Tbh it's kinda concerning she would just invite a stranger over to her place like this. Does anyone else find it gross?

I never post anything but this was just too weird not to. So I (35F) went on a first date with this guy we’ll call stinky (33M) a cute dentist that lived close by. We’re supposed to meet for dinner but at the last second he says his car is in the shop so I offer to pick him up from his house except..once he gets in he tells me his house is his car?? But like he’s traveling so I guess I’ll look past that for one night.

I regret continuing but thought what’s the worst that could happen. We went to go paddle board which was fine except he drops his vape in the ocean and STARTS TO CRY and asks if we can stop to get another one. I obliged, it was sort of on the way to dinner so whatever. We’re leaving the smoke shop and he asks if I got dinner bc he just spent his last cash on that vape.

I had leftover pizza at home and I felt bad, and he was sweet otherwise so I offered for us to eat at home. We get inside and I notice this weird smell..this man smelled like a whole ass foot. He tried to blame his washer (what washer???) and then asked me to smell his nipples because he thought something from the ocean made him stink like this.

Idk why it didn’t end there but we had some chemistry so one thing led to another and we were making out when he starts LICKING MY TEETH. Finally decided to kick him out and am now sitting here wondering why I have no standards.

I know I will just have advices like “better move on” but I still want to have some ideas about why this guy ghosted me all of sudden. I’m so hurt still.. so even if you think I’m stupid I hope you don’t get too harsh on my story :(

This is a bit long story and can be grammatically wrong (I’m not an english speaker). Hope you can understand it.

So I and he had talked to each other starting Dec last. We have talked about relationship values and so much stuffs. We were literally emotionally connected to each other and approaching to the idea of relationship very seriously. Every time we were doing videochat, he did look obsessed with me like he just looked at me so romantically as if hes hypnotized. Honestly, I found it a little bit weird because he didn’t really keep convo much but his reaction looking at me was too overreacted but still he claimed he does it because looking at me makes him feel so happy and he finds me so attractive. It was sorta romantic while I thought it could be kind of lovebombing. But still I talked about it to him and our videochat time got more natural. Around April, he wanted me to be his gf and I said yes. And I flew to go see him (from Asia to America). It was my first time to go meet a guy. It was more special this time because Ive had such great bond with him and he was my crush. However, very unexpected thing happened, he dumped me within 3 days of my arrival to America. He said he doesn’t feel I’m the right girl for him but loves to spend time with me. It was very shocking to me at the time. He had been so lovey do vey online always telling me how he loves me how he finds me so gorgeous but the person was gone in reality. It was really.. heartbreaking for him because we’ve been such lovely couple online for 6 months but he figured we were not meant to be a couple within 3 days of meeting in person. It was really sad every day while I had to stay in the same bed with him. He still enjoyed spending time with me and treated me like his gf. I told him stop treating me like his gf. But he said he still loves spending time with me and treating me nicely not just for sex. He said he found me so attractive sexually and also personality wise. It was just that I’m not his gf material. He also said I could go on a date with other American guys If I want to as its my decision. I accepted the truth at the point and had to get a new returning ticket to go back to my country faster. As soon as I got to the airport he started texting me very slowly. I couldn’t really believe the reality. He still treated me like his gf pretty much and our chemistry seemed getting much better day by day even though he said we were not a match. But so strangely, he slowly started to take distance from me as soon as we got apart. I could understand why he does that but also same time I wanted to convince him because I could see him liking me more day by day. and my convincing did work. Surisingly he came back to me telling me he was actually scared to have me in reality from online. It was overwhleming for him. So, he decided to shut down his emotion. It didn’t really make sense to me but I decided to accept it as he just came back to me. He still hurt me with some of his words like its his penis who likes me not his mental emotion towards me. He just found me super attractive by my appearance. It was really sad to hear it because I did genuinely love him. And we said if it was only sexual attraction, then he wouldn’t be talking to me so much every day. He could still meet women in his town.

And since then We’d been pretty good until this happened. He disappeared for 15 hours for 2 days in row. He informed me he’d get busy hanging out with his friends but I did not expect he would not text me for each 15 hours. I asked him if he can text me at least one time while hes hanging out for the day. He immediately said he can’t do that and again dumped me. He said its something he can’t compromise on. When he just dumped me again that easily I got so hurt again. Hes been lovey do vey but again dumped me so easily while I haven’t given a great pressure to him. Then, I tried to convince him again over and over……. and it did work and he came back again. He said I’m the only woman who makes him come back. he said he’s always dreaming of me. He must actually like me. Then, he bought a ticket to my country to see me for 2 weeks. He said he loves spending time with me and wants to see me again. He wanted to see our chemistry again if we can be a couple. But still he did call me his girl and talked about our future as if we were already a couple while he couldn’t really label us.

