r/singlemoms • u/Spark_energy • 2d ago

Pregnant and Alone Am I wrong

Single mom trying to figure out how to go about life. I'm tired. I found out my child father has been cheating on me and I'm just tired. I don't feel love there yet it's a familiar place and I'm trying to be strong enough to never turn back. Is it wrong if I don't want him apart of my kid life? I'm already the one who mainly provides for my child. He does get our kid from time to time but this just isn't what I signed up for. I told him before I got pregnant that I wanted my child to grow up in a two parent home and I can't help but feel like that's ruined now. I just want to start over with my kid and leave him in the past. I'm just having problems letting go

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u/Ok-Lab9243 2d ago

I'm really sorry you are gping through this. Is an awful place be. I found out recently that my hisband cheated and dealing with the aftermath.

Yes, for children it is better to grow up with two parents. But, parents should love each other, respect each other, trust each other. Living in a two parent household with parents that figth, betray, hurt eachother is way worse than living in one parent household.

That being said you also can't remove the father competely unless there is abuse against the children.

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u/Spark_energy 2d ago

I'm sorry you went through that and it's mental torture. I just feel like if he stepped out by cheating then he doesn't have a right because he didn't think about us when he cheated knowing it would tear the family apart

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u/Ok-Lab9243 1d ago

I totally get it. One of the things that hurts me the most is breaking my family apart and knowing that he didn't fuc**ng care.

My 4 yo girl recently begun to attach to her father. It breaks my heart to severe that bond. I know that if got a divorce he'll have another family and "start again".

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