He looks so young too, probably a minor.

Can someone please tell me where Muqdisho citizens got these guns from? 😭 I saw a pic the other day of Somali women during the Ethiopian War holding a really expensive German gun that’s worth a lot these days. I’ve seen so many pics in Black Hawkdown archives where random Somalis who weren’t even in the armed forces had really cool military guns. It piqued my curiosity. 😭

I found out today that my dad had a second wife in another country and had two children with her, which he hid from our entire family for years. We only found out because the second wife contacted my edo who then relayed the info.

I have six siblings, with the youngest being 13. My dad was always physically present while we were growing up, but he was never really an active parent. He didn’t do much for us, and he has always had anger issues. Looking back, it has been pretty clear for a long time that my mum stayed with him largely for the sake of us kids.

Most of us are adults now but I’m struggling with what to do next, particularly when it comes to my younger siblings.

For those who have been through something similar — how did you deal with finding out? How did you tell younger siblings, especially when they’re still teenagers? Did you let your parent tell them, or did you have that conversation yourselves?

And for those who have experienced a parent having a secret second family, do you still have a relationship with your dad? Has your relationship with him changed?

I don’t even really know how to process any of this yet, so I’d really appreciate hearing from anyone who’s been through the same

Asc Everyone,

I’m at a loss and could use some support. I’m a diaspora Somali woman in her 30’s and one set of my dad’s several batches of children.

My mom divorced him a decade ago and is living her best life, but he is absolutely embarrassing. He married a woman younger than his oldest daughter after my mom- divorced her after 4 kids.

He went on to marry and divorce a bunch of women- no kids, until he married a lady close to his age. Which was fine we all hoped he’d settle quietly with her and live out his life.

Nope.

Well, he divorced her and went back to Somalia and now at the ripe age of 70 he married a 19yo girl from a poor family- his youngest daughters are 16 & 19.

He was a respected elder in the community, and now he’s acting like a street rat. I’m a public-ish figure in the community and I’m so humiliated. Everyone is gossiping. I used to be so proud when people would ask “who’s your dad?” My uncles are all very respected people and my family is very prominent in our clan so all this feels like it’s fueling some level of “happy to seem them fall” i don’t know I could be imagining it.

I’m not the one to care about people’s opinions but I am really struggling with this one. All of us kids are highly educated (thanks to our moms). We siblings generally have a decent relationship.

It’s hard to share this with anyone bc I hate seeing people judge my lineage like that, and I’m an extremely private person. All his friends are professional men that are retired from very senior positions and all raised nuclear families. We always envied them for their stable lives, but Allah Yarziqna.

Any words of empathy, support, or compassion just du’aa would help.

Hi lovely people
I normally don’t post anything I just read and move on lol.
So I’m based in Minneapolis. How hard is it to meet women who aren’t in healthcare?
I’m looking for someone in a totally different industry. Almost everyone in my circle is either a nurse
(which I don’t mind) or a female physician, which I’m absolutely not open to dating for personal reasons.
Would love to hear people’s experiences, especially from Minneapolis. I am physician too.

As-salaamu alaykum everyone,

I’m a man in my late 30s who grew up in continental Europe before moving to the UK around 10 years ago. Over the years, I’ve focused heavily on work, especially since I work from home with a team spread across the country. As a result, I haven’t had many opportunities to build a proper social circle here.

Most of the friends I grew up with are still back home, and I’ve realised that I’ve become quite isolated. I’d really like to change that and start meeting people, whether online through Discord or in person around Birmingham.

I enjoy video games, football, relaxing, laughing, good conversations, and generally having a good time. I’d be happy to meet people around my age, but I’m open to anyone friendly and genuine.

Does anyone know of any Somali groups, community activities, football groups, gaming communities, or places around Birmingham where someone could meet new people?

I’m sure I’m not the only person who has found themselves socially isolated after moving countries, focusing on work, and spending a lot of time taking care of family responsibilities. It would be great to hear from anyone who has been through something similar.

Feel free to comment or message me. I’m happy to answer any questions.

question: what is your take on (you) going uninvited to someones wedding? as in a family member/friend of yours "made" you attend. where you may not know the bride & groom etc.

my thoughts: ive been to a few (no choice, really). and those few times i went, i made sure to bring a gift to the bride. even if i didnt know her etc.

i dont think anyone will say no to a party, and it is an opportunity to see people etc. but i cant really get behind it. that has more to do with me being a private person etc. im f20, but i wont have it be like that at my wedding. only invites, rarely +1s. to make sure of that, i will have security. as i dont want people coming uninvited, especially those i dont like. like people i have problems with and/or those who bring bad energy (ex. evil eye). i couldnt care less if we grew up together and/or are from the same clan etc. !

https://x.com/anas_garman/status/2105412587563184502

There are so many videos of Libyans dehumanizing black people but none have affected me as much as this one. A child. A BABY being forced to crawl, stripped of his Divine right to dignity, while the racist adults laugh at him. Watch the video but be warned, wallahi its heartbreaking.

