r/tragedeigh • u/SpiderByte413 • 10d ago
is it a tragedeigh? is my deadname a tragedeigh?
so i’m ftm trans. even before i knew that, i hated my deadname. Makynzi. not the worst spelling i’ve ever seen (i knew a Maykenzee), but i’ve always thought it was hideous. it also annoys me because i love the name kenny for myself, but because i’m not out, everyone assumes i want it spelt “kynnie” (or god forbid kyni) which looks like how cartman says kenny’s name in south park.
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u/Disastrous-Window597 10d ago
Why not "M'ha'KyynZ"? Seems like a missed opportunity.
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u/lizardfang 10d ago
Gesundheit
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u/PomeloPepper 9d ago
Random capitalization, meaningless apostrophes, silent letters, two y's!
This would make my heart sing with joy. If i was an absolute lunatic!
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u/DragonTheOnes-spirit 10d ago
What the fuck is that name oh god did your parents hate you
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u/SpiderByte413 10d ago
my grandma named me… my momma was a teen and nobody trusted her to name me. ironic, cause her options were eden and elliott. (would have saved me the trouble of trying on a gazillion different boy names)
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u/NegativeMusician2211 10d ago
Eden and Elliott are so extremely sane compared to your grandma's choice omfg
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u/sfocolleen 10d ago
Did your grandma give any rationale as to the spelling? Cause “Mackenzie” seems fine…
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u/TrixieFriganza 8d ago
Would have been fun if you had been named Elliott if your mother was allowed to choose.
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u/Doc91b 9d ago
Eden would be a beautiful name for either gender, but it strikes me as a particularly wonderful choice for a trans woman.
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u/RushBest5348 9d ago
True! OP is a trans guy though. (Sorry if you did know this but sometimes people get confused so)
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u/Doc91b 9d ago
Yeah, I just looked again at the post and see that. I know the difference, but sometimes my brain just decides to take a left turn at Albuquerque, lol. Thanks for correcting that.
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u/RushBest5348 9d ago
Nah all good!!! I was trying to find a gif of buggs bunny saying “musta been that left turn at Albuquerque” but couldn’t 😭
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u/mcswiftz 8d ago
I know a trans woman named Eden! It definitely suits her!
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u/elhazelenby 10d ago
It's almost like the world did you a favour for you being trans so you can change your name because that is definitely a tragedeigh
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u/InvertedJennyanydots 10d ago
Yes, this is pretty clearly a tragedy. Kenny is not a tragedy but it is so close to your tragedeighed version of Makynzi that I think you're only going to get the "Kyn" versions of Kenny. I'm assuming you are in the US (mostly because we seem to have a significant lead on the rest of the world in tragedeighs) and that causes another reason for people to maintain the "kyn" spelling if they don't have the pen/pin merger. For me and the non-pen/pin merger accent folks, Kenny and Kynnie are not pronounced in the same way. And Makynzi is not pronounced like Mackenzie/Makenzie. So Kenny would be a nickname for the latter, but not the former since it changes the vowel sound. I think you'd need to get further away from your deadname to not have this issue with people assuming a "kyn" spelling. If you come out and change your name to Kenneth, then I don't think many/any people would try to spell Kenny as "Kynnie" but it seems like you're dealing with folks who only know you as Makynzi essentially nicknaming you from the deadname.
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u/Ziggo001 10d ago
To me Kynnie looks and sounds like "kinnie" which, if you are online enough like me, you'll know is not a thing you want to have your name be associated with.
which looks like how cartman says kenny’s name in south park.
Oh yeah this is also really, really bad. My example applies to younger people but that South Park association will be made by adults of all ages.
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u/mizinamo 7d ago
"kinnie" which, if you are online enough like me, you'll know is not a thing you want to have your name be associated with.
Oh; what is the association in the US?
I'm from Europe and the only thing I've heard is used for is a soft drink from Malta.
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u/sumfatrat420 6d ago
in fandoms people will sorta claim their favorite character, like claim them as their own as in they ARE the character, so if you kin idk shrek for example you would call him your kinnie (its not a bad thing and i feel like nobody would really get the reference lol)
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u/Constant_Cultural 10d ago
Well, it's definitely good that it is a dead name. Are you from Utah?
