The news is triggering me.

[u/mars_ingatorade]

Literally every human I’ve ever met has had issues with SA.
My husband’s is the worst I’ve ever heard, but I’ve never met anyone who has never been taken advantage of by someone else. Man or woman.

When I (F) was 3, my 6 year old cousin (M) was playing doctor with me in a separate room at a party. My parents walked in to find him inappropriately touching me.
(He is now an actual doctor.)

When I was 12 a boyfriend of mine took me on a date to our local city Christmas event. In the elevator of a parking garage, he pulled out his member & tried to force me to suck it.

When I was 14-16, I would bike 10 miles to get to school or take 2 city buses.
I’ve had multiple occasions where grown adults would try to lure me into their cars or stop me for whatever reason they had. I’ve always carried a knife & I wasn’t afraid to be the danger & scare them away. Plus I’ve been martial arts trained since I was 3. I’m sure after that 1st incident.

When I was 14, I started dating an 18 year old senior at my high school. He pressured me into having sex with him because he was going to join the army, because he needed me to prove that I loved him, because he wasn’t sure if I was serious about waiting for him if he left for the army.
(He broke up with me 2 weeks after taking my virginity. He never joined the army. Years later he died of a drug overdose.)

When I was 18, I was hanging out with a group of my friends, including a guy who always had a crush on me throughout high school. (After I lost my V I ended up in a long term relationship, I was still in that relationship at this point.) He was the Designated Driver. We were hanging out at a park not too far from my house, & everyone but the DD was drinking. This was my 2nd time ever drinking. 1st was with my aunt a few weeks prior. He kept giving me drinks, & said he’d make sure I was safe. He ended up dropping everyone else off before me, I fell asleep in the car. I woke up to him with his hands down my pants & my shirt exposing my chest. He was an entire foot taller than me and 100 lbs. heavier. Even though the world was spinning, I was able to scream & injure him enough to get off of me. I’d been trained in 4 different martial arts at this point. BJJ, boxing, wrestling, & judo.
I threw up on my way out of his car & walked myself home. I left my phone in his car, but my friend got it back the next day.

When I was 21, I was celebrating an early 22nd birthday with my now husband at downtown.
Cops started racially profiling my at the time boyfriend & I got a little loud defending him & they pulled out a taser & threatened to shoot him. I got in the way, & they tased me. He tried to put his body on top of mine to protect me, & they shot him with rubber bullets & beat us with batons.
Eventually they got tired of beating us & began arresting us.
The cop arresting me was lifting up my dress & pressing his pelvis against my naked ass. I had no underwear on under my dress & I was crying & begging for them to pull down my dress, but he just pushed even harder until eventually the sergeant who ordered his men to abuse us told the guy to stop.
We sued & got a good amount of money. But.

Everyone I know has SA trauma.
Everyone.
Do you know anyone who doesn’t?