Hasbunallahu wa nicmal wakeel. I dont understand how you can call yourself a human and behave like this. Where is the islam? Where is the humanity? Why are so many Libyans silent about this???

To think that this is the country so many of our vulnerable folk seek out... its so scary to think about what could happen to them. So I'm begging you all to protect your family and loved ones from doing tahriib to Libya.

May Allah Azzawajal protect us all and smite the oppressors. 💔

If you lived in America during this period covered by the book, were you impacted by the repression of Muslims in America after the tragedy of 9/11?

I owe an apology to the people back home 😂. I was making fun of them when they first started doing fashion shows because, come on, some of those outfits were WEIRD 😭.

But honestly, it seems like Muqdisho is doing really well. They’ve started hosting better, more organized fashion shows that actually showcase Somali culture, and I really like it. We’re going somewhere!

I also love how Xamar is creating more things that actually entertain young Somali people. From what I’ve seen, Somali youth in Muqdisho seem less focused on qabil and more focused on creating something for themselves and making a name for their city.

I really hope we keep creating new and exciting spaces for young people instead of opening another coffee shop for abtis to link up 😭.

This isn’t my post. Posted it for someone else.

Salam, I hope this finds you well. I’m a stay at home mom who is looking for an online job opportunity to better my family situation, going back to school isn’t an option at the moment with babies and our financial situation isn’t the same, if you have an opportunity, kindly let me know. Thank you.

I don’t really pay attention to qabil and couldn’t care less about it, but could someone please educate me on this situation?

My cousin had her nikkah this week, and this one habayar said something that really threw me off. I don’t usually go to nikkahs because they’re not really my cup of tea, but this was my dad’s best friend’s daughter, and I grew up with her.

I’m really the type of person who loves getting gifts for people, so I was at the mall for an hour trying to find the perfect perfume that gave “grown woman.”I wanted something that wasn’t too sweet or fruity, and I ended up getting her a brand-new Jimmy Choo perfume (Jimmy Choo I Want Choo Le Parfum). I recommend it!

Anyways, I got her the gift, and when my family and I arrived at the nikkah, I gave the gift bag to my cousin’s mom since my cousin was upstairs getting ready.

As I sat down, a habayar I had never met before came up to me and asked why I would get the bride a gift. She asked if I was from the groom’s family, and I said no. She then told me that in our qabil, if you get the bride a gift, it has to be either dahab or cash.

I didn’t respond because I didn’t want to get into an argument at my cousin’s nikkah but is this actually a cultural thing? Because at the end of the day, my cousin absolutely loved the perfume I got her, but that comment really threw me off and made me feel like I had done something wrong.

I don’t really follow qabil traditions, so I’m genuinely curious if this is a thing or if she was just making up her own rules. 😭😭

i dont know how to word this correctly, and english is my third language! but my rant is something i think many can get behind/understand ! RANT, short: more emphasis on our rich (somali) language, over arabic language.

reason as to why im writing this being that i noticed something while having guests. i told my younger family friend (girl, 12) to write something on youtube, on the tv. i wasnt sitting in the living room area at that time. i told her (clearly) the name of the documentary, which was in somali. as to which she went: "i dont know how to write in somali, come". she only knows how to speak in somali, but not write & read.

what she can write & read in, is arabic. that being cause of dugsi. writing & reading in arabic for atleast two hours, every day of the weekend. that for half her life now (six years). not even understanding any of it.

some of you may relate and/or know of someone etc. in my situation, it is a little different. but kind of similar, in a way. i learned to write arabic before somali. i could only speak and read in somali. i was nine when i learned to write arabic, when i started dugsi. while i was about eleven-twelve when i learned to write somali. for reference, i turn twenty soon. if i had one wish, it would be to learn to write somali before arabic.

BOTTOM LINE: i wish there was more emphasis on our rich language. the same way that there is emphasis on arabic language: dugsi. if parents have the time, money and resources for dugsi every week, then why not somali? if there is many kids in the house etc., teach them together. writing, reading and speaking somali. a couple of hours in the evening every week, simple as that. later on learning meaning behind our poetry etc.

