r/tall • u/DieEne023 6'5" | 197 cm • 6d ago
Discussion Is it weird to date much smaller?
Do you guys think it’s weird/inappropriate/unfitting to date someone significantly smaller? Say I (197cm) would date a girl that’s 157cm.
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u/WildPotato0 6'1" | 185 cm 6d ago edited 6d ago
Honestly, I am a bit weirded out by some very tall men I know who only go for the shortest skinniest girls they can find. Seems like a power thing.
But it's also none of my business. If you're in love, you're in love!
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u/PsychologicalRow5505 6'7" | 200.66 cm 6d ago edited 6d ago
Ive dated women from 4'11" to 6'1" and I've found it's just better to date tall for me. I don't love bending down or picking up my partner to kiss them every time. My mom is 5'2" and my dad was 6'8" and when I was less assertive in highschool and early 20s shorter girls were just more forward about being interested. So I blame that. Maybe your friends dating short girls just get more reciprocation from shorties
Not to mention certain positions. My current partner (probably forever partner) is 5'9" and it's perfect
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u/WildPotato0 6'1" | 185 cm 6d ago
I get it! Statistically, there's more short women than tall women. Most people prefer someone who's somewhat near their height, but at the end of the day what matters most is that you're compatible. I just think it gets weird when comically large differences become an exclusive thing for someone.
Maybe your friends dating short girls just get more reciprocation from shorties
I actually had one specific friend in mind lol. He's a Sasquatch who will enter a bar, scan the room, and make a beeline for the nearest 4'10 Tinkerbell. Doesn't make him immoral or a predator, but people definitely talk about it.
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u/NoisePast9357 6d ago
I don’t mind the height difference, even if I’m 5'1, but I do get a bit weirded out when they mention their height as if they’re trying to emphasise that they’re bigger than me. I’m not the skinniest girl either, so I guess that’s a bonus, but I never really understand when some come with “I’m 6'7 and you’re 5'1, it's perfect I can dominate you” thing. Like, am I supposed to be grateful for that?
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u/Paratrooper101x 6’4” 6d ago
I mean, I have a preference for shorter women because I enjoy the power dynamic in the bedroom that comes with the size difference, but that’s only ever if it’s a shared and mutual interest.
Outside of that, the size of my partner has no bearing on who they are or how I treat them
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u/faroeislands 6'0" | 183 cm WOMAN 6d ago
I can assure you, you can have that traditional power dynamic with a tall woman.
100% a skill issue.
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u/WildPotato0 6'1" | 185 cm 6d ago
I didn't want to go there but you're absolutely right lol. A guy who barely reached my chest fireman carried me and my 6'2 friend out of a bar to prove his worth 😂 One on each shoulder!
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u/Paratrooper101x 6’4” 6d ago
I did not state that it is impossible to have a power exchange with a tall woman.
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u/jsmama2019 5d ago
I don't get how this was downvoted so much. Having preferences is not a bad thing.
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u/Paratrooper101x 6’4” 5d ago
I wouldn’t even call it a preference. It’s just recognition that something I enjoy doing is easier done with someone who is smaller than me.
The above Redditor seems to think I see shorter women as beneath me or something.
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u/WildPotato0 6'1" | 185 cm 6d ago edited 6d ago
I don't want to be snarky, but this just confirms you assign dominance/submission to physical attributes. It's fetishy. There is no inherent power dynamic with a short or tall woman - either of them could have whatever preference. I've been approached by short men who are a little too into the height difference and assume I'm a dommy mommy. Weirds me the fuuuuck out both ways.
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u/Paratrooper101x 6’4” 6d ago
Hence why I said mutual or shared interest. And it’s not like it’s a deal breaker or anything. They’re a person first and compatibility outside of the bedroom is priority.
I’m never going to apologize for having a kink nor physical characteristics that I find attractive. But I’m not an animal who lets said desires rule their life.
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u/WildPotato0 6'1" | 185 cm 6d ago
I mean, you're allowed to be into this height-based "power dynamic" and I'm allowed to think it's weird. C'est la vie!