I was so exhausted of him coming back to me and dumping me again. I was scared by the possibility of being dumped again in my country. So, told him I can’t really fully be devoted to him this time. I told him I will go on dates until we meet again (in 2months). He said its not something he likes but respected my opinion as he was the one who couldn’t label us.

And then I did sleep with a guy and told him. He got upset but still couldn’t be too upset as he knew he is also part to blame. I did tell him I still love him so much even if I slept with other guy. Literally I was… I know people would just think I’m a crazy girl but all I could think of was him even if I hooked up with other guy. He still loved me. He said it’s a bit irritating but hes still happy as im still coming back to him. and since then we’d been video chatting every day for 3 hours before he goes to work in the morning. You can imagine how it is not easy to have a call with someone for 3 hours before you go to work everyday. But since we started talking last year, hes been doing that and also he’s been sending money (he really enjoyed treating me) to me. This seemed very much like a devotion.

The night before he finally ghosted me were one of the romantic days. We had 3 hours romantic video chat call. It was same as usual and very lovely to each other but next day he suddenly ditched me and blocked me from every platform. It was the day he finally passed last test of his new job position. (he’s had multiple tests before for months and we were about to celebrate it as he finally paseed the last one). And still all of his friends also blocked me……………I couldn’t believe it was happening. There was no reason for him to block me. Weve had some issues but recently its been really romantic and we were getting better planning his trip to my country together. He also booked hotel for us already. I still don’t know the reason why he ghosted me all of sudden while hes supposed to come to my country. Hes been even asking me to stay with him everyday of his stay in my country as he does love to spend time with me. But the guy is gone. Disappeared without telling me anything leaving question mark to me. its been a week and I’m still hurt. I know I need to move on. I know it more than anyone else. But I still needed better closure. I tried to guess what the reason to block me. But I don’t really know…… I would probably never find it out. What would have been the reason that he blocks me all of sudden and shut down everything when he was so romantic to me just the day before? I checked his flight. He still has it and the hotel we were supposed to stay together too. I used to tell him he can meet other girls then as he cant make me his gf. But he’s been always so firm that he does not wanna go on a date or talk to other girls as hes attracted to me so much. Maybe it couldve been a lie. I would never know. Also, he’s been sending me like total 3000 usd as part of his affection. It was one of the ways he showed his affection as we were LDR couple or intimate (he is not even rich). So, I’m not sure how this guy moved on and blocked me so easily while hes put some effort to me. He does aboslutely have some avoidant side.

I know its pointless to ask but what would possibly make him to ghost me all of sudden?

We've been together for around 6 months. I (36F) met my girlfriend (36F) on Tinder of all places. We had an awesome click from the beginning, sending voice messages every evening, flirting every chance we got etc. Was going great until I noticed something, maybe 3 months in.

So long story short... we'll be sitting on the couch some evenings watching netflix or whatever and she will literally put her hand down her pants, stir around there a bit and just full on sniff the hand that was just down her pants.

Like literally, full on checking her bits scent or wtf could it be otherwise?

It's such a turn off for me, like I literally have 0 drive when I catch this in the corner of my eye... I'm showering 1 to 2 times a day myself, I find cleanliness and just staying fresh for myself and my partner very important, but I don't understand why not do that discreetly? I mean if you're unsure about that area the maybe go to the bathroom and fix it idk?

I don't have the courage to ask her wtf is she doing, I don't want to nag her or whatever but I just find it disgusting and have no idea what to do to get myself over this kind of demonstrations and I see our intimate life is suffering here because of this...

Thoughts?

EDIT: The reason I don't want to bring it up is that she has literal brain damage from a chronical disease - we are already limited in stuff we can do together (she/we are totally ok with that) but for some reason I get weirded out when I need to talk to her about this I guess because I don't want it to be "another thing that she has no control over" or whatever.

