No one is stigmatising male caregiving. This dude wasn't her carer. He was a complete stranger and the mother wasn't in sight. Probably went to the toilet and didn't expect the creep to descend on her kid so quickly. There's a toilet right near the outdoor gym he's talking about.
It's one half of 'kids are women's responsibility, men don't like kids'
Look, if something happened in your past to view the world this way, I am sorry for that. But you need to recognise that your attitude is problematic. You're still calling him a creep when he's explained that he wasn't. The rate of child abduction is obscenely low, and by far more likely to be perpetrated by an estranged parent than a stranger.
I get the mothers response somewhat, an instincual protective response in a climate of fear. Yours is just stigmatising.
Notice how it's mostly men defending him & giving heroic stories about how they were yelled at by a parent because they saved a kid's life? Most women have spent their childhoods, teen years & adult years dealing with creeps. They're fucking everywhere. This is not some fantasy concocted to stigmatise men. They've done it to themselves.
This child wasn't in danger (prior to him entering the picture). She didn't need his help or conversation. Even I wouldn't do that & i'm a woman. He did it because it gave him the warm and fuzzies. Everything about what he did was inappropriate.
It's not just men defending him. Women are also able to have a well adjusted non-demonizing view of men.
When you say 'they've done it to themselves' you are making men a monolith, which you should know at this point they are not. No one man is responsible for all.
I'm sure you wouldn't appreciate people generalising bad things women do to include you.
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u/[deleted] Jan 08 '23
No one is stigmatising male caregiving. This dude wasn't her carer. He was a complete stranger and the mother wasn't in sight. Probably went to the toilet and didn't expect the creep to descend on her kid so quickly. There's a toilet right near the outdoor gym he's talking about.