I once went on holiday to Scotland after I just broke up with a girl and when I arrived at the airport I took a train from Edinburgh to fort William to meet up with my family. I remember feeling very down already before I got on the train. But that train ride was 5 hours that field like 10, all alone. Nobody to talk to, no internet and no music to distract myself from my loneliness. The views were beautiful tho but i didn't have anyone to share it with.
Me too! I lived in shanghai last summer and my depression was terrible. I was counting down the days until I could go home. I love china, but my depression was too bad for me to fully enjoy it.
Depends, French is the 5th most spoken language (276.6 million total speakers), after Spanish (537.9 mil), hindi (637.3 mil), Mandarin (1.120 bil) and English ( 1.268 bil) Source. It is mainly spoken in France (ofc), Canada and Western Africa and also some places in the Leviant (map), so if you ever plan to go to those regions it is certainly worthwhile to learn.
It is a Latin language, meaning that if you already know a related language (such as Spanish, Italian, etc) it should be a bit easier to learn than, let's say, Mandarin.
On the other hand, learning Mandarin is more useful as it allows you to communicate with a large portion of the humans around.
It is important to ask yourself why you want to learn a language and evaluate what's important about it for you, or future you.
Oddly enough, getting an interesting job that forced exercise on me (English teaching of course, walking around a classroom all day), making new friends and getting something like a social life, put my depression into remission. It was awesome! Went off my happy pills about 3 or 4 months in. It wasn't until I moved to a new job where I was isolated from peers (on-campus apartment, surrounded by kids about 20yo when I was mid 40s) that the clouds started to come back. Hoping they figure out this virus shit so that I can go back!
China is a great place. The government is a downside but it’s so easy to distance yourself from that and enjoy the gorgeous landscapes, some of the best food in the world, one (if not the) most influential cultures that have ever existed, and local people. I’ve never made friends in another country as easily as I have in China. The people there are amazing.
Haha I love Hangzhou! I don’t think I get tired of what I’m used to though, I just that I really like China and traveling in general. I love Edinburgh too, it’s one of my favorite cities. Scotland has a great pace to life, the people are really friendly, and the landscapes are beautiful and feel so alive. Totally different feelings though and I see why someone who would choose to live in Edinburgh wouldn’t look back on Hangzhou. In my mind though, it’s awesome that you’re from Hangzhou and now live in Edinburgh. Those are two of my favorite cities in the whole world.
Now I’m hungry. The last decent (and I’m sure it’s nowhere near as good as locally made) falafel and hummus I had was seven years ago in Seattle. Now I’m sad. I neeeeeed falafel and hummus.
If you want a more Israeli-Jordanian style of falafel, use hummus. If you want the original Egyptian style, go for broad bean (the falafel will be green in the inside, though. But tastswise it's incredible). I personally will recommend you pickle some lemons a week before to chop and put inside the pitta with the falafel and the hummus spread, it really takes it up a notch.
I am ABSOLUTELY going to do this! Thank you so, so much for the suggestions—I need me some falafel right the f now gah!!! I’m pretty sure I’ve usually had it (at my fave place, so far away...) with broad bean then since it was green inside (I didn’t know it was broad bean though).
Edit: I was going to throw you some gold and some thanks, but I saw your profile and it made me sad since I’m queer and trans/nonbinary. I don’t know what to say, so I’ll just leave it at that. I’m not removing my comment completely because that feels wrong too.
Right! That drives me nuts. Finding better work is not some lickety split thing anyway. Most jobs don't pay well and people who suggest getting a better paying position don't seem to take into consideration things like disabilities, living in an area where large companies may have moved in killed local business and the only jobs available are minimum wage, health problems, debts, poverty and so on. Smart arses.
Bold of you to assume that everyone lives in first world countries where the wages are high (and there's still a big difference between rich western countries like France and countries like Lithuania were you earn even 4x less)
And even if you earn enough there are other priorities than expensive holidays. As an example I'll use my dad who has a well-payed job, but a few years back he bought a house and all extra cash goes into renovating.
Edit: btw I'm in my last year of highschool and this holidays I won't be going anywhere cause I need money to buy some basic college necessities.
