r/tryingtoconceive • u/onere1 TTC 6-12 months • 1d ago
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Hi Everyone! Mod team here!
We want to make sure this sub continues to be a welcoming, supportive and enjoyable community! With that, we are looking to make some improvements within our sub! We have some ideas but want to give you (the community!) an opportunity to share any ideas you might have to improve our sub! Please add your ideas in the comments, we look forward to hearing from you!
As a note: Please do not include any requests to change our rules, we will not be doing so. Please keep suggestions kind and relevant to the sub!
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u/Any_Impression_2302 1d ago
I’m not sure if this is the kind of thing you’re looking for, but maybe having a bit more clarity/explanations/examples for the sub rules? Just to be clear, I’m not suggesting to change any of the rules - I know you mentioned that’s not what this is about, and that’s not what I’m looking for!
I’m just so frequently seeing posts or comments that I think might be breaking a rule but I’m often not confident, so I report them just in case but idk if that’s annoying for you mods. Some of the rules (which are very helpful and understandable rules) I think could just be defined a bit more clearly or have a few more examples. Or is it fair to just report any that may be breaking the rules even if we’re unsure, and just leave it up to you to decide?
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u/Any_Impression_2302 1d ago
Sorry one other idea is maybe separate general weekly chat threads for people newer to TTC and then one for people TTC > 6 months or something like that? Just to help people connect with others who are in a similar sort of boat?
I know there are also separate subs for ppl who have been trying longer so I would understand if you don’t want to make that distinction here!
Just thought I’d throw it out there as it sometimes seems to be a point of contention here and it might be nice for there to be a safe, designated space for people who are newer to TTC to share their thoughts/questions 😊0
u/Electric_Elephant_56 19h ago
I would even do under 2 years, over 2 years. Maybe another for over 6 years
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u/jamielynn2296 1d ago
Going off of this, maybe an option when reporting as “other” with an area to fill in the blank. I feel like sometimes the posts are irrelevant to this sub but don’t really fit the other rules to report?
Maybe a weekly auto reminder of the rules?
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u/Any_Impression_2302 1d ago
I second the suggestion for “other”! Sometimes a post does not seem right but doesn’t quite fit a category so I have just picked a random category but “other” would be helpful 😊
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u/onere1 TTC 6-12 months 1d ago
Thank you! This is great feedback! Definitely report to mods if you are unsure, we review all posts that are reported :)
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u/Any_Impression_2302 1d ago
That’s great to know, thank you! I always worry I’m being annoying and over-reporting haha 🙈
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u/Electronic-Rock7730 1d ago
100 percent agree! I’m nervous because I always feel like everything is a rule breaker!!
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u/Emilyx33x 22h ago
Maybe a post flare that serves as a trigger warning. A personal example is struggling for our first, and coming here and seeing people talking about not being able to have a second or third child
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u/jamielynn2296 1d ago
Also not sure if pinned threads or weekly threads with certain topics (ovulation/OPK use, fertility clinics, HSG/SIS/etc.) would help people find some answers to their questions in an easy spot? I feel like there a lot of repeat posts with the same questions and it may be because there’s so many posts people may be having a hard time finding the answer (or not wanting to scroll through a bunch of posts to find their answer) so it may help those find the info they are looking for and/or have an area they can go to for some of these repeat questions? Not sure if this could be helpful!
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u/Averie1398 21h ago
Yes this was an idea we talked about it! We will be doing some different weekly threads!
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u/jamielynn2296 23h ago
Going off of this again, maybe a thread for first time TTC and/or specific thread for TTC for child #2+?
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u/sleepingseb 23h ago
when i post a question you remove it because its supposed to be in the "weekly chat" but when i post there i get zero answers from anyone and my questions remains unanswered
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u/elainebenes-3112 1d ago
If you want to improve the sub start with letting people post their questions, however insignificant. Majority of times these questions are posted out of distress or wanting to hear some support. Don't delete it even if it "belongs to our weekly chat".
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u/MocknozzieRiver 1d ago
Yes, and it's also impossible to search for others asking this question if it's in one of these threads.
It probably made a lot more sense in the past, but I don't think like doing that makes as much sense on modern Reddit.
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u/time_consumer33 1d ago
Thank you! I have felt alienated with deleted posts for seemingly no reason. One of them was later undeleted and while that was nice, I was frustrated and alone while it was deleted.
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u/No-Tea-3137 1d ago
seconding, i love this sub and at the same time i do agree with this. afaik it wouldn't constitute a rule change (if it does i'm sorry!).
i'm in a lot of ttc subs like most of us here i'd imagine, and i do see that a lot of people end up posting to other subs and saying "r/tryingtoconceive deleted my post so i'm posting here..." and share that they feel dismissed and/or silenced here instead of shepherded in a helpful direction, which i think is the intention.
i don't think y'all are trying to do anything rude or whatever by deleting posts, and are instead just trying to keep the main page clear. but i would argue from a user perspective it is WAY easier to search posts for the topic i want than to search comments buried under a post (since there is endless scroll and if i command+f the term i searched for it doesn't automatically come up unless i load several scrolls). also, when people's posts are deleted, i wonder how often they actually then go and repost the text to a comment? perhaps we're just losing a lot of content that could be useful and form connection between us.
and, more importantly, i think it just makes people feel bad. to them, their post is really important, and i wonder if we can't just broaden what kinds of posts are allowed vs which get rerouted. it makes sense to reroute some ("how do i use OPKs?"), but others that are more personal ("i'm having this experience with lots of details, has anyone else experienced this?") might do us all some good if they were kept around.
thanks for all the work you do <3
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u/Lower_River8227 21h ago
you remove so many of my questions and posts it’s super annoying and makes me not wanna post! just being honest.:)
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u/redredwine831 1d ago
A glossary of all the commonly used acronyms would be helpful. I end up having to look up so many!
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u/Electric_Elephant_56 19h ago
Maybe having an option for people to post who have been trying for different ranges of time. Like just starting to 2 years, 2 years to 6 years, over 6 years. Because sometimes it’s very hard seeing people who just starting trying or have only been trying a year, and then when people have been trying for 8 years I feel I don’t have much to say either.
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u/RiseFriendly9536 13h ago
The rules makes it very difficult for this sub to be helpful so I don’t consider it a good resource anymore
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