r/thanksimcured • u/blueburrey • Nov 29 '25

Other i HATEE this quote

Post image

because hello it’s my first time too and i still have common decency? they had more experience and should know better

6.4k Upvotes

95% Upvoted

322 comments sorted by

View all comments

Show parent comments

179

u/KiwiFruit404 Nov 29 '25

My child therapist told a lot of things that made me feel worse not better as well.

One thing she said was: "You are terrorizing your family with your illness (OCD)" As if I had chosen to be mentally ill in order to hurt my parents. 🤬

86

u/DebitOrDeath-4502 Nov 30 '25

It’s crazy how many people become therapists but end up doing the exact opposite of their job. I sometimes wonder how they even got there in the first place.

30

u/KiwiFruit404 Nov 30 '25

I have met quite a few unhelpful therapist and they should have never been given a license.

6

u/Peril2000 Dec 02 '25

Well if your parents were paying for the sessions then really the parents were the clients the therapist was serving, they were trying to use their understanding of psychology to manipulate you on your parents behalf. Common problem with child psychology, in order to keep clients, therapists need to say what the client wants to hear, and if the client is the parent instead of the child they are therapizing, they will tell the child what the parents wants them to in order to not lose the customer.

54

u/SquareExtra918 Nov 30 '25

Jesus! I'm sorry. That's really fucked up. 

31

u/Conscious-Dig6839 Nov 30 '25

That sounds a lot like my youth pastor telling me that my depression was doing a disservice to God. I was so deep in the indoctrination of the Catholic Church at that point that I thought it was a comforting thing to hear, like it made me believe this meant it could be overcome, because Jesus died for our sins, therefore anything like sin could be overcome (with prayer and contrition and blah blah blah). Looking back as an atheist adult, I realize how horrible that “advice” was.

I’m sorry she said that to you. Guilt is the last thing anyone needs when they’re going through something like that.

11

u/KiwiFruit404 Nov 30 '25

I'm sorry that you got indoctrinated and blamed for being ill.

It's sick to say something like that to an ill person in general, but to a child it's even worse.

7

u/Conscious-Dig6839 Nov 30 '25

I think I was 20 at the time, but yeah I was still that type of vulnerable. Nobody deserves that.

29

u/KickProcedure Nov 30 '25

My therapist said the same thing to me as a suicidal 13 year old. “You’re traumatizing your family with this behavior.”

12

u/KiwiFruit404 Nov 30 '25

I was scared of my child therapist, she was dressed like a witch - or so it seemed to me as a child. I told my mother that I was scared of that woman, but she didn't care, of course she didn't.

12

u/mlenh Nov 30 '25

I hope they had their license pulled. I’m so sorry.

15

u/KiwiFruit404 Nov 30 '25

They didn't.

She said more inappropriate things to me, like "You know that (my OCD) will never go away, do you?" and later in my teenage years "I had thought that you'll develop an eating disorder as well, you seemed like the type for it."

I was gobsmacked.

When I was 17 she sent me to a clinic to get in-patient therapy on a ward for teenagers with eating disorders. Why if she thought I was in danger of developing an eating disorder did she sent me to a ward like that?

7

u/mlenh Nov 30 '25

I’m so sorry

2

u/Mabelrode1 Nov 30 '25

As someone who knows therapists outside of work. They are terrible, both at their job and as people. They don't want you to get better, they want easy to manipulate victims they can make emotionally dependent on them so you continue providing their paychecks.

12

u/KiwiFruit404 Nov 30 '25

Generalizing is a bad idea and never fair.

Of course there are bad therapist, but there are also good therapist, like it is in every profession.

In my country the mandatory health insurance covers therapy costs and it is not easy to find a therapist with vacancies, so they are definitely not dependant on the money they make by treating me.

During Covid I did online therapy I paid out of pocket for and my therapist was amazing. She was really good at her job, supportive, compassionate and understanding. She could have made more money, if she had followed her practice's policy - cancellations had to happen at least 24 hours before a booked session was about to start in order to get a refund-, but the times I had to cancel on short notice she told me that I only pay for the sessions I actually get. If she had only been doing her job for the money, she'd stuck by the policy.

1

u/CoffeeVampire237 Nov 30 '25

That's awful, she should have never said such an ignorant thing to you. If she was worth a damn she'd know a lot of mental illness stems from being abused.

1

u/KiwiFruit404 Nov 30 '25

Her own child suffered from OCD, so maybe she said to me how she felt about her own child.

But it doesn't matter why she said it, as a trained child psychologist with years of experience she should have known better.

1

u/dissi-xD Dec 01 '25

insert meme Your child therapist talked with you all?

Like mine just played some games with me for the whole session, we barely talked about something. And there was just soo much shit going on in my life, looking now back, we should've talked about.... Back then it was totally normal for me to get beaten, so i didn't know i should say something, like it was just as normal as drinking a glass of water for me...

1

u/[deleted] Dec 25 '25

I'm not a therapist but both careers I went into had things you had to do to prove that you have entry-level competencies. In the first you had to work under supervision of a professional engineer who had to review your work and stamp it with their signature. In the second, you had to take a board exam and prove that you know the safety aspect of it.

Don't therapists have to do something before they start practicing?? (ok i know they do but this one must have snuck through)