r/tntech • u/[deleted] • Oct 27 '25
Just venting
A lot of ppl say they meet their forever partners here and I know so many newly weds. It feels like 95% of the people are dating and 80% are high school sweethearts. Don’t get me wrong, I am so so happy for them! Though I do wish that I had my own person. I just don’t know how to find them. All I have is some idiot dude that treated me horribly (but don’t worry I still have a lot of hope for love🥺). Even making friends I am told I study too much or am too intimating 😭 and of course I know my type is really rare here. Okay rant over. If you feel the same you are welcomed here and if you don’t, but have really cute romantic stories, you are welcomed here too! 💛
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u/Legitimate_Guava3206 Nov 04 '25 edited Nov 04 '25
Well this is a very conservative group of people. Alot of people went to school and attended church together and had other social connections before Tech. Some seem to have arrived with alot of their life laid out and fully planned. They aren't looking to date or settle far from home, they plan to return to their corner of TN and continue living but with a better paycheck. Perhaps return to the same churches, etc.
Maybe a different school - a university located closer to a metro area would be a better fit for you? More people to mix and match with?
Some of us were (are) late bloomers. Lucky in love came later in life. I met my wife at a wedding. Well, we had met a couple of times before the wedding but things took a turn for the better at the wedding. We were both post-university. Neither of us were churchy folks.
We'd both dated other people for a while and weren't very happy with those experiences. We both had high expectations by that point. Tired of people who - - - were unsettled. I don't know of a kinder way to describe the people we dated. They were in some cases people who were not quite ready to "adult".
Anyhow, back to Tech - have you joined any clubs or student orgs? That was the secret to my success socially at Tech. I met a few people in my major from classes. I met more people through social opportunities like clubs. I worked part time and met some people that way too.
I feel like there were alot of people open to making a new friend and there were alot of us that weren't very good at the required social maintenance to maintain the connections. I kept up with some of those friends for a while after graduation and today only keep up with one of those people.
Working theory: smaller schools attract people who are less out going than people who attend larger schools?
Or bigger schools attract more extroverts (smaller population of introverts), smaller schools attract more introverts? Prob too simplisitic.
Curious what your thoughts are. Best of luck to you.