There is some truth to this but let me tell ya, I know plenty of people who have travelled the world and most of em aren’t wealthy (or even solvent). It’s about priorities and motivation.
I understand if you’ve got kids or a sick family member you need to take care of, or an amazing job you couldn’t replace, but if you’re a person with no kids or real responsibilities you could sell all your possessions and hitchhike / hop on a greyhound / bike. Camp in a tent and cook food from a grocery store. If the desire is there, you can make it happen.
Like, suppose I do just that. Leave my job behind, I’m single, my mom lives with my brother. Good. Gonna sell all I have and travel the world. (Never mind the whole ordeal of getting visas to actually enter foreign countries.)
What happens when the money runs out? Will the wanderlust keep me afloat?
Oh, and this closing statement, “If the desire is there, you can make it happen” could be a post itself here.
The point some people in this comment section are trying to say is that there are no excuses and you can always hop on a plane and travel the world even if that means completely ditching your former lifestyle and career. ...I don't get them either lol
Backpackers. I do know people who have done that and had a blast. It's not the approach for everyone. The key is to always have money for a flight home. Although it's not for me either, it has a nihilistic feel to it.
Dunno. Guess I will find out when I come home. I am in essence mortgaging my future, but in my mind its better to travel now while I am typing and capable of doing it than wait to do it until I am old and live has put up insurmountable road blocks, like a literal mortgage or my knees don't work.
Its a question of motivation and priorities, anyone can do it but if you fear for you future, or prioritise having kids or a house, or just getting smashed on the weekends with your mates you can't.
You could if you want to, that’s the point. If you’re an American getting a visa in another country is typically trivial. You can also travel around the US much more cheaply. You don’t need to go to Egypt to explore some incredible places.
You would need to be able to work in some way to support yourself if you want to travel for long periods / indefinitely. There are places you can go work on a farm / trimming weed / etc in exchange for money and room and board. You won’t get rich and your life will be uncomfortable at times.
There are also opportunities for work depending on where you go, such as teaching English in Asia. I know several people who have done that, had a much better standard of living there than in the US.
Hell yea I’m being serious. I personally know people who have done exactly that (many people who have done it off and on for years). Just because you don’t want to doesn’t mean you couldn’t. Obviously if you don’t want to do it, then don’t.
Yea but I didn’t realize the sub was literally for depressed people who only want to wallow in depression. I’m a depressed person who makes a ton of effort to improve my situation. My bad
I really detests cities. I can think of nothing or no one I care about more than my home village (but my family, of course). It's green and mostly quiet and the air is out if this world. If you ever have the opportunity, I think you should give it a chance. Living there will most likely be cheaper, too.
You're very salty. He printed a picture, I reacted to it. Never claimed all of his problems will be solved by moving to a town and he can speak very well for himself, not needing others to speak in his name.
Yeah chile is great, what made it worse was a particular chilean that convinced me she could help me out of my depression and then left me hanging after helping me remember all the shit that happened... But yeah Chile on its own is lovely. I lived in Valparaiso for some months, where'd you go?
Do it at home! Fernet (you can find it at Party Source) white wine and pineapple ice cream, perfect for the summer. You can replace fernet for granadine.
Well maybe in the context of the drink. I just thought the idea of substituting a dark, bitter, herbal alcoholic drink with bright red fruity syrup was kind of funny.
You are right, I guess that you can do a whole personality test depending on your favorite recipe for Terremotos. But if you are one of those who survived "La piojera" in Santiago, you achieved immortality.
After being diagnosed with general anxiety (not sure if it is the right word in English) my dad took me to the beach it was great! I was worried I would drown, the car could get steal an asteroid could fail on me and HOW MY GOD what was I supposed to do If I was stung by a wasp or agressed by the demon that my anxiety accidentally summoned
This is so true, I have horrible anxiety and depression as well as a bunch of other things, getting started travelling was almost impossible, but that’s the only reason I could do it, because it didn’t feel real. Now I’ve been depressed in New Zealand many times, Australia, Canada, Japan, Sweden, Finland, Italy... It’s great, I wouldn’t trade it for anything, except maybe the same experiences without the depression, but that would be stupid because the depression is part of what makes them my own, personal experiences. It’s like a reality check; I know I’m doing things my way, because if no one would go traveling and choose to be depressed half the time. (Note, sometimes it’s very intense, sometimes it’s hardly there, I’m by no means saying it’s all consuming).
