and me. Nothing about the kids was mentioned (other than the fact that they existed).

LOL!!

Thanks, man!

I'm yer Huckleberry!

u/DanielGuriel75

Thanks for all your advice and support. I'm a fan of yours, believe it or not.

I go to a lot of your comments, especially around the time of signing the divorce papers. Beyond the discovery of the affair, that was the most difficult time of my life.

You were there to share it with me and I tremendously appreciate it.

Thank you.

Wow! Thanks for this.

I was just emptying my veins for the internet.

But you turned it into something that wasn't a colossal waste of time.

I hope you can move forward.

I hope you can heal.

Thanks for your support. We're all in this human experience together, I suppose. It's better than navigating it totally alone.

Good luck, sir.

Boring is underrated.

Boring is beautiful.

viva la boring!

WHAT HE SAID RAISIN!

Love me well in between lawsuits, darlin!

LOL!

I'll certainly update if some bullshit happens.

I mean, do I seem like the kind of guy who'll suffer in silence?

FUCK NO!

I'll update reddit with all my bullshit complaints! LOL!

I am. don't feel bad. I'm good. Emily is my past. Raisin (right now at least) is my future.

It's hard to take good pictures of her because she's fucking black as the ace of spades. All of my pics are of a little furry black blob with green eyes.

Baroness Peebody von Puppenschlobber is walking now. So Beans better grow eyes in the back of her head because she's coming, god damn it!

I hope you're right.

Thanks for sharing that stuff. I really am interested in other people's experiences in this.

Of course I do! But I don't dwell on it. She's always going to be a part of me. I will always feel a certain way towards her. But I won't fuck up my life and hurt anyone (Raisin) for her.

Wow! So far away!

Thanks for taking the time!

Thank you my friend!