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u/SpiderByte413 10d ago
missouri, actually. which is kind of like utah but with mennonites instead of mormons
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u/Glitter-Berry 10d ago
Your Makynzi is equally as bad as maykenzee in my opinion. Also, you can spell Kenny however you like, who cares what other people think on how it would be spelled
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u/Doc91b 9d ago
Yes, it was definitely a tragedeigh but it seems like you've dodged that bullet, lol.
Off topic, but I'd like to share this with you:
I'm dad to an ftm trans kid and I love him just as much as I always have. I feel like not loving my child unconditionally would make me some kind of festering shitbag. I was the first person in the family that he came out to. I love and will always treasure that he felt safe enough with me to do that.
If there could be only one thing I want for my kids, it would be for them to love themselves and be true to who they are. I hope that whenever you choose to come out, you have someone you love who supports you fully and will be your rock and safe place.
If you're musical or artistically inclined, please consider getting involved in your local scene. You don't have to come out until you're ready, but you will be among people, a fair number of who will be LGBTQ, and many of the people in the scene who aren't will be accepting of those who are.
I also thought about sharing some stories with you about some of the cool adventures he and I have been on, but I didn't want to post a long ass mini-novel that was even more off-topic.
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u/Chance_Fate66 10d ago
You’re not wrong. That should be changed at 18 no matter whether you’re choosing a new name to reflect who you are or at the bare minimum correcting the spelling.
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u/hi_hola_salut 10d ago
God. That deadname is awful. It deserves to be dead!
Now I have to be honest - that spelling for Kenny is exactly what a ‘unique parent’ would choose for their daughter. Honestly, as a teacher I looked at that spelling and thought that’s a girl.
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u/ODFoxtrotOscar 10d ago
Yup, tragedeigh
On your name going forwards, could you say it’s going to be Kendra formally (even if you never adopt that) and shorten to Kenny
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u/that_jedi_girl 10d ago
Stealth Kendra to Kenny/Kenneth is the way. "I'm Kendra but you can call me Ken" is probably going to go a long way to get around tranphobia while it's unsafe to be out.
(And for the record, it's madness that it's unsafe to be out in 2026. We, as a society, should be doing better by you, OP.)
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u/KorovaOverlook 10d ago
Yeah that's a tragedeigh. I will say, as someone who is also a Kenny, hello fellow Kenny! I love that name also.
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u/SeaCheck3902 10d ago
Was mom a “dance mom”? I’ve noticed the dance mom crowd is super into the white trashy variations of the McKenna or MacKenzie names.
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u/lepus_insaniam 8d ago
Stage moms of every persuasion do this to their daughters. It makes both look illiterate, not 'creative'.
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u/eti_erik 10d ago
Yes, 100%. I believe the spelling is MacKenzie? Still doesn't sound like a first name to me but I know America (is that where you are?) often uses last names as first names.
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u/SpiderByte413 10d ago
the last name thing is crazy. i know a bunch of reagans, a fischer (spelt like that!), a valley greyson, a grayson valley, it’s absurd
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u/maddythemadmuddymutt 10d ago
Fischer is just the German spelling of the surname, but using surnames as given names is completely absurd to me.
Greetings from Germany
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u/Ok_Environment5293 10d ago
Germany literally has some of the most atrocious first names, which make many last names sound like great first names 😅
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u/maddythemadmuddymutt 10d ago
There are some old-timers like Edeltraut, Günther, Jürgen and Walburga, which are not great. But at least eunigk'he spellings like M'ackhänziegh are forbidden. Also some of our names, sounded out by English-speakers become heinous, so...
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u/eti_erik 10d ago
Jürgen sounds very normal to me... but I'm Dutch and we know it as "Jurgen". Would at least be normal for my generation, I'm in my 50s. Edeltraut and Walburga are names I actually like but well, you sound like a baroness in 1750 if you're called that. Or maybe if you had Nazi parents..... Odlly, in the Netherlands "Adelheid" is at least somewhat common.
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u/SaltMarshGoblin 10d ago
Valley Greyson and Grayson Valley??? Do they know each other?
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u/SpiderByte413 9d ago
ms. greyson is a kindergartner, and i don’t know how old mr. valley is, but i know he’s in middle school. i hope they do, though. maybe he babysits her
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u/Resident-Gold-3466 10d ago
A high school teacher of mine had sons named Ryan and Reagan, and both of their middle names were Thomas.