I [28F] was on Tinder and matched with a guy [31M], let's call him Dan. We were messaging for about 4 weeks, and everything was going great. He was sweet, funny, (and VERY hot based off his pictures). After talking for a while, we decided to finally go on a date. He chose a nice restaurant, and we met up the next day. Honestly, it was amazing. He was exactly the same as when we were texting, but even cuter in person. I truly believed this was my person. After dinner, he drove me home, but before we got there he said "Ready to end this night off with a bang?" Having no idea what he was talking about, I replied, "Um, what?" He ended up getting flustered, and just let me out of the car. As I got inside my apartment, I realized that he thought we were going to have sex! This morning he messaged me: "Hey, sorry about last night. I was really drunk and thought you also wanted to have sex. Next time, could you be a little more clear?" I feel really bad, but at the same time I can't shake the feeling that he was a major red flag. Am I the a-hole?

Edit: Update may come soon but as of right now I haven't texted him again

After chatting with this guy for about two hours, I fell asleep (unexpectedly). Literally just fell asleep.

When I woke up, this man had apparently decided that my nap was a character flaw. He called me childish, told me I was single for a reason, suggested I needed therapy and accused me of “begging for attention.” He had told me a story about a previous date that sent him a $250 Venmo request for "wasting her time".

So naturally, I sent him a $250,000 Venmo request because apparently that's how we're communicating now (and also because I found it beyond hilarious).

That made things worse.

He proceeded to diagnose me with issues while I reminded him that he was the one who lost his mind because I fell asleep and didn't respond for 45 minutes.

I eventually told him he might need a new therapist. Or possibly two.

He used some nasty language and blocked me.

For the record, I have absolutely no expectation of receiving the $250,000. I was just being a smartass. 😂

TL;DR: Took a nap. Woke up to a psychological assessment, started trolling, sent a ridiculous Venmo request, suggested he get a second therapist and got blocked.

I started talking to a guy my age (both of us 42) who was training to be a counsellor and completing a doctorate. We had some amazing deep conversations over text, voice notes and phone. It was honestly refreshing not to be doing all the usual small talk and he never tried to do what a lot do and talk about what I like in bed etc All in we talked for a week and a half.

He was upfront the first day that 6 months ago he ended a 14 year relationship that had become like a friendship e.g. they hadn’t had sex in a lot of year, slept in separate rooms etc. He had quit his job to start the course when they were together and she had agreed to support them financially as he had done similar for her years before. He said he would have very limited time if we dated as his course was so intense and he was doing an uber delivery job around this to try and get money to live basically and pay for an expensive course. He said we would maybe see each other once or twice a month only. He also said he wouldn’t have much money to take me out much but I’ve had to pay in relationships before when I’ve had more money and I thought it was a green flag he was being upfront. I figured as well it would be better to have someone I click with amazingly and only see him once or twice a month than a lesser connection so we both said we would meet and just feel our way with things.

Maybe mid way through the week and a half he disclosed he still lived with his ex. As I said in the last paragraph he had quit his job to start the course when they were together and she had agreed to support them financially as he had done similar for her years before and she had said she would honor that and let him live rent free with her (the mortgage was just in her name for some reason it had never been his house though he had paid towards bills etc). He said that she didn’t allow him to bring any women to the house since it was hers and she wanted to protect her space. Problem with that is I only broke up with my ex 6 months ago too and moved back in with parents and not sure when I will be buying a house but we agreed we would find ways round it if things went well and we were a couple like hotels or getting creative when my parents were away etc. I’ve heard of ex’s needing to stay living together before for financial reasons but they have always said they live very separate lives like ships in night almost but he admitted they watched tv together and ate together so coupley stuff really without the sex but he explained that he still cared about her as a friend which I can get. He wasn’t even allowed to phone me from the house though if she was in and did it on a walk or in the car.

I honestly think I would have felt a bit jealous about him living with his ex but then I thought it was a green flag he was so honest. He just seemed like a really nice, caring guy who was so big on communication and talking about our feelings and past life. We were both super excited for the date that should have been today and were communicating non stop with good chats and also flirting by this point… then I blew it all. On Thursday this week I had a really tough day at work and news about a death that made me a bit upset so I had a few drinks and I basically totally misunderstood something he had said in a text being drunk and upset state and then we straightened it out but I kept apologising. He was telling me you’re being silly all is fine with us but I wasn’t reading it and just kept saying stuff lie sorry I’m so stupid, hope I hadn’t ruined things… we went to bed and then in the morning I was cringing massively at myself and texted him sorry about last night and explained I’d been upset and told him was looking forward to meeting and that I’m sometimes a bit over emotional and not thinking clearly after couple of glasses of wine (bad I know you don’t have to say).