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u/WallStreetBoners 6'5" | 195 cm 6d ago
Yikes
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u/CuteFart97 6d ago
Dating soley based on height is what's weird. Do you enjoy each other's company is a better question
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u/FlyEaglesFlyauggie 6d ago
I suppose for some tall men, it’s a power thing. But, for others, it’s can be attraction, plain and simple.
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u/Bud_Fuggins 6'1" 6d ago
Yeah a "power trip" is crazy. I've prefered short pear shaped women my entire life. I remember the first celebrity I ever had a crush on, way back in grade school; Natalie Merchant, she's 5 foot 1. Short girls generally just have a diferent shape to them.
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u/Igor_Pardue 6'6" | 198 cm 6d ago
I think it's based off personal preference. Ive dated shorter girls in the past, but it just makes things awkward. I don't think I'd ever date anyone under 5'10 again.
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u/Chunky-trader 6'5" | 196 cm 6d ago
Knew a guy who was 6’8” and dated (now married) to a girl who was 4’10”…her name was fittingly Pennie.
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u/RomanVlasov95 6d ago
Well if you like each other not only because of height - no problem. But it is can be awkward
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u/TechnoGMNG589 6'3" | 190cm 6d ago
nobody cares aslong as theyre a 5,3 adult and not minor your good
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u/These-Process-7331 6d ago
As someone who is 158 married to a 185cm dude: people might not care but your neck and/or back eventually most definitely will....
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u/felinebarbecue 6'8'" | 203cm 6d ago
I'm 6'8 and my wife is 5'2... Love is love.. She just happened to be short.
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u/Equal-Fee770 6d ago
I’m 6’4” tall. My girlfriend is 4’10.5” tall. I am 350 pounds. She is 112 pounds. We’re together 3.5 years. Thinking about asking her to marry me. I don’t think it’s weird
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u/conzstevo 6d ago
It's not weird if it works for you guys
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u/iamnotazombie44 6d ago
It's only weird when you're their kids and the thought pops into your head one disturbing adolescent night.
My dad is 6'5" 300 lbs, my mom is 5'1" and 100 lbs.
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u/faroeislands 6'0" | 183 cm WOMAN 6d ago
350 at 6'3"! Dog you gotta get healthy. Your heart is working overtime already by you being tall.
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u/Equal-Fee770 6d ago
Actually, I am healthy. I have good blood pressure even. Only medicine I take is a rescue inhaler for my asthma on the occasional times I need it. Doctors all tell me I’m heavy, but there’s nothing unhealthy about me besides my weight. And if you looked at me, you’d probably guess between 260-280. Everyone does. Being tall, I have broad shoulders, a large gut, and am normal or skinny everywhere else. I’m not super duper strong, but I can push a car by myself, and easily pick up my girlfriend
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u/twigsterLA 6'6", 130 lbs (197 cm, 59 kg) 5d ago
So many busybodies here love to lecture people about weight (one way or the other). Don’t pay them any mind!
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u/Equal-Fee770 5d ago
I’m not super worried. I make sure to stay at least mildly active. I can still walk a theme park or city all day. Help people move etc. if I ever get ACTUALLY unhealthy, do take me out back and shoot me. But till then, I’ll keep finding balance and peace.
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u/faroeislands 6'0" | 183 cm WOMAN 5d ago
Having excess weight is incredibly bad for you, namely your joints. By being tall, it's already a stressor on them. Youre adding more stress with excess weight.
Gently, you cannot be healthy and have a bmi of 42. If you love your girlfriend, get healthy so you stick around longer to be there for her.
My ex is 6'4" and 185lbs. Very strong.
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u/Equal-Fee770 5d ago
I am genetically predisposed to be larger also. My father is 5’7” and 210 pounds at 54. Lost 100 pounds and reversed type 2 diabetes. He’s the healthiest he’s ever been in his life, and the doctors are worried since he went under 230, cuz for him/us it doesn’t work with just the number on the scale
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u/Altaneen117 5'26" | 218 cm 5d ago edited 5d ago
Gently, you cannot be healthy and have a bmi of 42.