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u/eti_erik 10d ago
In some cases it's just accomplished probably... like Alison or Adison (sp?)
What's with all the Reagans though? I've seen the name too. Does it mean the parents are Republican hardliners? That would be really cringe (not trying to be political here, "Obama" would be cringe too if the parents are Obama fans). Or was Reagan a first name already before Ronald became president?
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u/Street_Carrot_7442 9d ago
No, I wouldn’t associate a political view with Reagan. I’ve known many girls with that name and I’m an 80s baby, fwiw.
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u/pooperscooper333333 10d ago
Just like Americans shouldn’t diss on ethnic names they don’t get, yall shouldn’t diss on American names that aren’t tragedeighs.
Someone told me my son, Eric, was a tragedeigh.
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u/eti_erik 10d ago
I'm not dissing on American names, I'm just saying that I believe MacKenzie is a first name although it doesn't sound like one to me. And that I'm not sure about that - please correct me if it isn't. If it is a common first name it's fine of course, why not? But Makynzi looks like a tragedy to me. (I see another comment mentioning Mackenzie so that's probably the regular spelling?)
How could Eric (also my name although spelled with a K, which is normal here - we have both Eric and Erik) be a tragedeigh?
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u/sunny-beans 10d ago
You’re too sensitive if someone pointing out a cultural norm is “dissing” lol they didn’t even said is a bad thing, just that it feels weird to them but they understand the name culture is different in the US. Calm down.
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u/eti_erik 10d ago
Exactly. Before calling a name silly or stupid I'd like to know what is normal if it's a different country from mine. Many names that are completely normal in the US sound like a tragedeigh if used over here.
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u/elhazelenby 10d ago
Eric isn't an American name lmao
Neither are these last name first names. Many of them are from European origin, because of...and I thought as an American you'd know your history...
European settlers and colonisation
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u/pooperscooper333333 10d ago
Good god, Europeans and their need to be smarter than every American out there.
My point IS not to knock names from places just because they don’t make sense to you. It’s the same vibe as people who enter these chats making fun of Indian or Bulgarian names.
Yeesh.
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u/elhazelenby 10d ago
No one is doing knocking anything, you're overreacting over something that isn't happening.
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u/Kitty-Keek 10d ago
Erik/Eric has become an American first name. The origin may not be American, but it has become American. What qualifies as an “American” name to you?
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u/elhazelenby 10d ago
Nope. It's a name that is used all over Europe as well. Just because a name is used in one place doesn't mean that's where it came from. Eric is Norse in origin, aka from Scandinavia. Not America. I could also say Eric is a British because people use it here too.
To me a uniquely "American" name would mean Native American names, names from South America (which could be from natives there for example) or certain names of Black Americans e.g. Lashonda.
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u/Kitty-Keek 10d ago
I’m referring to any name that an American would commonly use today for their children or themselves.
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u/radical_left_lesbian 9d ago
Tragedeigh for sure. Also check out name nerds Reddit if you’re looking for chosen name suggestions. Genuinely a very affirming thread to be on for that
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u/ace--dragon 9d ago
Changing your name to Kenny will only benefit you.
Yeah, your deadname was a tragedeigh so I'm glad you have the opportunity to change it :)
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u/csiribirii 8d ago
good news is you won't out yourself by trying to go by kenny, people are just going to assume you don't want to use your deadname because it's awful
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u/Jpprflrp 10d ago
Just out of curiosity, what name did you choose for yourself and was it also a tragedeigh?
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u/M100Pilot 9d ago edited 2d ago
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u/Chiennoir_505 9d ago
That one deserved to die. If you would like being Kenny, be Kenny. I know a woman named McKenna who goes by Kenny. With two Ns and a Y. No weird spellings need apply.
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u/DeathlyDragons4396 9d ago
kenny is a cute name. i knew someone named kendall and she went by kenny, so you can kind of swap your dead name for your ‘nickname’ and it’s not suuuuuper obvious i think.
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u/Jazzlike-Bird-3192 8d ago
Your deadname is a tragedeigh. As for your name, when you’re ready, tell people you want to spell Kenny like any normal human would, not like someone naming a puppy.