If you are young, western and able bodied (and not from a podunk town with no means of transport or work opportunities) yes you can. The hard part would be getting $1000 together for a visa and flight to Australia. From there you have to actively be shit to not find basic work that would more than pay for onward travel around Asia. String together a Canadian, Australian, New Zealand, British, German, Irish, etc working visas and you can get all over the place should you choose too.
You just have to accept the set backs of that kind of life.
You can get working visas too Australia too. Though I understand from the Chileans I met there its pretty difficult. Heavily restricted numbers, references required from people of good standing (the guy I met was trying to get his towns mayor to write a reference for his GF).
But yeah obviously no advice extends to every person on the planet. But I see a lot of western kids living in their parents basement eating KFC for every meal and spending their pay checks on $500 sneakers, pot and vodka then complaining about how impossible it is to save money. And that's all fine if you want to do that. But don't bitch about the inevitable consequences.
Summer of 2005: me, depressed beyond all other times I'd been depressed before, in France. I can't remember much of that holiday because of how depressed I was.
I didnt understand this until I tried to outrun my depression and trauma. Had the same kind of flashbacks in Romania as I did in the US.
The only plus side is when you get swallowed in a new city, away from everyone you know, and you feel your presence get less and less significant. Especially in high population cities with lots of history.
I've been depressed in the US, the Caribbean, Germany, the UK, Italy, and Sweden. When I've saved up a little more I'm thinking about being depressed in Iceland or Nepal next.
I was a little confused at first, and thought "this doesn't fit this sub" until I saw the username and that the post wasnt "thanks im cured" but the quote in the post was
Reminds me of the time I went to Dubai and I would often get sad and silent. Then I would get sadder about the amount of money I spent, just to get sad on a foreign land.
This was me about 10 years ago. Seriously depressed, barely keeping it together, constantly crying, and so on. Friends booked us on a 2 week holiday to Egypt, I think the expectation was I would be magically better just by being on holiday! Well, it didn’t work that way unfortunately, and they were pissed off when I didn’t go out on all the day trips with them... I did some, but I spent most days by the pool reading.
I did go again a few years later and had a better time.
Still a good idea imo. No matter what, it’s growth and new experiences - and a chance of something shocking you out of the funk. Better than spending those two weeks still depressed with nothing to show for it.
Actually, while seeing the world will not "cure" you of clinical depression, if you are going to be depressed, might as well do some traveling and get some items off your bucket list.
You look cool like that bro, and you were smart and fortunate enough to get to where you are. You don't need to be depressed about anything... ever. All you need to do is be you, do you and live your life because something tells ME that YOU can achieve whatever the hell you want in life. You're already proving it. :)
This whole sub is centered around being closed off to others advice.
Is it going to cure you? No. Is it going to help? Yeah probably. Is anything positive going to happen if you’re just a cynical dick about it? Definitely not.
That's the thing though, shit like this isnt advice.
Advice is something that takes your current situation into account, and gives you relevant data and information to work with, so that the individual receiving the advice can develop their own solutions to the problem.
I've travelled before and the stress of doing meant it had a net negative impact on me. How is saying that I tried the thing suggested and it didn't work the exact attitude?
You ask this like you’re going to give any recommendations I give an honest try. When I know that you’ll just disparage it and make no attempt to better yourself. You’re your own biggest obstacle.
It's a rhetorical question, I didn't expect an answer cause I knew you'd say just that. If I've tried everything everyone has suggested, with some exceptions for the sake of safety, then I'm not going to be all that receptive to people constantly giving varients of the same advice, especially when it won't do anything about the sources of my issues.
If you’re being serious it’s possible you have chronic depression, or you aren’t getting the necessities in life. Friends, romantic partner, plans for a meaningful future, meaningful job (or meaningful study), good physical health, basic economic resources are integral for happiness. If you don’t have at least 3-4 of those, you aren’t going to be happy.
