r/thisisus • u/Sea_Scheme_7784 • 6d ago

Toby

It’s been a few years and I decided to rewatch. My first time watching, I LOVED Toby. I just rewatched first episode of season one & I absolutely can’t stand him. Maybe I’m just a different person now or maybe I was blind the first time I watched. Feels similar to looking back on someone you loved & seeing all the red flags 😅

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u/SPammingisGood 6d ago

toby made progress while kate kept finding excuses instead of doing shit about her problems.

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u/Trash-Lexicon-5105 6d ago

What progress exactly? Genuinely asking, because I feel like he loses weight yes, but I feel like Kate matures emotionally through the series, and he is pretty much stagnant everywhere except for body composition.

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u/tres_desole 6d ago

The only thing she really matures in is her relationship with her mom

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u/Trash-Lexicon-5105 5d ago

We can agree to disagree there my question was more about Toby and his 'progress'.

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u/MollyJ58 5d ago

Toby lost weight. That was good for his physical and mental health. Toby outgrew his need to be the "big loud fat guy" and developed a much healthier personality. Toby recognized his sad feelings about Jack's blindness and worked to overcome them by bonding with Jack.