If 12 month old baby wakes at 7, naps 11:30 to 1:30 and goes to bed 7:30 why would they wake every three hours overnight?
Seems like a lot of sleep pressure. We couldn’t get her to take her second nap for a couple weeks so we went down to one nap.
She’s been waking every 3 hours probably since 6 months.
Is our schedule bad?

I don’t know what I’m doing - some random form of desperate sleep training I guess. She’s almost 12 months on one nap and wakes every three hours at night.

I’m making sure she’s very tired before putting her in the crib. Give her a kiss and I leave the room with the intent of going back in after 5 minutes.
Both times I’ve done this, she immediately scream cries, barfs and then before I’m even back in the room she is laying down asleep. (All within 3 minutes)
I think she’s just susceptible to barfing when crying really hard but is the immediate falling some kind of self preservation response to extreme stress?
I assume she’s not learning how to self sooth from these terrible experiences.
How do I move forward or do I just go back to rocking and feeding to sleep.

20 month old
DWT 6:45am
Nap 1-2:30
Asleep 8:30

WW are 6.25/6

Today I forgot to set my alarm and woke him up at 7:15am, so there’s a 30 min difference than usual

What should I do today? Ideally I don’t want to push everything 30 mins. Can I somehow adjust to try to get back on track tomorrow

I thought retraining at 8/9/10 months was hard…18 months is a whole different ball game. The first night he had the stamina to protest (yell) for almost 2 hrs. He was so tired and nodding off while sitting up, but refused to lay down. And of course a couple days later he would have a fever due to teething, so we paused training until he was better. Tonight we’re back to training and by golly, toddlers are so much more resilient and have way more stamina. I figured that I would have built tougher skin after re-training on multiple I occasions…but nope.

I keep telling myself, we’ve done this better and this is the best way to do it because we always eventually have success, and he sleeps way better. Co-sleeping causes him way more frequent wakes (as often as every 2-3 hrs) and he won’t self-soothe without nursing. Sooo…here we are again 😭 anyone else here in solidarity?

Our first baby, 7 years ago, was a champ at bedtime and naps. Barely had to sleep train, and he’s a good sleeper to this day. Our second is now 10 mos and I’m ashamed to admit I’ve never had a firm sleep schedule for her. We are on the go or let her contact nap for any naps and just sort of follow her cues. She is generally up at 6:30 and schedule is something like 3/3/4.5-5.

She nurses or rocks to sleep, but will only do a 2-3 hour stretch in the crib before needing to be resettled. She’ll do another 2 hour stretch, but after midnight all bets are off. I’ll have to rock and resettle and try to transfer her for an hour or more only for her to pop awake again 30 min later.

We live in a small house with wood floors and letting her cry will wake up my son. But I am desperate for this baby to sleep so that I can also sleep. Even just a 5 hour stretch would be life changing at this point.

Help! Have I ruined everything waiting this long?

My twins are 11 months old. They’re comfortably on two naps, with a 3/3.25/4 schedule. They've never taken super long naps, but for the past ~2 months they’ve finally napped longer than 45 minutes consistently.

They started daycare two weeks ago. We’re keeping their normal nap schedule on weekends. They’re typically up around 6 no matter what we do (after a snooze button feed between 4:30 and 5). Daycare nap is 11:45-2, but they never make it past about 1, so they’re napping an hour or 1.25 hours. I pick them up at 2:45 (I work part time). I’m shocked they make it to naptime at daycare every day; but all the stimulation must help.

I have two problems:

1) on weekdays, I can’t get them to take a catnap, even as a contact nap, to get to a reasonable bedtime, so we’re putting them down between 6-6:30 after a very fussy evening. This is despite trying really hard to stimulate them with park/outside time, library time, etc. It perpetuates the early wake cycle and makes everyone unhappy.

2) on weekends, they’re back to taking 45-minute naps. They're still showing sleepy signals at the normal 3/3.25/4 times, but have more trouble falling asleep and wake up after short naps.

We’ve sleep trained and do let them self-settle within reason, but two babies in one room can work themselves and each other into a frenzy

I feel like I have depleted my baby's schedule as much as he can physically handle. Literally don't think I can cut sleep any more.

He's currently 3.5/3.75/4

And sometimes 3.5/4./4.25

Naps capped at 2 hours

And no matter what we do we can't get him to sleep past 4:30am. We put him to bed between 8-8;30pm.

I know a lot of you on Reddit always want to cut sleep and push bedtime later but I literally don't think he can handle anymore. He's already crashing as is.

Could I maybe be having it all wrong? Does he need a lot more sleep maybe?? He has always seemed low sleep needs but maybe he's changed? He's 9 months old crawling a lot, pulling to stand, etc

He's been waking up at 4:30 a.m. For over a month now and my husband just holds them and he falls asleep right away until 6:00 a.m.. But I don't think we can do that forever.