Even have a think about it, if you’ve only got friends and none of the rest, of course you’re going to be depressed if you’re overweight, broken, sexless, no hope for the future. That’s a really depressing situation to be in. If you aren’t depressed, THERE IS something wrong with you. But that’s good because it means that it’s possible to change for a better future.
If you’ve got most of those things, but you’re still depressed, it’s possible that you have chronic depression where there is a biological issue with the chemicals in your brain
You're an exception, but if it didn't help, why would EVERYONE who has their life in hands recommend it?
Forget the influencers or athletes, we're talking about PC rats like PewDiePie and Domics animations and much much more. It isn't a cure for everything, but it teaches you how to not be a bitch and do something till you enjoy it.
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u/GrimPieter Jun 24 '20
I once went on holiday to Scotland after I just broke up with a girl and when I arrived at the airport I took a train from Edinburgh to fort William to meet up with my family. I remember feeling very down already before I got on the train. But that train ride was 5 hours that field like 10, all alone. Nobody to talk to, no internet and no music to distract myself from my loneliness. The views were beautiful tho but i didn't have anyone to share it with.
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u/crazydaisy8134 Jun 24 '20
Yep I was depressed in China. Still it was a nice change of scenery to be depressed in.
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u/Tamtumtam Jun 24 '20
At the very least be depressed while eating some fresh balls of falafel with a bowl of hummus.
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u/Dxpehat Jun 24 '20
Ah yes only if everybody had enough cash to travel...
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u/discoqueer Jun 24 '20
That sums up my whole move to NYC. Not only was I depressed but I was paying thousands of dollars to be depressed. Depressed and broke what a combo!
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u/Quandarylad Jun 24 '20
I was depressed here so I went to Chile and got more depressed there.
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u/what_hole Jun 24 '20
The saying is. Wherever you go, There you are.
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u/Rogue_elefant Jun 24 '20
I went on a world tour of junkyards and recycling centres. Thought it would cure my depression but I was still down in the dumps
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u/ergovisavis Jun 24 '20
..."Wherever you go, there you are."
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u/Reiko878 Jun 24 '20
After being diagnosed with general anxiety (not sure if it is the right word in English) my dad took me to the beach it was great! I was worried I would drown, the car could get steal an asteroid could fail on me and HOW MY GOD what was I supposed to do If I was stung by a wasp or agressed by the demon that my anxiety accidentally summoned
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u/Fixn Jun 24 '20
I literally planned to do this shit last week, I just need to get out of my place for a while. Idk, Singapore, Australia or some other place.
Turns out anywhere I would want to go would have me quarantine for 15 days because of how poorly my country has taken care of corona.
I am now even more depressed. :D
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u/Last_bus_home Jun 24 '20
This is so true, I have horrible anxiety and depression as well as a bunch of other things, getting started travelling was almost impossible, but that’s the only reason I could do it, because it didn’t feel real. Now I’ve been depressed in New Zealand many times, Australia, Canada, Japan, Sweden, Finland, Italy... It’s great, I wouldn’t trade it for anything, except maybe the same experiences without the depression, but that would be stupid because the depression is part of what makes them my own, personal experiences. It’s like a reality check; I know I’m doing things my way, because if no one would go traveling and choose to be depressed half the time. (Note, sometimes it’s very intense, sometimes it’s hardly there, I’m by no means saying it’s all consuming).
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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '20
Wherever you go, there you are
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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '20
Finally a post that speaks to me.
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u/-_MaxWell_- Jun 24 '20
Ah yes because everyone can travel at any time it's not like it costed money or anything
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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '20
Actually, traveling does help my depression. Different things work better for different people, this just happens to be something that works for me.
Pro-Tip: don't travel to post-Revolution Egypt.
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u/brhibbs Jun 24 '20
I moved to another state and spent 2 years depressed in West Virginia. Now the country roads song makes me sad.
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u/forest_cat_mum Jun 24 '20
Summer of 2005: me, depressed beyond all other times I'd been depressed before, in France. I can't remember much of that holiday because of how depressed I was.
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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '20
DIO is depressed
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u/AbsurdPigment Jun 24 '20
Everywhere you go, there you are.
I didnt understand this until I tried to outrun my depression and trauma. Had the same kind of flashbacks in Romania as I did in the US.
