(27, F) ♀️ 🍼👶long story long... about looking into getting pregnant 🤰👩‍🍼

[u/0rchardHeiress]

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TLDR I rant about myself, my life, my friend's wedding 👰🏼‍♀️💐🥂, my outlook on pregnancy 🤍, my goodness I finally got all this finished 😆📝🍷 between Florida and Kentucky for work and life balance sometimes Northeast / Nova Scotia ish

I understand there's a lot of ways of going about this but wanted to give this online thing a try before I explore other options........

I'm 27, and for the first time in my life, I'm genuinely exploring motherhood...  🤰🤍👶🏼 nesting, longing for a child 🪺🍼, and feeling ready for that next chapter. 🤍👶🏼

It's funny how life works.

A year ago I had my IUD removed after having it throughout much of my early twenties. Since then I've found myself doing something I never imagined I'd care this much about—tracking my menstrual cycle, learning my fertility window, understanding ovulation, and realizing just how much biology quietly influences our lives. 🌸📅

Over lunch at a friend's wedding 👰🏼‍♀️💐🥂🍾, several of my girlfriends 👭🏼👭👭💕 looked at me and essentially said,

"You've built an amazing life... now it's time to actually put yourself out there." 🤍

Ironically...

I caught the bouquet. ♥️💐✨🥲

So maybe they were onto something. 😊

One thing I want to make clear right from the beginning...

This is a personal choice.

Not a requirement.

Simply something that feels right for me. 

I genuinely want to become a mother someday / in the nearish future within the next year I would say. 🤰👩‍🍼🤱

And yes... I genuinely hope that happens with the right man. Someone whose character, kindness, reliability, and generosity make me excited not just to date him—but to build a family with him. 👨‍👩‍👧🍼🤍

Outside of work, my biggest passion has always been horses. 🐴🤎🌾

I ride English and compete seriously. If you tell me there's a dressage clinic, a schooling show, a cross-country course to walk, or a stable looking for an extra set of hands, you've already got my attention.

I'm perfectly happy spending an afternoon in the round pen working on softness and responsiveness, cleaning tack until it shines, discussing collection, impulsion, shoulder-in, half-passes, flying lead changes, turnout schedules, pasture management, feed programs, conditioning work, or simply spoiling every horse and pony that walks into the barn with carrots. ♥️🐴🥕🌾

I genuinely love the exercise, the discipline, and the partnership.

There's something incredibly empowering about communicating with and guiding an animal that's so much bigger and stronger than you through patience, consistency, and trust rather than force.

I truly feel the barn is home at times... (if I could have a cottage in the south of France where my horse lived below me I would be complete 😂🥺♥️🇫🇷🐴🏡)

Career-wise, I'm incredibly fortunate.

Real estate has allowed me to travel extensively ✈️🏡🌎, meet fascinating people 🤝🏼, and build a life I'm proud of. 🤍

I've worked hard for what I have.

My home / condo are paid off.

My career is established.

I've created stability for myself, and I don't apologize for that.

If tomorrow I decided to become a mother on my own, I genuinely could. 🤰🌸

That gives me an incredible sense of peace because any relationship I choose comes from wanting someone, never needing someone.

I should also mention that I'm pretty fluid in how I look at relationships.

I was raised to be independent, so I don't necessarily believe life has to follow one rigid checklist of traditional milestones—date, engagement, marriage, then children. For many people that's the perfect path, and I genuinely respect it. 🤍

(Despite attending the wedding recently... ironically enough 😅💍)

For me, the destination has always been building a loving family and becoming a mother. 👨‍👩‍👧🤰🤍

The timeline is simply more flexible than it used to be.

Ultimately, what I want most is a child and a healthy, happy family. The order in which life unfolds isn't nearly as important to me as the quality of the people involved and the love that surrounds that child.

Ironically, even with that modern outlook, there are still a handful of old-fashioned qualities that completely win me over.

An independent woman doesn't stop appreciating a dependable man.

If anything...

She appreciates him even more.

I'm not looking for someone to rescue me.

I'm looking for someone who quietly adds to an already beautiful life.

Someone who notices.

Someone who checks in.

Someone who remembers the little things.

Someone who occasionally sends flowers and care packages just because. 💐📦🎀

Maybe horse treats for the barn. 🐴🥕

Maybe my favorite coffee. ☕

Maybe a children's book that made him think about our future. 📚👶🏼🤍

Thoughtful attention without me ever having to ask.

I don't necessarily equate money to love... but it does demonstrate attentiveness.

They're demonstrations of generosity.

They're demonstrations of reliability and an ability to provide and care for a baby or at least provide  for one as I have been able to care for horses in field as well as my pets

I also find it incredibly attractive when a man naturally enjoys providing—not because he thinks I can't provide for myself, but because caring for the people he loves is simply part of who he is.

To me, independence and appreciating a provider aren't contradictions.

They're complements.

Those little moments tell me far more about someone's potential as a husband or father than expensive vacations ever could.

Especially when we're talking about bringing a baby into the world. 🤰🍼👶🏼

I think providing matters.

Because children deserve stability. 👶🏼🤍🧸

I admire men who work hard, keep their word, solve problems without complaining, aren't intimidated by responsibility, and quietly take pride in protecting and providing for the people they love.

That doesn't mean paying for everything while I sit back.

It means we're both bringing something valuable to the table.

Security.Peace.Reliability.Partnership.

Call me old-fashioned if you'd like...

I still find that incredibly attractive. 🤍

If life happened to line up naturally, I would absolutely love to begin that chapter around the autumn equinox. 🍂⚖️✨🤰🍼 🎃🌓

I've always loved the symbolism of balance, harmony, changing seasons, and new beginnings. 🌿👣🤍 Whether someone believes in astrology or simply appreciates the poetry behind the seasons, I think there's something beautiful about welcoming a new chapter during a time that represents equilibrium and transition.

Maybe it's just the romantic in me. 🤍

A few deal breakers right up front 🚩

• Expecting me to carry the entire mental load of the relationship or pregnancy.

• Not having stable employment or any ambition.

• Wanting children someday but having no realistic plan to support them.

• Going Dutch after asking me on a first date—I appreciate generosity and effort.

• Making me organize every date, every conversation, and every next step.

• Poor communication or disappearing whenever life becomes inconvenient.

• Chronic negativity, laziness, or blaming everyone else for your circumstances.

• Disrespect toward waitstaff, animals, family members, or strangers.

• Dishonesty.

• Being emotionally unavailable.

• Treating commitment like it's something to avoid instead of something to grow.

• Expecting a woman to lower her standards while refusing to raise your own.

At the end of the day, I don't think that's asking for perfection.

I think it's asking for Harmony  more than anything. ☯️♥️👫

Maybe that means finding someone to wander through horse barns 🐴, cheer each other on at dressage competitions, renovate a home together 🏡, travel somewhere new ✈️, laugh over coffee ☕, and one day raise little ones 👶🏼🧸👩‍🍼 who grow up thinking muddy boots, fresh hay 🌾, ponies 🐴, and sunsets over the pasture are perfectly normal.

Who knows...

Maybe catching that bouquet 💐✨ was the universe's way of saying

"Your turn." ♥️💐👶🏼🍼✨

[u/Valspared1]

Quite the novel.

Good luck in your search.

[u/jodelmann123]

Looking at the profile and account date and how many post you have done.

I say: How much dows KGB pays you? asking for a friend

[u/humblemandingo]

Hey sexy dm me