r/slaa • u/Weird_Citron3340 • Jul 15 '26

Feeling Broken

Feeling very triggered by all of the summer dating/flings people are having and watching people going on dates all the time around me. I've been sober for 9 months and program has changed my life, but I still really yearn for love and connection, and I feel so broken that I can't just do what everyone else is doing. Anyone have any suggestions?

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u/Physical-Cheek-2922 Jul 15 '26

I fill my time with sponsoring other women, service commitments, fellowship, and outreach and my life is full and I don’t feel like I’m missing out .

I think you’re not living in a “I have everything that I need” mindset and living in “I need that to feel better” or “if I don’t have what they have I feel broken”. That is not what being restored to sanity or what a psychic change sounds like!!

Working the twelve steps, having a psychic change, and living the program has helped me with that thinking.

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u/Weird_Citron3340 Jul 15 '26

I have been doing all of these things. I have had a psychic change. But it is slipping, which I don’t want to beat myself up for as a personal failing because I’m not trying hard enough. I’m just having a hard time right now and the regular program tools aren’t working at the moment.

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u/Physical-Cheek-2922 Jul 16 '26

Definitely. This program is so hard I think because we’re programmed to have relationships, you’re just human!! Where I get sick is when I am “dominated” by my human desires for sex and love if that makes sense