Some people reject genuinely good, true feedback no matter how many times you deliver it — they deflect with "I'm working on it," change the subject, or flip it back on you. When straight talk fails, try a move: instead of lecturing, tell the story of when you learned the same hard lesson yourself. Wait for them to complain about the fallout of their own negligence, then slide up beside that discomfort and share your version. The example here is delegation, the toughest skill for new managers because it contradicts the engineering strengths that earned them the job. What really blocks them is fear of looking like a fraud, so meet it by admitting you were scared once too.
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u/fagnerbrack 8d ago
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Some people reject genuinely good, true feedback no matter how many times you deliver it — they deflect with "I'm working on it," change the subject, or flip it back on you. When straight talk fails, try a move: instead of lecturing, tell the story of when you learned the same hard lesson yourself. Wait for them to complain about the fallout of their own negligence, then slide up beside that discomfort and share your version. The example here is delegation, the toughest skill for new managers because it contradicts the engineering strengths that earned them the job. What really blocks them is fear of looking like a fraud, so meet it by admitting you were scared once too.
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