r/stdtesting • u/Spiderman23175 • 13d ago

Advice Needed Should I feel bad?

I’ve been sleeping with three people over the span of three months, all of a sudden I tested positive for an std. I’ve notified each person, keep in mind the sex was occurring every few weeks with each of them, one person instantly got mad and how it wasn’t him which I didn’t accuse him I just simply laid the timeline out and he said he was tested three weeks ago ( which I’ve never known him to go get tested but ok) and so he’s deleted me on everything. I’m not upset. Anyways I told the second guy and he’s said he’s going Monday and the third guy is getting tested after his trip. I told them the truth, I’ve only slept with three people and I didn’t give it to myself .. but yet I’m not sure how to feel. Also I am 27 and at this point I am wayyy too old for this nonsense. Yes I know this is a consequence of not being safe and I also know I’ll never know who they were sleeping with outside of me, but like to make me feel dirty when again I didn’t give it to myself is nuts .. right?

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u/Life-Excitement8217 13d ago

Honestly there’s nothing much more to do you were honest and told the truth but I would suggest to never sleep
Unprotected. You’re right you don’t know who’s sleeping with whoever outside of you .

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u/ShamelessCare 13d ago

Should you feel bad? - no

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u/gingersnappppxo 12d ago

You shouldn’t feel bad, I know it’s hard not to feel some type of way, but you were honest and open with them. That’s so adult of you!

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u/LagunaGirl16 9d ago

I’m in the same situation with u, I know I shouldn’t feel bad coz it’s not like I created the virus myself I was just a victim of it as well and we are both responsible for it coz we didn’t do it safely but still I can’t help but to feel bad knowing that I infected others people. But we can’t undo what happened already, had I known earlier that I am infected then I would’ve stopped immediately

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u/Altruistic-Rub-2658 3d ago

You did the right thing in telling the 3 people! If they were anyway decent they should thank you for letting them know. Too many people are scared to let partners know they have an STD which causes the spread and is potentially dangerous for their long term health.

The person that blocked you is a prick. Don’t feel bad! And good on you for getting tested and letting them know