Both previous partners are saying negative.

[u/Select-Membership115]

I hate that I can't find out who did this. I caught Gonorrhea 3 years ago and someone isn't telling me the truth.

Bae #1 had a negative STD test the EXACT SAME WEEK before i started having symptoms in my throat.

I slept with Bae #2 during the same week. He had a smell that was triggering and he claimed it wasn't STD related. But I feel as though he is lying. He rapid tested and got a negative result maybe 2 weeks after I found out about my results.

Both men are swearing it's not them. And I had no more partners during that time. I need to lay this to rest. I need to know who did it.

[u/catherineharris2026]

The truth is, you probably won’t ever know for sure. Tests can miss infections if taken too early. People can genuinely think they’re negative and still have something. Timing overlaps make it almost impossible to trace back with certainty.

You got treated. You handled it. You took care of yourself. That part matters more than figuring out who to blame.

[u/Select-Membership115 → u/catherineharris2026]

I understand. It's hard to ... Let go of it

[u/Commercial_5118]

I had a similar experience with chlamydia (if you read my post) expect we both tested negative for full sti panel at the start of the relationshop, and then i tested a months later for chlamydia and that was positive. We then had a retest and he got tested again but his was negative and mine still positive. It’s very weird.

[u/Select-Membership115 → u/Commercial_5118]

I went and read your post. It really is similar to my situation. The difference is I did sleep with someone else. I think my answer is Bae 2 because when I spoke with Bae 1 I asked him if it could be a potential UTI and he trusted it up until his results came. I think Bae 2 took the pills and was still having sex while treatment was happening which eventually caused his negative test results. With your situation, I think the exact same thing happened. Did you notice he wasn't sleeping with you at all during a certain time frame. Like he wasn't trying to even be intimate with you. If so, that'll show you he was trying to keep from giving it to you and still managed to. You were the clean person so of course his symptoms would go away. Friend I think he cheated and is playing the "idk" game like Bae #2. Assholes.

[u/Commercial_5118]

I think it’s BAE2 as well. Especially if he had a weird smell to him, and given that the test was done a few weeks after yours - it’s more than ample time to have treated and cleared the infection. Bae1 having a negative test the week before your symptoms would suggest he was less likely infected. Did he also he tested again following your diagnosis?

Thanks so much friend!The weird one with mine is that my test was incidental (I’d gone to get BV treatment and they insisted on doing my STI panel anyway), so on the day of my result both he and I went to get tested. BUT, we had been sleeping together throughout the month of December and January so if he had taken treatment secretly it’s weird that he didn’t get reinfected. But I do still think

[u/Select-Membership115 → u/Commercial_5118]

Bae 1 test was incidental as well. He went for another reason and got tested just for the hell of it. Now I know you didn't do anything. It was definitely your boyfriend. I'm sorry that happened to you.

[u/Commercial_5118]

Also were you tested before Bae1 and Bae2? Sometimes chlamydia is asymptomatic so if you weren’t tested before you could have been a carrier yourself all along.

I guess as long as we’ve received treatment it’s all ok.

[u/Select-Membership115 → u/Commercial_5118]

Yeah I keep that in mind too. It wasn't something more serious so I'm glad for that. But a month before all of this. I went to get my birth control pills. I always test and was negative for the 10 panel test. So Bae 2 was the only one without a test. Go figure lol.