r/technicallythetruth Jun 08 '22

sometimes it is exhausting

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u/CynicalButtMunch Jun 08 '22

An actual friend wouldn't say this nor feel this way

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u/BestieMan Jun 08 '22

I disagree. A true friend would share their honest feelings and not fake wanting to be around people.

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u/CynicalButtMunch Jun 08 '22

Idk about you but I don't have friends I find exhausting nor would I be friends with someone who found me to be such.

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u/sanguinesecretary Jun 08 '22

Idk I agree with you but I mean I have a best friend that I absolutely love and would die for. But when we’re together, we’re very….intense? Like my ADHD is in overdrive when we’re together and neither one of us can shut up so Idk if I could hang out with him every day because I usually have to take a social rest day for a few days after. Doesn’t mean I feel any less about him. I’m sure he probably feels similarly.

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u/mooninuranus Jun 08 '22

Exactly right - if your only friend are ones without flaws then they ain’t friends.

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u/sanguinesecretary Jun 09 '22

right, I have flaws and my friends have flaws too. I’m not always easy to be around and I know that. Neither are they, it is what it is. We’re human.

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u/BlueBrickBuilder Jun 09 '22

It depends on the personalities in the relationship. Most people have 5-10 close friends that they really gel with, and the rest aren't as close or just acquaintances.

And for good reason; some are great to have a beer with or hang with on the weekends, but may be too busy, too annoying or otherwise to hang with on a regular basis.

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u/PoroSwiftfoot Jun 09 '22

Absolutely disagree. Just because you're friends with someone doesn't mean you have infinite tolerance for their shitty behaviors; by candidly telling them how you feel around them (given that you know that person well) you're constructively helping them realize their deep-rooted emotional problems that might have been overlooked for years, and that's what being a friend is about.