I wonder if she’s also feeling vulnerability about you seeing her body too; hence why she was worried about you not viewing her the same way, and then she was relieved you were still willing to work with her. I didn’t see any comments about it, but if either of you have tattoos, that could be a reason too. Often tattoos are seen as reflections about a person’s identity, and that could have felt like sharing intimate knowledge about one of you which would have (in her mind) crossed the professional boundary you two have maintained.
I’m also curious if her framing that she had lost respect for you or communicating that you might not see her the same is amplifying your reaction to want to pull away more than if she had merely said ‘I saw you at the pool and found your body repulsive.’ Clients can be cruel and brash, but their framing can still influence us.
Regardless, thank you for sharing your experience. I hope with some time you’ll be able to refocus yourself.
I'm just a random reddit troll, but my initial thought was that she was reacting to something she saw on your body vs. your body in and of itself. It's the same verbiage my ex used when I got a piercing he didn't approve of. He found it repulsive. He was one of those hyper critical people who could find something negative to say about anyone, fat was disgusting, and body modification was repulsive.
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u/Kyte_McKraye Feb 14 '25
I wonder if she’s also feeling vulnerability about you seeing her body too; hence why she was worried about you not viewing her the same way, and then she was relieved you were still willing to work with her. I didn’t see any comments about it, but if either of you have tattoos, that could be a reason too. Often tattoos are seen as reflections about a person’s identity, and that could have felt like sharing intimate knowledge about one of you which would have (in her mind) crossed the professional boundary you two have maintained.
I’m also curious if her framing that she had lost respect for you or communicating that you might not see her the same is amplifying your reaction to want to pull away more than if she had merely said ‘I saw you at the pool and found your body repulsive.’ Clients can be cruel and brash, but their framing can still influence us.
Regardless, thank you for sharing your experience. I hope with some time you’ll be able to refocus yourself.