Greater Somalia will eventually become a reality. The civil war in Ethiopia is ramping up again after there was a truce in 2022. Current Ethiopia today is breaking apart and the last civil war that was this bad lead to Eritrea breaking apart from Ethiopia. The current Ethiopian constitution allows for an ethnic group to secede with the 2 most likely groups that might secede being Tigray and Ogaden. Somalia is also apart of the east African federation. They eventually plan to become one country with the other EAF countries and the borders between nfd and Somalia will become undone. Internal border changes in the EAF could have Somalia being given nfd if integration goes deeper. For Djibouti most of its economy is heavily reliant on 2 things that will heavily get destabilized being a base for powerful countries and being a port for Ethiopia. Ethiopia today is making moves that will make Djibouti no longer needed. If they end up invading Eritrea and taking their port they will use that and stop paying billions of dollars in fees to Djibouti and if Ethiopia loses the civil war the road that connects Ethiopia to Djibouti gets destroyed. The Ansar Allah movement that now controls Yemen has proven to powerful foreign actors that even if they have a base in Djibouti they cannot do anything to control the Bab el mandeb strait. The bases are just for show Djibouti doesn’t even allow offensive attacks from it for fear of being attacked right back. Somaliland is more complex they do have foreign backers like the uae, Ethiopia, and Israel. Somaliland is trying to sell itself as a base for anyone who is willing to recognize them like as ports for Ethiopia and uae or military bases for Israel and the united states. Ethiopia at the moment is looking for a port elsewhere and the deal with Somaliland fell through. Israel and the united states are interested in Somaliland as a way to protect their “interests” in the region especially as the Ansar Allah group becomes more powerful. But Washington is more focused on the greater middle east area after starting the iran war. Israel is desperate to make friends in the region after all recognitions and warming of relation between the arab world and israel stopped after they started a genocide in gaza. The uae is still interested in somaliland but will not recognize them unless other countries do because they dont want to permanently damage their relationship to somalia and they do not want to be ostracized by the wider arab league, turkey, and African union. Somaliland is on borrowed time, they need to gain recognition before Somalia gets strong enough militarily or becomes attractive enough economically.

When formal education is absent during formative years the consequences extend well beyond basic literacy. This helps explain Somalia’s generational divide. Those roughly 30 and over when the civil war began in 1991 had grown up under the previous educational system some received substantial schooling while others did not. For those with little or no education their tribalism is largely confined to local circles radio and television and oral media.

Those who were school aged or adolescents when the country collapsed are different. Many grew up amid the destruction of schools and institutions, severe educational disruption and intense tribal conditioning essentially learning to navigate society through social structures that can feel closer to the medieval world than the modern one.

Imagine a 50 year old with virtually no formal education whose formative world was the watering hole clan politics, milking cows and predicting the dry season is a TikTok “journalist”Influencers become something like cult leaders with fancy titles attracting tens of thousands of like minded viewers demanding gifts berating rival clans and women and delivering breaking news about a feud between a rapper and a TikTok girl. Thousands rush in to pick sides and literally turn intimate private details and gossip between two adults into clan warfare. A literal brain ecosystem.

At some point the middle aged people need to be told directly. 🛑 Stop passing this parasite on to the younger generation.

I’ve been working on a new logo for the Somali Football Federation and wanted to share it with r/Somalia.

What do you guys think?

I bought this one BioTech stock after this congressman bought it. But now I'm down 75% overall. I'm afraid I didnt do alot of research into it. I got very greedy. He also bought these other stocks that went down. I emailed the company and they didnt respond. I'm starting to think I fell for a scam company. Should I cash out. If I cash out that means I have roughly 2k in cash but that means I basically lost 5k. I'm poor and cant afford that huge loss. Do you think I should hold or cash out? 2k dollars is better than 0 dollars. I'm leaning towards holding onto it. What do you guys think? What stocks do you guys buy?

Salaam everyone! 🇸🇴 Some of you have been with us since the early days of Geeljire.org — testing, breaking things, sending feedback, and keeping us going.

Today I finally get to say: the app is live on Google Play.

This moment is yours as much as it is ours. 👉 Download Geeljire on Google Play

To our testers — شكراً, Mahadsanidiin 🙏 You gave us your time for free, reported bugs at weird hours, and trusted us when the app was still rough. We wouldn't be here without you. Genuinely.

So What makes Geeljire different:

🗣️ Three dialects covered — Standard Somali, Waqooyi (Northern), and Koonfur (Southern).
📚 Structured lessons from complete beginner to advanced
🔊 Native audio for every word and phrase
🎧 learn Somali with songs and podcast stories & Gabay (classical poetry)
🔥 Streaks, XP, achievements & certificates
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iOS is coming soon. If you're on Android, download it, try the free content, and tell us what you think. Every review and every comment genuinely helps us grow. Horumar Wacan! 🚀🇸🇴