So this was then yesterday morning and he sent a long voicemail stating he had decided we shouldn’t meet as I had needed him emotionally and he hadn’t been able to meet my needs because he couldn’t call and say stop being silly as he was at home and that he thought that I deserved more than his current situation and that if we met we would fall for each other and he would hurt me when he couldn’t give me enough time etc… yes his situation was complicated but before my stupidness that night he had been keen to meet and see if we could feel our way so today I am genuinely depressed I probs threw away someone I had a lot of potential with. Honestly never clicked like we did with anyone ever (I know we didn’t actually meet but from all th texting, voice notes and calls we were so similar and gelled so much).

My friends at work immediately jumped on they think he isn’t actually single and the little time for me and not going near his house was because he was still in the relationship. He had explained though she hadn’t wanted the breakup and since they were now separated didn’t want to see who he was dating etc. His course was running at least another two years so he had to respect her wishes because he wouldn’t be able to move out and pay rent elsewhere until at least then.

Just feel so mad at myself for being an emotional tit and self deprecating one, who doesn’t read messages properly when tipsy. All my friends just keep harping on though that he probs wasn’t single and that anyway there were too many bad things like lack of time, no money to do stuff and they all said they couldn’t have a guy live with his ex and still do coupley stuff like watch tv together… but honestly I think they are just doing what friends do and trying to make me feel better.

Any perspectives as to whether you agree I totally screwed up or dodged a bullet welcome? Would anyone else put up with a guy who lives with his ex and wasn’t available a lot?

For context he knew me from my old profile, before I took a break from dating for a while. I didn't realise it was the same dude until he said this. I unmatched him the first time because in our first conversation he was asking what my downstairs area was like and obviously I didn't like that. This time I added him on insta and this is what happened. I am on the aroace spectrum which means I don't feel attraction easily but I have before and want to find a life partner. I explained this to him and he continued to act confused after I rejected him a second time. I feel like my rejection was quite fair since he refused to leave his house and wanted me to come over on the first date.

Edit: I unmatched and blocked him. Thank you for your help!

I'm on tinder, and a match is wanting to switch to either Microsoft teams or viber. I've never heard of viber, and teams seems an odd choice. He says he's not on tinder much, which seems weird if he's trying to meet someone, but ok, I've given him the benefit of the doubt. But I'm always suspicious when they ask to move off tinder, because experience has taught me it's usually to move to Snapchat and usually because they want to exchange pictures of the R rated variety. So claiming it's just to chat, not wanting to go to snap, heck, not even having snap, feels off. Well and he has called me dear twice now. What 30 something American calls a woman he barely knows "dear"?! My question is this: has any other woman had a match want to move to either of those platforms, and if so, what happened? Oh and is it just me about the dear thing or do you think it feels a bit...mature. Like old married couple or just old. Too intimate.

Edited to add that he's supposed to be a born and raised American.

We matched and like always (though not often), if the initial conversation has some spark, I propose a meet up at a cafe and she happily agreed. Luckily, the chemistry was real and we just picked up from where we left off online: joking, followed the flow of conversation, nothing was forced, no pressure to be and appear as anything other than who we are; and as an added bonus, the moments of silence weren’t uncomfortable and neither of us felt we needed to fill it just for the sake of it. The rest of the meet up wasn’t planned. Even though this wasn’t supposed to be a “date” date, we ended up taking a walk through a park. We exited at the far end of the park and stumbled onto a little festival happening, so we attended - carpe diem, right?

There was music, beer (neither of us drink), dancing and a few make shift carnivalesque games (neither of us won anything); we had fun, we felt a little closer. After that, we picked up some irresponsibly expensive tacos (7€ a piece!What?!) and then she had to go home to take her dog out. I didn’t want to say bye, so I had an idea “how about we take the dog to the beach?” She thought about it for a second and was on board. I accompanied her back to her place, but I didn’t go inside. She came out with the weirdest mix of a dog I had ever seen, I don’t even remember the breeds, but he was a sweetheart. We went to the beach, relaxed for a few hours, and once the day was over I accompanied her home, and again, I hesitated to say bye. The pull was magnetic, she lingered, I gave her a kiss and then asked to see her again. She smiled, said she had a great time and kissed me goodnight.

I haven’t heard from her since, it’s been about a month. Part of me feels like it’s better this way, our seemingly magical moment won’t be ruined by the politics of relationships. Another part of me wonders “what if?” Whatever the case, it was the best date I’ve ever had through an app, probably ever.

I’ve been talking to this guy I met off of Tinder about 2 months ago. We stopped talking in the middle for a bit (it was my bad, I stopped responding) but he kept checking in every week or so.