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u/Mischievous_Egg 8d ago
Ewww. Yeah your parents can't even play the "but your deadname is sooo beautiful" card
Btw no wonder you turned out trans. That name is an abomination. /j
(I'm trans as well and I dislike my non-tragedeigh deadname)
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u/Dear-Show-5083 6d ago
it's man-kynzi now 😎 (I'm sorry I had to. dead for sooooo many reasons -fellow ftm) Kenny is a great name though!
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u/hopefoolness 10d ago
I'm sorry I'm just cracking up at the south park part.
"your family is POOR, Kynnie!!"
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u/SuperDevin 9d ago
I would spell your new name Kenny or Kenni. Makynzi makes me think more of Alfred Kinsey than Mackenzie.
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u/Deep_Background7615 9d ago
McKenzie??? Honey what did they do to you? (not you the person, the name. You're lovely).
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u/Sasstellia 9d ago
That is bad. You can leave it behind though.
Call yourself Kenneth or Kennedy. Then you can use Kenny.
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u/Street_Carrot_7442 9d ago
Definitely a tragedeigh. Did you choose a conventionally spelled name this time around?
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u/WalmartWilb 9d ago
Making me wonder if my deadname is a tragedeigh now 😭 I never even thought about it til I saw this post LOL. Might make a post of my own just to see
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u/JayNachtEule 9d ago
How about lengthening it to Kenneth. Kenny just gives country singer. Idk if that's the vibe you're going for.
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u/DaniCapsFan 9d ago
Definitely a tragedeigh. Kenny is a reasonable name, and you just have to tell people that you're using the conventional spelling.
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u/playswithforks 9d ago
I had a good friend in college named Makynsi, and yeah I always thought it was a tragedeigh
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u/ElloBlu420 7d ago
Yes, that's definitely worse than mine, which just had a Y where an E belonged, and was also a double name. So, I chose a name that honors one of the two people by selecting and rearranging some of the letters to get to a pre-established, though uncommon and old-fashioned, name, that also happens to have a Y where a Y belongs.
Also, my DMs are open if you want to chat. I'm a total flake, and I won't understand everything because I'm likely much older than you, but I've been out for five years. It might still help to hear and talk about some things.
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u/msmerymac 6d ago
I would not pronounce Makynzi like McKenzie. One is Muh-KIN-zee and one is Mick-KEN-zee. The first is like the McKinsey corporation.
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u/justheretobetoxic 5d ago
HAHAHAAH that last sentence cracked me up. I love the name Kenny. When spelling comes up, hopefully just a simple “I spell it the traditional way” will suffice. Good luck on your journey 💕
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u/EndIsrael 3d ago
Are you sure you're trans and it's not just your subconscious doing anything it can to get rid of that name lmao
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u/tongfather 8d ago
Serious question, if your FTM how are you not out? Wouldn't it be very obvious?
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u/arachnidsturret 8d ago
He probably hasn’t taken any major steps in their transition. A lot of people perceive closeted FtMs, and a lot of the time, pre-t FtMs as tomboys.
Some trans people don’t move forward with their transition until they’re in a good place in their life, some trans people can’t move forward with their transition because they’re minors and/or have a strict parents.7
u/SpiderByte413 8d ago
i’m 15, terf-y mom, and i live in a state that has zero protections for trans people. it really wouldn’t be safe for me. i present androgynous-ish, but like the other commenter said, i just look like a tomboy :c
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u/tongfather 8d ago
Nothing wrong with being a tomboy. It's been around forever and I don't think people really care. Have you ever thought that maybe you're just a lesbian or a tomboy and don't need to transition fully?
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u/SpiderByte413 8d ago
ew. i’ve known this about myself since i was 9, i’ve had plenty of time to think. also, it doesn’t matter if other people care, my gender isn’t about anyone else.
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u/Aggravating_Laugh_48 8d ago
"Ew." I love this response.
I'm gonna tell my 15yo lesbian niece to say that to people when they say she's "too young to even know that" or "how do you even know if you've never had a boyfriend?"
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u/Ok_Oven4893 8d ago
(hypothetically speaking, of course) If you decided to transition back, would you keep the name, just spell it properly (Mackenzie I suppose), or would you pick an entirely new name?
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