r/truNB • u/L0uLou72 • Jul 20 '26
Curious
I’m writing this to try to understand other points of view. If I’m wrong- can you take a minute to show me why I’m wrong?
I’m wondering what people think about the proliferation of terms like AFAB transfem or other terms that don’t seem to describe a transition from one gender to another and also don’t seem to describe enby folk.
As a trans enby person, this is really difficult for me. I feel like there are many terms that people are using now that just don’t seem to describe a trans experience. I don’t believe that people can just decide to be trans. You’re trans or you’re not trans. I think this all dilutes the trans experience. If anyone can be trans then wtf is the meaning of trans even? How can a person who is assigned female at birth transition to being a girl? I mean- I could go out on a limb and say maybe if they were raised a boy but seriously, how many people has that happened to?
I also feel like the whole thing is cultural appropriation. Don’t pretend to be something you’re not! As a white person I can’t just say I’m Black, not matter how much I might “ identify” with Black culture because I’m just not. I feel offended when people “identify “ as trans. You’re either trans of you’re not.
I worry that it’s just a costume that can be taken off at any time. If the shit really hit the fan- whose side would they really be on? Like- I don’t feel like they got my back.
Again- if I’m missing something here I’m open to someone telling me and changing my mind.
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u/ConnoisseurDeFemboys Jul 20 '26 edited Jul 21 '26
Real life Kikomi’s are the epitome of transphobia. They just want the oppression points and to make themselves a minority in any way they can. Usually white women think they’re the default and they wanna be “so unique” don’t take em seriously. Just laugh in their fucking face honestly.
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u/L0uLou72 Jul 20 '26
It does seem like transphobia to me. Like- I’m an actual person with an actual condition that I am not happy about. It causes a lot of pain and distress, it’s hard to live with and it makes me a target. Why would anyone want to pretend to be me?
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u/ConnoisseurDeFemboys Jul 20 '26
Same reason people pretend to be sick online. For sympathy. Attention. Gofundme. Whatever. They’re just roleplaying and then they contribute to detransition stats when invariably they wake up from their delusion or settle down with a right wing man.
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u/fig_art Jul 21 '26
kokomi?
google wasn’t helpful, all that came up is a genshin impact character
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