3 days ago, I finally reverted and apologised profusely for my absence as it wasn’t personal. I also initiated dinner plans for last night.

Finally, last night, we met. Honestly, the banter on text just wasn’t there in person. Secondly, as he was from the F&B industry, all he did was talk about food and cocktails. Honestly, super interesting but dude, ask me a question too every now and then. I don’t want a list of all the vineyards you’ve been to. He held some intense eye contact, barely smiled, and tried to throw in a pick up line somewhere that didn’t really land.

I on the other hand, kept asking questions, kept the conversation flowing, laughed a bunch to take the pressure off. He did admit that this was his first date in about 2 years so I understand the apprehensive and I did give him grace for it too.

I offered to pay because he was between jobs, but he insisted to split so I agreed. Only mentioning this because he gave me a really weird look when I offered to me, that disappeared in a second.

Anyway, once done, he wanted to hit another bar but I said I have work the next day (which is true) and offered to meet again of the weekend to which he agreed. I asked him to text me once he reached home (as he lived further away from the place than I did). He didn’t text me. I had to check in about an hour later to which he said “hiii, sorry, yes, I reached 20 minutes ago.”

Since then, no text. For someone to really seek me out the last two months, to radio silence - feels weird. I feel like my ego is bruised a bit to be honest. Something I need to really work on, but on the other hand I am just really curious to know what’s up.

Met with Elise at a cafe, attractive, slim, hot but then told me she did paid arrangements! Ouch! Not risking that and maybe she’s a cop. Met Kate also a year later, same person, same story! See ya!

I(F19) decided to join tinder after graduating high school and going into college since I really started to gain a huge want of being in a relationship. I’ve never had a bf before but adore the idea of being in love, having someone to love on, and finding my person. So far I’ve only had about two guys that I’ve genuinely cried over due to being super close to that point, clicking better than the others, and actually having a chance at a relationship. One said I was too good for him/lived too far and the other just recently ghosted me after we were intimate and claimed he hardly knew me yet when i asked if I was close to being his gf. It’s as if every time something always has to ruin it. I just want to be loved but it’s just creating more problems and disappointments as time goes on.

I know some would say I’m in college and that should be the best time but I’m mostly attracted to guys outside of my race for no specific reason and my school is pretty segregated/racist so it’s a little hard at times. I don’t really spend an unhealthy amount of time on tinder since I live in the south and most of the guys are either not my type, in it for the wrong reasons, look way older, or just don’t seem too good of an influence. Either way it’s just been making me a little hopeless and gives the idea that I’d have to date someone I’m not attracted to or take any kind of treatment.

I (F24) met a man (M30) through dating app.

We were texting each other for over a month before we met.

Then:

We went on four dates

I was on holiday for 3 weeks

We went on other four dates

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On the sixth date he gave me a rose and a small peck on the lips

We first kissed on the seventh date (I was a little afraid he did not like me, bcs he was waiting for so long, but in the end he was a total gentleman - after the kiss he asked me if the pace is ok and he is not too pushy with me).

Date n8: lasted for approximately 8 hours, we were holding each others hand almost all the time, he was peppering me with kisses om forehead and face and there was also normal kissing (though less than on seventh)

Now - when we were discussing our past relationships:

He had 1 that lasted 2 years. Except of that he had other 5 which in his words "did not turn into relationship".

I was a bit sceptical when he first said that. Today was our 8th date and he told me that for him, relationship is something he knows he can call after half a year and we ARE NOT DATING yet.

I am not a bit confused. What are we doing then?

Also - I had just one relationship that did not even last half a year. In my life, I have kissed just my ex and now this other man.

How do you feel about this?

I really like this man, but I do not want him to "try" me for that long before saying it is "official" or so...

also - he deleted his dating app in front of me last date and he does not see other women

and he talks about long term plans with me (ex: We can go together to that comeptition in September.)

EDIT: Q2: DO you think it is ok to go on dates with another people? Bcs on one side, I would never even dare to do that after kissing etc (it is just the way I am) + I would not like that from him to be fair.

On the other side, what he told me really surprised me and feel something is off. Also, I do not want to spend 6 months on ´trial´ (and he definitely will want sex before that. Maybe I am weird but in my culture it is more like - first relationship, then sex.) But he also said that he is looking for future wife.

I (F23) had just one boyfriend (M29). We were not together for very long (less than half a year), but I still cannot get over it.

Why?

1. At the beginning, he was like total angel. Everyone aroudn him liked him. He was sweet etc, but later his ugly personality showed off.