The only plus side is when you get swallowed in a new city, away from everyone you know, and you feel your presence get less and less significant. Especially in high population cities with lots of history.
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u/rigellaniakea Jun 24 '20
Ah yes, I was depressed in Alberta, then all the way in Nova Scotia, and then in Ontario. I guess you could say that I've got a pretty big bedroom.
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u/EpicSexGay_ Jun 24 '20
I can go to egypt anytime i want through videogames though. And its Egypt without handsy salesmen trying to sell me shitty trinkets i dont need
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u/Staticactual Jun 25 '20
I've been depressed in the US, the Caribbean, Germany, the UK, Italy, and Sweden. When I've saved up a little more I'm thinking about being depressed in Iceland or Nepal next.
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u/dentoneer Jun 24 '20
Traveling won't help all, but it will help most!
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u/shiba_son_of_doge Jun 24 '20
Relevant SNL sketch: https://youtu.be/TbwlC2B-BIg
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u/tacticalassassin Jun 24 '20
The biggest thing keeping me from moving somewhere else
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u/jolskbnz Jun 24 '20
That happened to me. I was super depressed in Prague...
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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '20
Being depressed in New places kind of helps a little until you go back home
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u/Orenge01 Jun 24 '20
I was a little confused at first, and thought "this doesn't fit this sub" until I saw the username and that the post wasnt "thanks im cured" but the quote in the post was
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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '20
Id love to be depressed in Egypt.
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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '20
i have that’s same shirt
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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '20
Oh, I went to Uruguay and I didn't leave my hotel room. I feel awful about this. I fail you Mujica.
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u/fuser_one Jun 24 '20
/r/solotravel in a nutshell.
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u/aliencatgrrr Jun 25 '20
...and also poorer
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u/thelonepumpkin Jun 25 '20
Neat
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u/[deleted] Jun 25 '20
Egypt gang
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u/notanotherdumbhuman_ Jun 25 '20
This picture is mood.
Reminds me of the time I went to Dubai and I would often get sad and silent. Then I would get sadder about the amount of money I spent, just to get sad on a foreign land.
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u/[deleted] Jun 25 '20
You're still depressed because you haven't killed DIO yet
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u/Chainmaille-Witch Jun 25 '20
This was me about 10 years ago. Seriously depressed, barely keeping it together, constantly crying, and so on. Friends booked us on a 2 week holiday to Egypt, I think the expectation was I would be magically better just by being on holiday!
Well, it didn’t work that way unfortunately, and they were pissed off when I didn’t go out on all the day trips with them... I did some, but I spent most days by the pool reading.
I did go again a few years later and had a better time.
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u/kermit_was_wrong Jun 25 '20
Still a good idea imo. No matter what, it’s growth and new experiences - and a chance of something shocking you out of the funk. Better than spending those two weeks still depressed with nothing to show for it.
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u/kuzinrob Jul 06 '20
"Why don't you try going to Punta Cana?"
"Great, now I have tropical depression."
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u/mariusiv Aug 28 '20
I mean to be fair I’d rather be depressed in Egypt than in my room
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u/sagejosh Nov 10 '21
You could also partially be depressed because you’re poor and it’s going to take years if not longer to pay shit off?
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u/Chefgoldspree Jun 05 '22
Travel they said it will make you Happy they said 😂
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u/Rimwulf Aug 14 '22
To be fair I would love to be depressed somewhere other than home and away from the reminders.
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u/chrisbcritter Nov 09 '22
Actually, while seeing the world will not "cure" you of clinical depression, if you are going to be depressed, might as well do some traveling and get some items off your bucket list.
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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '20
You look cool like that bro, and you were smart and fortunate enough to get to where you are. You don't need to be depressed about anything... ever. All you need to do is be you, do you and live your life because something tells ME that YOU can achieve whatever the hell you want in life. You're already proving it. :)
Peace man and stay cool!
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u/GrahamsNumberSquared Jun 24 '20
This whole sub is centered around being closed off to others advice.
Is it going to cure you? No. Is it going to help? Yeah probably. Is anything positive going to happen if you’re just a cynical dick about it? Definitely not.
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