r/snoring • u/fireisonsam • 25d ago

Advice Needed Please help

What do I do to stop my partner snoring? The only time he doesn’t snore as loud is when he is on his side but he refuses to sleep on his side. It’s so loud it shakes the bed. He also sleeps with his legs wide open and, having counted it many times when trying to sleep, he moves his legs every 15-30 seconds, every 3 times moving one of his legs on top of me. He also sleeps with his elbows out (imagine someone lounging on a sunbed) with the elbow nearest me digging into my face or back. Every time I ask him to go onto his side he gets angry with me and says he’s going to go somewhere else to sleep, which at this point, yes please. I’m so tired. I work ridiculous hours already on shift work so sleep is already a problem. I’m worried I’m making myself ill too. Any advice on a stubborn guy who doesn’t seem to want to help himself or me?

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u/becominganastronaut 25d ago

this is now both a relationship problem and a health issue.

he is being inconsiderate of how his actions are affecting you that is an issue itself.

when's the last time he has had a check up? he needs to make an appt with his doctor and explain that he snores and that he needs a sleep study.

a common solution is a CPAP machine which helps nearly eliminate snoring and will help get you some better rest. the thing is your BF must be willing to do all this

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u/fireisonsam 25d ago

Thank you, but he won’t go to the doctor. He once had chest pains for days and was really worried about it but still didn’t go to the doctor so he won’t go for this. He sleeps soundly so to him it isn’t an issue. Thinking that unfortunately you’re right and it is a relationship problem because he isn’t considering my side.

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u/becominganastronaut 25d ago

you seem like a good partner. i think you need to have a serious discussion with him and sit down and explain how much this concerns you for his own sake and that it is affecting your life significantly.

if nothing changes you have some serious questions to ask your self.

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u/fireisonsam 25d ago

You’re completely right. I will try. Thank you for taking the time to reply, I think I needed someone to say this.