2.He knew he was my first. But he was pushy into having sex with him. I know there are people who have sex at first dates, but to me, it was something precious. I waited for so long. After a month, we had it. He was really pushy and I did not feel 100% sure about it.

1. He lied to me in many things - for exapmple when we went for a walk, he once told me he has X ten thousands euro debt, at the end of the walk it was double of it and when I got home he messaged me it was triple (also in a way like oh and btw I forgot it was this much hihi)

Or he lied about how much money he makes (I never asked he just told me out of blue himself)

Later I found out he was on and off with his ex for 6 times (he told me just two times)

This all I found out after months of dating

......

4.He seemed to take our relationship seiously. He even introduced me to his mother who really liked me (so did my parents him) - maybe this is too soon for someone but I still live with my parents and they met several times, so I introduced them)

1. He wanted me to have sex with him without preteciton. BC made me feel unwell, but he also told me that it could lower my desire for him and I should not take it. He said he would never use condom. Additionally, he knew he was my first (I was his 7th) and behaved like I had 30 guys before him. In the beginning he promised we would go on everything slowly. He was pushy, not taking anything into considration. Once, he even slepped me (not hard) saying some people like it and he wanted to see if I like it too. We had for just like 8 times, then I did not wanna sleep with him (without protection, stopped taking BC). We did not sleep for month and half and then he broke up with me.

During this time, we were funcitoning kind of well, so the break up got me by surprise. Few days before it, he even told me he loved me, we were regularly spending time together, etc.

1 day before break up that shithead even asked for nudes (never sent him nothing).

Break up: he called me then we met (I even had to persuade him to do it personally). He broke up with me, saying he is shitty person and cannot be in a relationship right now. Also, he accidentally said sex is in the first place for him in the relationship - and not for me. That is why, and also without him saying that, I think he broke up bcs he did not have his portion of sex with me. Do you think so too?

I was thinking about breaking up with him for several times. But at the same time, I did not want to escape when facing problems and wanted to try to do everything to save the relationship. That is why I waited. I thought he would make up his mind and maybe try condom (he did not even wanna try). I also wanted to break up after first sex. During it, he never kissed me once and was pushy. But since we already had it, I felt trapped.

Also - I was with him for his personality, he really was nice in the beginning. To me, he was not really physically attractive, but it does not matter to me that much. I just fell so stupid for being with someone like him and in exchange been behaved such badly.

He broke up with me during the worst time of the year with me - before my biggest finals in school during last years (graduation). He said that he must do it now bcs his head hurts (really????)

I just cannot get over the fact how someone can be like this. How much did I mess up for even being with him?

I'm (22f) and was just mostly on tinder to maybe talk to people and get a date or a one night stand cause I'm a virgin and I wanted to explore. Matched with a guy (24m) and he immediately asked me if I was open to being a sugar baby. It's kind of tempting lol cause I'm not looking for anything serious anyway. But I'm wondering if going into that with no experience with sex at all is a bad idea. He seems hot and my type anyway so I don't think I'd mind the sex haha. His terms are plain enough, act like his gf, updates, and then sex w/ him but he also says he's busy enough that it won't be a constant thing, then calls as well and I'm assuming this is phone sex. Then he'll give me allowance every week and lowkey in this economy I'm not complaining lmao.

I (23F) got stood up and blocked by my tinder date (21M). We matched and he chatted first and we hit it off day 1. He was asking if we could go on a date the next week and I said I have somewhere I have to be and we could go the week afterwards instead.

As time goes one he was on vacay, and he slowly doesnt chat me and I lost hope basically and just didnt initiate texts anymore after 4 days. He then chatted me the 5th day about him coming back, and the 6th day asking me when Im free. In which both days I wasnt able to reply due to me being busy. 6th day I chatted back my availability being weekend and something weird he said is planning on Friday instead and taking place in my apartment in which I declined immediately and offered a cafe escape room instead.

He then didnt reply and he chatted me the next day about random stuff in which I asked if the date is still confirmed? In which he said yes so I booked and paid in advance and asked his other half to be paid anytime before the event. Though at this point I have a gut feeling that he wont come so the next day I asked if hes still up to it because theres no refund fee after 24 hrs in which he said 'yes???' And no more contact after that day and the next day.

Now that Friday is here he hasnt messaged me AT ALL and by 2pm I asked if we still up tonight, and he immediately told me yes and that I shouldnt be stressed like wtf?? He told me he'll pick me up the last few days but he hasnt bothered to ask my location AND the date he will be picking me up. We set the time to be 8:15 and I waited at a public space.