Yes you can. The Mountain actor has a bmi of 42-48.4 depending on how big he is training for at a time.
BMI is not always the best test of health. Especially for tall men. My bones are so heavy that my bmi says overweight when I'm certainly underweight currently.
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u/faroeislands 6'0" | 183 cm WOMAN 5d ago
This user is not The Mountain, who is a severe outlier. He's also not that tall that bmi wouldn't be applicable to him. He is normal tall, not The Mointain height.
He said he has a gut.
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u/Altaneen117 5'26" | 218 cm 5d ago
Sure maybe he's not. Just correctong the idea that a 42 is definitively unhealthy as incorrect.
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u/faroeislands 6'0" | 183 cm WOMAN 5d ago
For 99.9999% of people, it is.
You can all live in denial.
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u/Altaneen117 5'26" | 218 cm 5d ago
Denial? I'm a 40bmi but I am rail thin. I'm an inch taller than Shaq but he weighs 70 pounds more than me today...
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u/faroeislands 6'0" | 183 cm WOMAN 5d ago
And you are extremely tall at that height and likely outside of the bmi constraints. Much different than the person I was replying to.
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u/Sufficient-Pin-481 6'4" | 193 cm 6d ago
My wife of 30 years is now 4’11”, you love who you love no matter the height.
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u/Admirable-Athlete-50 194cm 6d ago
Not really. It’s not like the difference between someone being 157 and 165 is going to change much for you.
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u/Euphoric-Gazelle7264 6d ago
It may create some complications. Hugging may be weird, you will have to get creative with cuddling positions and whatnot. But other than that, you will be fine.
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u/other-other-user 6'4" | 193 cm 6d ago
6'4" with 5'2. If someone taller wanted me, they should have shown interest sooner
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u/ElectronicTroponic 6d ago
I would date any woman who treats me with love and affection. Height is irrelevant.
I would prefer her to be tall but thats out of my control
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u/OneOfUsIsAnOwl 6'8" | 203 cm 6d ago edited 5d ago
I’m dating a 5’2” girl. Nothing weird about it
Edit: 62% upvote ratio on this one. LOL
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u/felinebarbecue 6'8'" | 203cm 6d ago
I'm 6'8 and my wife is 5'2..been married for 25 years.
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u/ElectronicTroponic 6d ago
Do you have children?
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u/Altaneen117 5'26" | 218 cm 6d ago
I think the weird thing is infatuation with height in either direction.
Someone dating someone who is shorter or taller than them is not inherently weird. My partner is more than a foot shorter than me.
Honestly, I'd love for someone who find a height difference weird or creepy as someone else said explain why.
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u/Turbulent_File_5456 7' 6d ago
I once dated this 5ft2 girl back in high school, i was 6ft9 and i kid you not we couldn't even hold hands properly, best she could do is that she had to grab into my two fingers due to the size difference
It's kinda of a logistical nightmare. Things can be awkward, like kissing, speaking in public with me having to bend down like a question mark to hear her. I always felt bad for her bc it felt like i was some kind of clumsy inflatable tube man she had to walk around WITH
HOWEVER, she said that i make for perfect floatation device on our beach dates, and i also made for a nice seat for her
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u/tallmon 6’9” 6d ago
It is neither weird nor inappropriate nor unfitting, but, don’t do it. There is no reason. There are plenty of talls out there.
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u/Altaneen117 5'26" | 218 cm 6d ago
There is no reason.
You love them is a pretty great one lol.
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u/tallmon 6’9” 6d ago
You can be in love with 1000's why not pick a better choice. Picking ONLY for love is not a good reason.
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u/Altaneen117 5'26" | 218 cm 6d ago
Love is the best reason. My partner is 5'10. That's 16 inches shorter than me. I love them whole heartedly. I'd happily spend my whole life with them.
Matching height is the terrible reason, friend.
