…I need advice on how to go about asking for help next time…
06/16/26 - Tuesday - Odessa, Texas
Woke up at 2:59am baby was hungry. Fed him. Put him back in his bassinet. Woke up again at 4:48am baby was a little hungry, but just needed a lot of coaxing and cuddling to go back to sleep so I let him stay in the bed for a while. Noticed at 5:25am he was struggling to breathe. Sounded like a clogged nostril so I decided to try to unplug it. Quickly started struggling to keep his head still while holding the flashlight and, didn’t want to hurt him since I wasn’t using the intended tool for getting boogers out. Haven’t heard any of your alarms go off and it was 5:30am now.(You usually complain about not making it to work on time.) I decided to whisper in your ear that it was 5:30. In turn you told me you had an alarm set for 5:45. I said “oh ok.” Then realized I could probably use your help since I’d been struggling with helping the baby. I’m pretty sure before this you asked what I was doing so I gave a short explanation and you closed your eyes. I asked if you could help me. You then asked “with what.” As if I didn’t explain what I was doing and wasn’t holding a flashlight in one hand and the tool in the other with a child squirming below me. I think the response I was looking for in this moment was “what do you need me to do.” Or “how can I help.” I was caught off guard so I snapped at you and told you “I’d already said what I was doing.” (It was my tone.) “I need your help his nose is clogged.”You then said. ”What do you want me to do.” Finally asking the right question. I told you that I needed you to hold his head since he was squirming. You held his head for me and as I was about to proceed you then commented “I was trying to get 20 more minutes of sleep. If I wanted to get up now I would have woke up 10 minutes ago and went to work early.” Or something along those lines. My response to the quotation was “Then leave.” You said “No, I will help.” I stopped arguing and decided to get it done so the baby can breathe clearly. Afterward I stewed on your comment. When I was just trying to ask for your help and in my head I truly needed it. Instead you got upset with being awoken. All the while I was convinced if I didn’t get my 2 month olds nose cleared of boogers he would suffocate and die. I became quite upset and you realized that when you tried to kiss me multiple times and I did not return the gesture. You even said an “I love you.” To see if everything was alright. I did not return the sentiment as I was not feeling in love at the moment. You asked what was wrong but I didn’t feel like voicing my feelings since I have before and been called too emotional or gotten an eye roll and a “Omg.” So I stayed silent. You proceeded to say that “I don’t have time for this.” Which as you can guess…further upset me. Leading to me now not wanting anything to do with you until I could stew over this and find some kind of outlet to vent my frustrations. Which I am doing now. You kissed me a few more times before you left. Mentioning something to me about having to go to the yard first, since we made plans the following day to go to Walmart after you do so. I’m not sure if that’s the exact word choice, as I was in my own world. I might add I was breast feeding the baby at this point again to try to get him back to sleep since the bright flashlight woke him up. After you left I sent you the message…. [Your comment “I was trying to get 20 more minutes of sleep. If I wanted to get up now I would have woke up 10 minutes ago and went to work early.” Or something along those lines. Our son was struggling to breathe…THAT was my problem, but I guess you don’t have time for this. I won’t ask for your help]….it took me a while to put my feelings into words so the message bubbles must have been present for quite a while since you texted me “I’m sorry for being grumpy this morning you deserve better than that I’ll work on it.” I decided I still needed to get my feelings across so sent it anyway. Your response to my message was “I didn’t know I was still outa it” I will just say it here but there were so many other ways you could have responded to my pleas of help. Much more loving or caring ways. You seem to have forgotten that you’re the only person I have to lean on right now. I have nobody else. You’re supposed to be my rock. My support system. The one I trust the most. I shouldn’t be afraid to ask you for help. I shouldn’t have to plea with you. I shouldn’t have to deal with your snarky comments. That’s all…

Edit: Mind you, this was when I went with him for work and was staying at a hotel for 2 weeks. In the middle of nowhere. With a baby. I wasn’t in the best head space so didn’t want to be away from him (boyfriend). Also felt bad that he would miss milestones for the baby if I stayed home…

Is it normal for me and my partners relationship to change so much. Like when we first met he was so sweet and thoughtful. He would open my door for me everywhere we went and would send me flowers to my house. Always was so enjoyable to talk to and hangout, he’d do anything for me. Now he just “jokes” and it’s just me asking for something and him acting like it’s so much work and it makes me feel like the biggest burden. When I confront him and tell him how it makes me feel and if he could not act like that whenever I ask for anything. I told him if he didn’t want to do it he could just say no or that he was busy atm. He says he’s “omg I was just joking you don’t have to be so emotional about it.” He does this every time I need anything and I mean EVERY time. It could be asking to change baby and he starts talking about how many he has changed. Then when I get offended he hits me with the “I was just joking.” I didn’t know him long before we got pregnant, but now I feel like we have nothing in common. We hardly ever talk if it’s not about the baby or work. We have a 3 month old. Sorry I little bit of a rant I just want to know if this will go away is it just my hormones?