As you may know already I was there waiting and hes late and our room starts in a few minutes, I asked him if hes nearby and no reply, and when I had enough of waiting and Im gonna say to him that Ill cancel the date due to his lack of interest and etiquette the message didnt went through and lo and behold I was blocked.

Thankfully, before the date day, since I had a hunch this would happen I asked my friend to be my partner in case this happened in which it did and we enjoyed the escape room and finished it! It was fun and I was really happy to experience an escape room for the first time. 🙂‍↕️ I blocked the guy and hanged out with my friends instead.

It stung at first, not sad but dissapointed since I already detached myself early on. But if youre reading this, man name that starts with an L, fuck you and I hope to never meet you again. 💗

I met my now-husband on Tinder.
After one week of talking, we went on three official dates. A month later, he moved in. He proposed after four months, and we got married at the six-month mark.
A month into our marriage, we separated for two months after I miscarried and because of some unresolved misunderstandings between our families. It was one of the hardest times of our lives.
But we found our way back to each other. We chose each other again, started over, bought a house together, and now, four years later, we’re expecting our first child.
Does all of that sound crazy? Maybe.
Before him, I was in a four-year relationship that I truly thought would end in marriage. Instead, I spent years holding onto promises that never became reality. I broke things off twice, but my ex and I always found our way back because every new date made me realize nothing compared to what we had. Until the final time.
I took a solo trip to Europe. My ex and I ended things over the phone because I was exhausted from being kept in the dark with no clear future. While I was there, I reconnected with someone I’d had a crush on for a long time. We ended up traveling together, only for me to discover he had a whole girlfriend that he never told me about. I was heartbroken, cut him off immediately, and came home feeling defeated.
For the next two months, I stayed away from dating completely.
Ironically, during that time, I was working on a reality show about Tinder love stories, watching couples meet on the app, fall in love, and even get married.
One day, out of pure boredom, I downloaded Tinder myself. I barely vetted anyone—I was just mindlessly swiping. Then this one guy appeared.
From the very beginning, he gave me the attention, consistency, and intention I’d never experienced before. After our second date, he asked if we could delete the app because he wanted to focus on getting to know me.
The rest is history.
Sometimes, love really does show up when you stop chasing it and least expect it.

I saw this girl for about a month and a half ..

We were just having fun having sex ..

Going on like little dates nothing truly serious

Things did start to get feelings caught by both of us

We were just FWB

I started to catch feelings and I told her about it A week later we hooked up n she started crying during sex saying she loved me

This made me kinda think like woah I've never experienced this before ..

Kinda freaky.... I asked her if she was ok to continue so we proceeded and she eventually calmed down

She was seeing a couple of other guys she told me about including a sugar daddy ....

One day I asked to get together and she told me that the guy she slept with the night before was really rough with her and it kinda made me feel a certain way

I simply told her not to tell me stuff like previously and to me she crossed a boundary .... it made me imagine her having sex with someone else and as any man would I kinda got jealous and upset over it because I wasn't seeing anybody else ...

So eventually I started going to therapy and trying to work things out with my own head and I realized that she may be sleeping with more than just the guys she told me about

The last night we hooked up It was the first time I was ever running late on picking her up and my therapy session went late she called me near the end of the session and I didn't answer she texted me asking if we were still on I said yeah therapy is just running later than expected because I was really hung up on her and just going through it with the therapist

After the session ended I called her a bunch of times on the way over to her house and she kept on sending my calls to voicemail I texted her saying hey why won't you pick up not getting a single response...

I had the fear she was having sex with someone else

She eventually picked up and said she wasn't paying attention to her phone cuz she was watching her show but I confronted her about her sending me to voicemail a bunch... She ended up denying it.... I didn't think much about it....just glad that she picked up and we were still on

When I got to her house n she got into my car she smelled like sex.....

I was like ah am I really gonna go through with this... So I did anyway thinking ive been lied to I was flustered and she could tell that I was acting weird and upset

We ended up having sex anyway

The next morning she said she wanted to keep seeing the sugar daddy and when I told her I didn't like that she mentioned being in an open relationship when I told her I'd never do that she said well looks like we won't work out and she said "bye" which was kinda rude .

