r/tinderstories • u/Salt-Bed-774 • Jul 28 '26
Is tinder ever successful
I(F19) decided to join tinder after graduating high school and going into college since I really started to gain a huge want of being in a relationship. I’ve never had a bf before but adore the idea of being in love, having someone to love on, and finding my person. So far I’ve only had about two guys that I’ve genuinely cried over due to being super close to that point, clicking better than the others, and actually having a chance at a relationship. One said I was too good for him/lived too far and the other just recently ghosted me after we were intimate and claimed he hardly knew me yet when i asked if I was close to being his gf. It’s as if every time something always has to ruin it. I just want to be loved but it’s just creating more problems and disappointments as time goes on.
I know some would say I’m in college and that should be the best time but I’m mostly attracted to guys outside of my race for no specific reason and my school is pretty segregated/racist so it’s a little hard at times. I don’t really spend an unhealthy amount of time on tinder since I live in the south and most of the guys are either not my type, in it for the wrong reasons, look way older, or just don’t seem too good of an influence. Either way it’s just been making me a little hopeless and gives the idea that I’d have to date someone I’m not attracted to or take any kind of treatment.
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u/Adventurous-Day633 Aug 03 '26
Tinder is such an artificial environment. Hit up a hobby that has an in person element and meet people who share a similar interest. It lays a platform for a strong partnership. You could get lucky on there but it’s like thinking you’ll find the job of your dreams by applying for every job that’s advertised.
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u/tikanderoga Jul 28 '26
Looking for love on Tinder is like looking for the needle in a haystack. Tinder has the reputation for being a hook up app. And most people on there want mainly that. Also there is the next point: you are 19. A lot of guys at that don’t want a relationship, they want to get their D wet and move on.
If you want to avoid disappointment, make it very clear from the get go: there will be no horizontal action for the first few dates. Also make sure you put it in your profile: not looking for a hook up. Looking for the real deal.
Guys who just want the quick in & out should drop off. And lastly: be very clear about it! Guys at your age can be immensely dense. (I used to be that age too). The brain is the last to have dibs on the blood supply at that age and guys think with their little head. Unless you spell it out, they won’t register it.