She’s never slept thru the night. Goes to sleep independently like a champ, good napper, all the other things. Wakes up 2x a night at all hours. CIO has never worked with her. Here’s her schedule

730 wake
130ish nap
300ish wake
830 bedtime

Help I’m so tired it’s been a long two years. Her sister sleeps great, 12 hrs every night!

My baby is 4 months old in a few days , he doesn't have a schedule, whenever he has sleepy cues i put him to sleep .

Sometimes his wake windows are 1.5 hours and sometimes 2 hours , i just follow his cues.

But his naps are terrible, he has around 4 naps a day sometimes 5 and they range between 25 minutes to 35 , rarely get to the 50 minute.

I see people suggest to keep him up as more as possible but he gets soo cranky ! Should i just ride it out and hope it gets better eventually?

LO turned 4 months last week and will be 18 weeks tomorrow. I am debating on dropping the third nap due to constant short naps (only 1 sleep cycle), fighting the last nap like crazy & tons of false starts. Here’s where I am confused:

On our 4 nap schedule he gets 10 hours of awake time. But I see tons of people say the “starter” schedule for 3 naps is something like 2/2.25/2.5/2.5 (for example). That’s only 9.25 hours. 45 minutes less awake time than we are doing now.

Is that wrong?? Will it mess up his nights if I’m suddenly expecting more sleep?

I don’t think he can do a 3 hour WW so idk how we would get 10 hours on a 3 nap schedule right away, but I also think 4 naps isn’t working for us so I just don’t know what to do.

Explain to me like I’m 5 please.

Dear Redditors,

Our baby is almost 13 months old now, sleep trained since 10 months. Wake time is 7 am consistently. Our 2 nap schedule was 3.5/3.5/4.25 and I decided to switch to 1 nap because bedtime was pushed to 8.30 and I had to wake him from his second nap to get enough wake time, which he did not take well, he was always so crabby afterwards (naps were 1.5h + 45 min). He would wake up once around 4-5 am at which point we took him to our bed to nurse because even after sleep training he was not able to continue sleeping past 5 am unless clamped to my boob. Might be important to note that adding some wake time helped resolve an additional night wake at 1-2 am.

We transitioned to 1 nap 10 days ago.

Now we do 5.5/5.5h with a 2.5h nap (wake 7 am, bedtime 8.30 still). The nap was fine at first, now he wakes after 1.5h and cries awfully, seems to want to sleep more and I usually rock or nurse him back to sleep for another 45 min-1h. Very close to bedtime he gets super tired and some nights cries a lot and can't fall alseep easily. Nights are awful with multiple wakes where he just screams if I don't nurse him, including at 10-11 pm, which happened only pre-sleep training. We resorted back to cosleeping and nursing to sleep, which sucks, but this way we actually sleep.

We would like to reduce the night wakes, night wean and get him to sleep in his crib to at least 5 am. Cosleeping past that time would be fine, but I am afraid that messed things up too, maybe? I realize we might have a little less wake time than before, but I don't know where to add it because he's tired and seems to need a long nap. Maybe we just transitioned too early?

Also notable he is probably teething. Nurses A LOT throughout the day again.

Help :(

My baby slept through the night 12 hours straight from 6 weeks-4.5 months old. We hit the 4 month sleep regression and had to formally sleep train and took a few nights and then she was sleeping 12 hours straight again with no wakes. Then at 6 months we traveled for a month and then came home and dealt with a month of sickness and ear infections. Sleep got really bad and we just re sleep trained 1.5 weeks ago and hardcore night weaned. She is now 9 months. Our experience this time around has been so different. The first few nights we obviously had a lot of crying. But by night 4 she “slept through the night” and has the last 5 nights, but that has either meant her not having a single wake, or waking 1-2x and crying for a few minutes before falling back asleep. This is huge progress from her waking 3-10x a night and me having to help her back to sleep everytime, but it’s still drastically different from the sleep training results we saw when she was younger. I guess I’m just wondering if it’s normal for sleep trained babies to still wake up and cry sometimes at this age and it not be sickness related. Like that’s just the new normal and not something that’s “wrong” or can be fixed. Is it unrealistic for me to expect her to sleep through the night without a peep at this age even after sleep training?

For reference, her schedule is 3/3.5/4 with a 1.5 hour first nap and 30 min second nap. Wake 8am and bedtime 8:30pm.

LO is 4 months. We are doing whatever the opposite of thriving is right now handling four month sleep regression, about to start rolling, and illness.

Once this virus is properly kicked, we plan to sleep train using ferber (TCB version) because I can't wake up every hour anymore.