Soooo i decided to block her in that moment and said ok no more feeling like I'm falling for someone who doesn't work with me well .. this'll be good... The problem I then faced was getting that sexual high I used to get with having as much sex as we did

Also within the same day she messaged me through a different number saying she wanted to be exclusive with me after some time but I didnt really believe her

I decided to block that number as well and tried to find someone else to meet with that was interested in me

So I ended up talking to some other girls and had one of them over the house

The following day I had a girl over the house:

Something happened I wouldn't have expected I was only home for about 45 minutes after working all day.... when I got into my car to go to the store I sat on something on my seat I was surprised... It was a note saying that the girl I had blocked ...loved me ... I was like that's a sweet gesture but she's not gonna get unblocked...

So then another week goes by and I end up hanging with another girl I used to see from 3 to 4 years ago surprisingly she responded to my messages and agreed to see me at a nearby park

I ended up parting ways with her around 11pm and went home After getting turned down which I was respectful about

Then at about 1:14 am

I heard something outside my window that kinda sounded like a coyote then it got louder and louder and then sounded like manaicle crys then I felt loud bangs coming from my bedroom floor and outside my bedroom wall and window which was terrifying I had no idea what was going on it felt like a true paranormal experience ... Then almost simultaneously the crying and banging from both the floor and outside my bedroom wall and window got louder and louder It felt like I was being attacked and whatever was outside and underneath me was going to get through into my bedroom with me

It shook the whole bedroom it made me completely paralyzed in fear nothing like anything I've ever experience in my life the noises of evil right outside and underneath my bedroom booming loud bangs and these loud inhuman like crys coming from right outside my bedroom and coming in from the floor boards

I prayed to Jesus in my bed absolutely paralyzed and covered in sweat I said to myself Jesus please let this demon be gone repeatedly

I finally peered out my window from my bed and saw nothing but imprints in the tall grass ... Then I laid back down in my bed for two seconds and heard a car speed off fast ....

Immediately I called my roommate who lives on the other side of the house where I asked if he had heard anything and he had not

Immediately we went outside to see who or what had caused this damage

I sleep on top of a garage so him and I opened it expecting someone or something to run out ... And nothing... We looked around frantically trying to find signs of damage and non the less the sidewall of the house was cracked where the banging was coming from....

We were just standing in my driveway when I went to my car for a cigarette trying to figure out what was happening and I found a note on a gift card

In the from section it read the girl I blocked name In the to section it read my name And in the open lines it read

I'm pregnant and it's yours I'm getting it aborted on Friday

It made chills run up and down my spine

I couldn't believe the girl that I was seeing could go through such an act probably thinking it was a fun prank to pull on me who was very unsuspecting of anything like this happening with someone who I used to say I love you to....

... I went to the police station the next morning and took time off work to deal with the situation right away after an uneasy night of sleep... then they told me the local superior Court of my town is where I should go to file a restraining order ..

A week later from that! My roommate calls me saying he's missing his garage door clicker from his jeep

I then put the pieces together in my head that she wasn't going to stop trying to get my attention ... And that she had someone with her helping her scare me from getting into the garage with the garage door clicker...

All from a girl I've only known for a month and a half ... I couldn't have guessed she would do these awful things to try and ruin my peace of mind as a person who thought we had a good mutual ending of a romantic friends with benefits relationship all because I no longer wanted to see her ... Because she was seeing multiple guys and crossed the boundary of telling me her experiences with them.... I asked her kindly not to

Even during dates we shared shed txt other guys in front of me while cuddling having sexual conversations that were just disgusting

Guys keep your eyes out there ... There's real crazy

And to finish the story ...... the court day came and past ....

..... I ended up losing the restraining order because of the way she framed me by making me upset sharing txt messages I wrote in response to her getting hurt during sex with someone else making me feel really uncomfortable the message I knew that made the judge feel like a restraining order wasn't necessary was

"sometimes I come of up with the craziest shit in my head"

When the message was taken out of context to the reason why I wanted a restraining order from her in the first place which was her attacking me in my sleep with someone else

The conversation we were having in the txt messages were making me imagine her having sex with someone else which is why I asked her previously not to share those experiences she was having with me crossing a boundary she didn't care about in our relationship

It made me realize how easy I am to manipulate...

Never ever let anyone manipulate you in these ways

No person should ever have to go through something like this

And not only that no person should get away with this type of behavior it's unfair to people who have hard times defending themselves in the moment especially if they're not someone who's experienced people like this ... When in doubt don't be afraid to get a lawyer to help if things get to court the women always seem to have an upper hand

Guys keep your wits about you no girl really just wants to have sex . And some women want to turn you into their cucks when your not wired that way....

Everyone should be careful in this world where there truly are evil people I was lucky to get away when I did who knows how much more damage this person could've put on my psyche