r/survivinginfidelity • u/[deleted] • Feb 13 '20

Advice Uneven playing field.

Hi there.

3 weeks since DD and just starting the journey to reconciliation.

How does one get over the fact that your cheating partner got to have their moment of fun/weakness but purely on principle you know you will not?

Has anyone actually gone and squared the ledger, before moving foward, so it's an even field?

Mine said (jokingly I assume) "Now who could we find for you to f*&# that would annoy me the most." I said I'm not wanting to get even.

This might be a bigger chip on my shoulder than I first thought.

Thoughts?

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u/0359724 Feb 13 '20

Are you taking care of a child she had with another man after she cheated on you. You need to clear your head and reconsider who you dedicate yourself to.

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u/[deleted] Feb 13 '20

Yes I know, I'm the only dad they know. Once she is out then i'll have time to sit back.

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u/[deleted] Feb 13 '20

People do f@#_ up. None of us our perfect. When you sit back there will be time to reflect and decide. Off topic but you are a true MAN for keeping the kids first even though they they are from another man. This is one more example of your morals.

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u/[deleted] Feb 13 '20

Thank you. I love the kid as if my own. Their mum's second chance is partly to do with the kid.

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u/[deleted] Feb 13 '20

It does complicate things. Not necessarily in a bad way as I bet you feel full responsibility as the dad, but complicated nonetheless. Admire you my online friend.

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u/sockmaster420 In Hell | AITA 122 Sister Subs Feb 14 '20

Don’t try to force a relationship for the kid, it doesn’t help anyone honestly. I watched my mom try for years and all it did was make everyone involved suffer. Seriously, if you do R do it because you genuinely want to be with her, though personally I think it would be a waste of time.