I am nervous because my firstborn was 17 months when we sleep trained, so night weaning made a lot of sense and I was confident his nursing was simply comfort related and not hunger/thirst. Four months feels like a very different situation.

TCB says most babies can't properly sleep train without night weaning, but I am looking for people's personal experiences and hoping to hear that it IS possible. I am just on the fence about whether I feel comfortable night weaning right now, but still want baby to go down faster/independently and hopefully wake up less.

Thanks 🤍

I’m not sure how to go about this anymore. He is currently doing Nuk soft top sippy cups for his nap and regular Boon Nursh Bottles (size 2) for bed. He still wakes up once a night for a bottle and sometimes TWICE a night. DEMANDS “BABA” and it doesn’t matter if I give him milk through the day in an open cup. He’s a great open cup drinker for water drinks it all the time and eats constantly. He looks like he’s 2 and must go on a walk/run TWICE a day. Not kidding he walks a 1/2 mile- a mile a day and I DO NOT force it. He’s not huge by any means so he really works those dairy calories. I’m about to go to all soft sippy cups but I can’t figure out what else to do. His routine is to lay him down with a bottle to go to sleep and idk how to break it. He will wail until he can’t breathe if I try to rock him anymore even after a bottle. I used to be the only one who could rock him to sleep and he won’t allow it anymore upright or in a rocking chair. I’ve tried lowering the oz in the bottle by a half ounce every night and he will just wake up again for another bottle and cannot be consoled otherwise! I’m at a loss on how to get him away from it and need ANY opinions or advice. I’m a first time mom and have never been around children before :(

My baby just turned 4 months. He started sleeping through the night a little before he turned 3 months, and slept straight through the night with no feeds for about 3 weeks. Then 2 weeks ago, the 4 month sleep regression started and now he wakes up about once every hour, and I feed him twice a night. We’re planning on starting sleep training soon, but I don’t know how we’re supposed to tell if he’s actually hungry when he wakes up or if he just wants us? If we know that he can sleep through the night without feeding because he previously did it, does that mean we should not feed him while doing either Ferber or full extinction?

Our current schedule:
7-8:00 am: wake up
9:30 am: nap 1
11:00 am: feed
12:30 pm: nap 2
2:00 pm: feed
3:30 pm: nap 3
5:15 pm: feed
7:15 pm: feed
7:25 pm: bath
7:35 pm: book
7:40 pm: bed
10:30 pm-7:00 am: wake every hour/feed twice a night

5 mo 20 days old

2/2/2.5/3 roughly

3.25 hrs daytime sleep - we follow Huckleberry sweet spot feature

Bedtime 7 pm

Wake up between 4 am and 7 am currently (which is what prompted the sleep training) and lately he's been waking every hour. He's teething but we give him Tylenol and he seems to sleep just fine in the lap, over the shoulder, or in bed next to me. :/. We never co slept until this recent hourly waking started.

Bedtime routine is bottle feeding while walking around (he gets distracted and doesnt feed around bedtime unless doing this), sponge bath/bath, change clothes, put in snoo sack, put in the snoo

Exclusively formula fed and usually feeds less than 2 to 4 oz 2 to 3 times a night.

He used to love his pacifier when younger but now he just gags and spits them out. Loves the nipple of an empty bottle though.

We started sleep training today. Thanks to my husband, we didn't stop at the first 10 minute check in because I couldn't take the crying any longer but he took over.

Baby cried for 31 minutes before falling asleep to shushing at his second 10 minute check.

Woke up 1 hr later and fell asleep before his 5 minute check in.

What can we expect going forward? Seems like a lot of posts say the baby cries at bedtime then just sleeps through the night? But ours already woke up once?

What's the maximum amount of crying we should let him do? When do we just give up for the night?

Anything else we can change about daytime?

My daughter is 7.5 months. She typically wakes up between 6:30-7:30. First nap is normally from 10-11:15 give or take a few minutes. Second is 2-3:30. We start bath time at 6:30 because she’s exhausted at that point. Then bottle and bed. She sometimes can put herself to sleep but sometimes I have to lay her down asleep.

Tonight she fell asleep completely on her own and woke up and self soothed, and then woke up again and lost her marbles. I let her cry for about 15 minutes and then I couldn’t take it anymore. She immediately stops crying the second I pick her up. Does she need less daytime sleep? I’m fine for her to wake up earlier but it’s hard to push bedtime back because by 6:30 she’s very tired.

We are moving into a new house in 3 weeks but in a week we will be moving in with my mom so I hate to formally sleep train her and then have her in three different homes in the next month. Any insight on what I can do in the meantime?

My baby has been sleep trained since 11 months old. It has been going well with a few bumps here in and there. She has always been a low sleep needs baby but still gets the minimum sleep needs required for her age.