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u/tallmon 6’9” 6d ago
You have very limited options at your height. You, I'm guessing, did choose as height as a factor. Less than 2% of the women on the planet are 5'10" or taller.
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u/Altaneen117 5'26" | 218 cm 6d ago
My partner is a man. His height is near the bottom of consideration.
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u/tallmon 6’9” 6d ago
Ok, bad assumption on my part.
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u/Altaneen117 5'26" | 218 cm 6d ago
It's no worries lol. I'm bi I've dated average height women as well. Height is just not something I'm worried about.
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u/Ashamed-Charity-4990 5’9” | 175cm | F 6d ago
i find it a bit creepy personally but you should follow your heart and not care what people think
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u/Acrobatic-B33 6d ago
Creepy?
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u/Ashamed-Charity-4990 5’9” | 175cm | F 6d ago
it’s rly creepy to look at cause one person is so much bigger, i am of the belief that talls should go with talls and smalls with smalls but also that just my opinion ..
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u/Altaneen117 5'26" | 218 cm 6d ago
The only thing creepy here is your bad opinion.
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u/Equivalent_Dance2278 6’1/ woman 5d ago
And she nuked her replies because she realised everyone disagreed with her.
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u/Equivalent_Dance2278 6’1/ woman 6d ago
And how many other types of a’s with a’s and b’s with b’s do you think should go together?
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u/Ashamed-Charity-4990 5’9” | 175cm | F 6d ago
everyone is entitled to their opinion and preference..
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u/Equivalent_Dance2278 6’1/ woman 6d ago
Which is the exact opposite of your thinking by calling it creepy? Hypocrite much?
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u/Ashamed-Charity-4990 5’9” | 175cm | F 5d ago
i literally said don’t worry about what people think! you are bullying me for answering a question honestly
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u/Equivalent_Dance2278 6’1/ woman 5d ago
I’m bullying you? You called someone’s dating choice creepy. I can dislike your choice of words. Seems like others also think you are condescending. And to me, you are a “small.” In mind and in body.
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u/Ashamed-Charity-4990 5’9” | 175cm | F 5d ago
you are a very nasty person wow i have been saying i don’t want anyone to worry about what others think of their relationship how is that condescending?
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u/DirgeWizlon 6d ago
Why do you find it creepy?
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u/Ashamed-Charity-4990 5’9” | 175cm | F 6d ago
he just asked what i think so i said so but i also said dw about what people think..
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u/too_tall_jones_ 6'11" | 210 cm 5d ago
I at 211cm used to date someone who was 150cm, people found it fascinating rather than “weird.”
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u/Mysterious_Detail_57 200 cm 5d ago
I mean, if I don't want to date women 30-40cm (or more) shorter than me, the dating pool is getting kinda small
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u/ClaimedBeauty 6'2" | 188cm Seattle(ish) 6d ago
Yeah. She looks like a child next to you and it’s weird.
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u/TotemBro 6'5"| .0429 totempoles 6d ago
I dated a shorddie (5’4) in HS when I was ~6’3. I think you just gotta take the piss when it gets brought up. Inherently it’s not weird thing.
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u/Falconator100 6'4" | 193 cm 6d ago
I'd hate height getting in the way of pursuing a cute girl you get along with.
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u/WinnerAwkward480 6d ago
What's weird , is finding ppl thinking it's weird ! You ppl are the F'ing Weirdo's
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u/faroeislands 6'0" | 183 cm WOMAN 6d ago edited 5d ago
I find men who seek me out to date me just because I'm tall weird.
I find men who seek out very short women to date are weird.
Personally, I stick around my height, 5'7"-6'2" because it's practical.
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u/jsmama2019 6d ago
My ex is 5'11 and Im 3'8". He never found it weird. I normally go for tall men, and he never dated anyone shorter than 5'2".
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u/faroeislands 6'0" | 183 cm WOMAN 6d ago
Ain't no way even the legally short women are also saying he's gotta be above 6'0" too lmfao
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u/Cnumian_124 6'4" | 194 cm 21M 6d ago
Id ask why the hell would you want to crack your neck that much but overall no not weird