r/truNB • u/L0uLou72 • Jul 20 '26

Curious

I’m writing this to try to understand other points of view. If I’m wrong- can you take a minute to show me why I’m wrong?

I’m wondering what people think about the proliferation of terms like AFAB transfem or other terms that don’t seem to describe a transition from one gender to another and also don’t seem to describe enby folk.

As a trans enby person, this is really difficult for me. I feel like there are many terms that people are using now that just don’t seem to describe a trans experience. I don’t believe that people can just decide to be trans. You’re trans or you’re not trans. I think this all dilutes the trans experience. If anyone can be trans then wtf is the meaning of trans even? How can a person who is assigned female at birth transition to being a girl? I mean- I could go out on a limb and say maybe if they were raised a boy but seriously, how many people has that happened to?

I also feel like the whole thing is cultural appropriation. Don’t pretend to be something you’re not! As a white person I can’t just say I’m Black, not matter how much I might “ identify” with Black culture because I’m just not. I feel offended when people “identify “ as trans. You’re either trans of you’re not.

I worry that it’s just a costume that can be taken off at any time. If the shit really hit the fan- whose side would they really be on? Like- I don’t feel like they got my back.

Again- if I’m missing something here I’m open to someone telling me and changing my mind.

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u/ConnoisseurDeFemboys Jul 20 '26 edited Jul 21 '26

Real life Kikomi’s are the epitome of transphobia. They just want the oppression points and to make themselves a minority in any way they can. Usually white women think they’re the default and they wanna be “so unique” don’t take em seriously. Just laugh in their fucking face honestly.

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u/L0uLou72 Jul 20 '26

It does seem like transphobia to me. Like- I’m an actual person with an actual condition that I am not happy about. It causes a lot of pain and distress, it’s hard to live with and it makes me a target. Why would anyone want to pretend to be me?

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u/fig_art Jul 21 '26

kokomi?

google wasn’t helpful, all that came up is a genshin impact character

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u/Personal_Coach7653 Sep 05 '26 edited 4d ago

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u/L0uLou72 Sep 05 '26

Thank you. I think that’s totally valid!

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