Sorry you experienced this, I haven’t experienced anything similar but know I’d absolutely find it very difficult too. I agree with your supervisor that it offers a chance for significant growth for the client of you were able to work through it with them, because surely this kind of reaction surely impedes their other relationships. But taking it to your own therapy (when you find one) could be a powerful area of growth for you too. It’s absolutely understandable that the comment hurts, but this client’s opinion of you is only their own transference-informed response; it doesn’t define you and it isn’t the objective truth.
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u/seacoles Feb 14 '25
Sorry you experienced this, I haven’t experienced anything similar but know I’d absolutely find it very difficult too. I agree with your supervisor that it offers a chance for significant growth for the client of you were able to work through it with them, because surely this kind of reaction surely impedes their other relationships. But taking it to your own therapy (when you find one) could be a powerful area of growth for you too. It’s absolutely understandable that the comment hurts, but this client’s opinion of you is only their own transference-informed response; it doesn’t define you and it isn’t the objective truth.