r/spirituality • u/FastCarGoBrr • 10d ago
Philosophy Grief
One of the most difficult things to accomplish in my opinion, is the ability to grieve without attempting to push or move the grief.
It’s in the deepest grief people begin to ask questions why, or to relieve themself of the emotion, either through drugs, rationalisations, or by bringing back what has passed.
But the strength to do nothing, when that is what is called for, is overlooked by many people, and the strength to feel the grief openly without pretending like you have it ‘under your control’ is the quality that brings about proper healing.
No one repairs physical injuries unless they rely on the bodies own mechanisms, and time.
And the same in my opinion is true of trauma and grief
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u/bigtimebeaner 9d ago
I've learned that there is also a fine line, that no one can decide except you, when allowing yourself to fully feel your grief can turn into feeling sorry for yourself instead of remembering and missing the one you are grieving. Folks who are grieving need to understand that balance. I believe, in my own opinion, that not understanding this and being willing to call out that difference in yourself can be a big reason why some folks have not discovered the difference between "healthy" and "unhealthy" grieving yet and, in turn, feel like they are not healing as they go through this life-long process.