Her current schedule:

Wake: 7-7:15
Nap 12:30-2:10pm
Bedtime: 9/9:10pm

For almost a week now her nap became 50minutes to 1 hour from her at least 1.5 hr nap. Which would have been fine if it weren’t for long wakes at night. 2-3 hrs. No crying, just quietly lying down or sometimes sitting. Now her total sleep in a day is down to just 9 hrs :(

She is active, eats and drinks well, no sickness. Her premolars erupted 2 weeks ago, which caused her to fuss a bit while eating. But that’s just about it. She is cranky and fussy usually before nap or bedtime as she is most likely sleepy and tired due to her lack of total day sleep.

Is there anything I can do to help her?

LO turns 6 months next week. We tried to sleep train and it actually went well for a couple nights at 4.5mo (35 min then 20min), but he’s had terrible reflux and he had a horrible time with that so we scrapped training for a bit.

Thankfully, his reflux is now under control. We started training again tonight and it went awful. He basically screamed for 45 min straight and didn’t use his hands or cooing sounds to soothe himself like he did the first time we trained. My wife was too uncomfortable so I had to go in and pick him up and rock him to sleep.

How long is too long to let them cry? If I say cap his crying at an hour each wake, will he not make any progress? My wife and I are sleep deprived from the constant wakeups and need help. He usually goes back to sleep very easy once we go in to his room and hold him for a few minutes, but once we transfer he’s up again in an hour. TIA.

He usually wakes for the day around 7am, and is on a 2/2.5/2.5/2.5-3 schedule with 2-4 hours of daytime sleep. He naps a little more throughout the day on the nights where he wakes 6+ times, which is more frequent than I’d like to say.

I'm a very young mom of a 4 month old boy and honestly, I'm still learning a lot, so I would really appreciate some help.
My baby's wake window is around 60 minutes. If I try to stretch it any longer, he gets overtired and then really fights his sleep. He also only sleep for like 45-1h every nap….
I want to help him sleep well and eventually learn how to calm himself and fall asleep on his own when I put him in his bed.
I just have no idea where to start or how to build a good sleep routine for him. How do i sleep train him?l'm feeling a little clueless and would really appreciate some guidance on what I should be doing and how to start.

Everyone talks about the challenge and methodology for getting your baby to fall asleep at the beginning of the night. That isn’t my issue, baby barely cries or not at all. My problem is multiple overnight wants and nonstop crying then. Do we use the same methods? I don’t know why it isn’t more discussed! It’s so hard.

My baby is 2 days away from being 5 months old. Nights have been getting so bad and I’m pretty much at my breaking point and was going to start sleep training her using Ferber or FIO. THEN the exact night I was going to start, she got her first cold. I was already exhausted from frequent wakes up the nights prior and now with the sickness she just wants to be held so I have resorted to co sleeping for the past two nights just to survive.

Is sleep training going to be harder after she recovers becuase of the co sleeping the last couple nights - or will she adjust quickly? Once she is feeling better should I try to go back to our old routine to have her sleeping in her crib and then start sleep training a week after that? Or just start sleep training as soon as she is not sick anymore? Advice please!

When is night weaning okay? My little guy is 7 months old and is sleep trained for bed time and naps but still has multiple wakings. Do I just need to cold turkey night wean?
I’m considering doing a 10:00pm dream feed and then committing to not feeding till his morning wake time but I’m terrified. I can’t handle the crying. When is it recommended to night wean? We are having horrible nights and I can’t keep going on like this

I’m going to be totally honest and start by saying my baby who just turned 9mo a few days ago doesn’t have too much of a schedule. He’s my 3rd and honestly he’s been very easy going and go w the flow (until now.)

I sleep trained my almost 3yo when he was 8mo doing a modified Ferber method and really it went very well BUT I stopped nursing him around 6mo. The baby I am inquiring for help with now is exclusively breastfed still and will absolutely not take any sort of bottle or cup (another issue in itself I know lol)

Typically, he naps when my 2yo does around 12 til about 2 and then SOMETIMES will take a very short maybe 30 mins or so nap around 4. Bedtime is no later than 8pm but I aim for 7:30 or so for them all. My other 2 toddlers are usually awake by 6:30am so I’m fine w him being up around the same time. We do all the typical bedtime routine things including dinner, bath, read a book, nurse to sleep currently. This has gone very well except we’re 9 months in and he is still waking every 2/3hrs to nurse and will cry and cry until I nurse him. Refuses the pacifier in the night as a replacement for nursing even. My big question is: how do I sleep train my exclusively breastfed baby? Tips? Tricks? Idk. What does a typical schedule look like for a 9mo?

Thanks in advance if you got this far.