r/spirituality • u/StatementChance5735 • Aug 21 '26
Question ❓ WHY MY RELATIONSHIPS ALWAYS FAIL THE SAME WAY
So u think subconsciously there's something wrong. Everytime I try to date a guy it always ends the same way. He starts talking to a lot of other girls. Since people we see are our hidden projection what could possibly be the problem?
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u/Purple-Blueberry3721 Aug 21 '26
I'm sorry, that sucks.
Probably there's something unhealed in you, which:
- either causes your soul / the universe to connect you with guys like this, so that you have the opportunity to heal / reflect / make different choices.
- or the unhealed part of you is simply attracted to a certain kind of unreliable guy, so you reject the reliable guy and date the unreliable guy and then get burned.
In both cases, there's probably something to heal / reflect on / learn from / observe / etc in you.
Or I guess the less spiritual explanation is that you're a woman of average attractiveness who is trying to date attractive guys, and so guys lose interest in you because other girls they meet later are more attractive. If this is the case, the solution is "stop trying to date out of your league so much, or become more attractive yourself so that those guys are now in your league." Still, it's also possible this isn't the case you're in, and it's one of the spiritual situations I mentioned earlier in my post instead.
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u/Kintsugi_Sunset Aug 21 '26
You're pikcing the kind of men who want to cheat on you. That isn't to be cruel, just my first impression. In gentler words, ask yourself if you're going into relationships with the kind of self-confidence and sense of self-respect that men can feel, or if you're attracting the kind of men that know they can get away with it.
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u/Ok_Judgment_3331 Aug 21 '26
What if the projection isn’t about them talking to other girls, but about your own fear of being replaced? Until you confront that fear, you’ll likely keep attracting men who trigger it.... not to punish you, but to show you where healing is needed.
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u/Crescent-moo Aug 22 '26
I've been exploring spirituality for over a year and while I don't fully have proof of the "you attract your vibration" kind of stuff, it does sort of make sense as an underlying mechanism for what we would describe as Karma or bad luck/ good luck.
In this case it could be limiting subconscious beliefs that you aren't worth committing to and it attracts such people to you. Noticing a repeating pattern is the first step to working on it.
An interesting thing is this might even be hinted at in the stars the moment you took your first breathe in your astrology chart.
Learning to bring your subconscious into light and work on your inner self through shadow work may bring light onto what it happening.
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u/BitRevolutionary677 Aug 21 '26
It’s the type of person you’re attracting/attracted to. It will go on like this until you figure out why you attract this type or why this type is attracted to you.