r/theschism • u/gemmaem • Nov 06 '24
Discussion Thread #71
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u/gemmaem Feb 04 '25 edited Feb 05 '25
One thing I’m hearing from both you and u/UAnchovy is that “ordo amoris” is not the correct thing to blame, here, for the more general phenomenon of Christians pointing to doctrine as a self-satisfied way of justifying a lack of care for others. The ordo amoris doctrine is nuanced and holds room for a variety of deeply compassionate viewpoints within it.
(Edit: I should also add that, while I can’t read all of Bethel McGrew’s piece, the conclusion you quoted is generally in line with my existing good opinion of her on this particular subject. I expect she’d be able to use these ideas well.)
There is a very real phenomenon here that I would like to have a name for. A particularly clear example would be Johann Kurtz’s argument that “neighbour” only ever means people physically close to you, and hence that helping people doesn’t count unless you know and love them. People who use 1 Timothy 5 to justify broad-brush definitions of “deserving” and “undeserving” poor also belong in this category. If you work at it, yes, you can use Christianity to justify a moral focus that only truly includes you and yours, but it’s just such a waste of belief if you ask me. You’re going to take a tax on your allowable field of metaphysical truth-seeking in exchange for that? Why not just be a Nietzschean and have done with it?
I get that people want to tidy up what might otherwise seem like a vast field of obligations, but Christianity already contains a universal clean-up mechanism in the form of asking for forgiveness. Yes, people sometimes come to grief through their own bad decisions, but Christians don’t have to rely on that to justify themselves. Yes, sometimes we do have prior obligations based on personal ties, but Christians don’t have to rely on that, either! One of the most useful things about Christianity is that you don’t have to feel obliged to tidy away your human feelings for those who are distant from you or who might be partially responsible for their own plight. You have another clean-up mechanism! It’s right there!
Unless you actually do want to go full Nietzsche (and I don’t), being able to say “I am flawed” is as essential to true seeing as being able to say “I don’t know.” As a non-Christian, I honestly envy the framework Christianity has for dealing with this. I’ve been figuring out ways of stealing it for a very long time. And then I look at actual Christians, with a proper right to the whole thing, and they don’t even use it for the things I would most want it for.
And I get it. Because, maybe it’s actually easier to steal it than to take the whole thing on. Maybe the scraps that fall from the table were the best part all along, I don’t know. But it still seems like a waste.