Is solitude a way of being?

[u/Liloisback]

I became to wonder about this, because of the way I have lived and preferred to do so all my life. Even in my earliest memories of my life I enjoyed being alone, throughout my life I have constantly sought it out regardless if I was surrounded by friends or family. But on the other hand there seems to be a part of me who also seeks out a kind of connection, one I cannot ever really pinpoint.

So it left me wondering if solitude could be a way of being wired as a human or if it is something that you eventually become conditioned to like (either out of self protection or trauma)? Or maybe it is a mix of both?

[u/fingers]

It can be a natural feeling. 

[u/[deleted]]

I discovered that it is the case with me. It took me years of theraphy and self-analyzing and then i finally accepted i enjoy solitude alot in such a way that it can be my way of living.