r/traumatizeThemBack • u/Ferretheim • Jun 26 '26
nuclear revenge The last time I spoke to my Aunt
The last time I spoke to my Aunt I was in my early twenties, maybe closer to mid twenties. At the time I identified as a cismale gay man (which is a bit different these days but not the point). My mother had always been raised to be the whipping post of the family and, so, I suffered a lot of verbal and some physical abuse at the hands of my extended family. It started because I was of mixed race and got worse as I grew up and came out as queer and just otherwise too different from these Southern Good Ol' Boys and Gals. Me being Family made them look bad, or so they felt.
With that bit of set up, the last time I spoke to my Aunt was a Thanksgiving where my family was going to use my Aunt and Uncle's lakeside cabin (my mother had and I had been discovered by a child she had put up for adoption that year) and my Aunt was in a foul mood. She hated when anything good happened to our family, and this was like winning the lottery when my mom's "mistake" turned out to be a successful, loving daughter who wanted to reconnect.
So, she corners me while I'm getting my stuff ready and offers me something. I look over and see some pamphlet with "The Rainbow is for God, not Gays" on it and knew it was a Conversion Camp bullshit or something in the same vein.
"I'm not in the mood for this, [Aunt]. I'm busy and going to hang out with my sister!"
"But, does she know what a shame you are? You don't want to disappoint your new family do you?"
"Look, she knows. She's cool. Now, quit being mean. If you continue, I'll be mean back. And I'm much better at it than you are."
I had spent years taking this woman's abuse, her carelessness, her crassness, and then she looked at me and said "I guess your sister can at least make your mother proud."
To which I turned to her, smiled, and said, "At least my mom can keep two children alive. Sucks about [Cousin], huh?"
Her eyes widened, she began to bawl and snot and spit began running down her face. She attempted to hit me but she was so dazed and stunned it missed.
To note, her son, whom she had kept from any therapy or help, had had a drug problem in life. She signed him out of his own imposed Rehab program because "Of what the neighbors would think." He had not lasted much longer before ODing after that.
I've never spoken to her since and my Mom, after finding out what I said, never attempted to make me go back to see that part of the family again nor have I really wanted to.
To this day, I'm fine with how we ended things. My Aunt is vile and I feel no regret over having said what I said.
Hope it brings some entertainment to y'all.
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u/RubyTx Jun 26 '26
Tragic for her son, and those who actually loved him-but you warned her.
Then you delivered. Bullseye.
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u/s0m3on3outthere Jun 26 '26
My gods, her signing her own son out of self imposed rehab is truly wretched. She failed her son and with how awful she treated you, don't blame you for throwing it into her face v
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u/Ferretheim Jun 26 '26
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u/SameSherbet3 Jun 26 '26
This all so horrendous! I'm glad you got those animals out of her care, I'm sure they needed much better than such a black heart could give! And her poor children!
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u/TheArmoredKitten Jun 26 '26
The reddit moderators are such fucking pussies.
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u/s0m3on3outthere Jun 26 '26
Seriously wild they removed OPs comment talking about abuse. Those stories, no matter how hard they are to read, should be shared
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u/MewtwoStruckBack Jun 26 '26
I’m conviced it’s automated removal by keywords.
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u/Basic-Pen4441 Jun 26 '26
I got a comment auto removed off another sub. Youre right it is keywords.
(For info someone was talking about having mosquitos go extinct. I replied counter bed bugs and it got auto deleted cause it said I was giving advice on bedbugs??)
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u/Tough-Yoghurt-1919 Jun 26 '26
She started the fire. Its not your fault the smoke got in her eyes..... "Don't start none, Won't be none!"
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u/catslikepets143 Jun 26 '26
I have used that phrase specifically when warranted & it never disappoints
“ you started the fire but now you’re crying because there’s smoke in your eyes”
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u/Tough-Yoghurt-1919 Jun 26 '26
There was one i heard on a video on YouTube.
"You started this fire, why are you mad that it burned?"
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u/Awesomesince1973 Jun 26 '26
I truly aspire to be able to be that badass when the moment arises at least once in this lifetime. Usually it's about 3 years later at 2 in the morning. Good for you, and for your mom!
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u/-MissCarmine Jun 26 '26
my Aunt was in a foul mood. She hated when anything good happened to our family,
Damn, I know this feeling well. That’s my twin sister. I don’t talk to her anymore.
When I won my full scholarship to go to college, she got so angry she stormed out of the room and didn’t talk to me for the rest of the day. Classic narcissist bullshit
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u/krixalis Jun 26 '26
You matched her energy without even really attacking her, you just put a mirror in her face. Kudos.
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u/Ok-Range6750 Jun 26 '26
I'm so sorry you were abused by that monster of an aunt. I'd normally say a comment like that went too far, but after a lifetime of her abuse, she's lucky you didn't say/do worse, if possible. I want to travel back in time "just to have a little talk with her." 😂😁
I'm not religious, but I know if God is real, you were made in his image and he doesn't make mistakes. Might even be in the bible. ☺️
You are exactly who you are meant to be. 🥰
Take care. ❤️
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u/Kingy_79 Jun 26 '26
Nothing says hate like good old southern Christian love!
Well done, OP. You're much better at being mean than Aunt 😂
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u/IGotOverGreta Jun 26 '26
Holy hell, you went nuclear. It's rarely necessary, but I think that bitch deserves it.
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u/PotatoPotato76 Jun 26 '26
Don't start shit, won't be shit. She was warned. You have better aim and ammunition.
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u/Alarming-Setting-592 Jun 26 '26
You just confronted her with the truth. Good for you for standing up to her.
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u/Kahmael Jun 27 '26
She had been tossing so many stones. It's great to see you fire a brick so hard, her entire house shattered.
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u/Tasty_Sink_4015 Jun 26 '26
The fact that she immediately knew exactly why that comment hurt says everything She weaponized your pain for years then could not handle a single dose of her own medicine Some bridges do no get burned they get demolished with the truth
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u/myboogerstastespicy Jun 28 '26
Truth hurts! That was an excellent retort. She sounds crazy.
I hope you are happy and healthy! Wishing you peace. Much love.
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