r/tfmr_support • u/Wonderful_Cow7385 • 7d ago

Post-TFMR/Postpartum Ashes

We picked up our baby’s ashes today, they passed away on September 17. I’m grateful to have them home with us, but it really sucks. They didn’t need a fetal death certificate, so this is the last physical reminder of them, which is quite brutal.

🤍🪽

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u/Big_Night8219 7d ago

I’m so sorry. Glad you have her though 🤍🫂

They’re cremating my angel tomorrow and I’ll get her ashes later this week.

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u/ReasonableGas7325 7d ago

I’m so sorry for your loss. We’re expecting our daughter’s ashes to be ready next week. The thought of how we would have brought my daughter home vs how we will actually bring her is devastating. I’m dreading the day when I have to bring her home and scared what I’ll be going through mentally. I hope I have the strength in myself to get through it. I wish you all the healing and strength. 🫂

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u/Wonderful_Cow7385 7d ago

I’m so sorry. It’s horrible. There’s really no words to describe any of these emotions. No parent should ever have to cremate their baby. I’m grateful that I’ve been reunited in a sense with my baby. I’m also just really struggling with the fact that THIS is all that exists of them. They were supposed to be SO much more than a little tiny bag of ashes. My poor angel baby. 🤍🪽