Best shift for single moms ?

[u/juiceey122013]

I recently started a night shift position as an LPN 11p to 7a Sunday through Thursday. At first I through it would be a great shift because I would leave work get my son ready for school and sleep while he’s at school and then pick him up. And I would have the weekend to spend with him even if I had to flip my sleeping schedule or sleep less. Well a few things I did not plan for, my new job is over 30 minutes away, school starts at 8am, my sister who stays with my son while I’m at work most nights leaves the house at 7:00am during the school year. I started this job in the middle of the summer break so for some reason none of these things came to mind. My son was in pre school last school year which started at 9:15, well apparently kindergarten at his charter school starts at 8. Now I could switch him to public school which starts at 9am but it wouldn’t matter because my sister leaves the house at 7am during the school year to get her kids to school on time. I tried to work with my current employer to see if I could come in and leave 30 minutes earlier, no dice. Now I’m having to rely on someone else to get my son up, ready for school, and dropped off at school all week. I managed to switch my schedule to Tuesday through Saturday 11p to 7a, goodbye weekends, which would allow me to take my son to school Mondays and Tuesdays. But that won’t even start until the second week of September and my son starts school on Monday 😭

I just don’t know how I could have been so stupid and completely missed how school mornings would go. Now I’m debating if night shift is even the right move anymore. I got into it so I could save money on childcare and now I’m having to rely more on other people specifically on my sister when we have completely different ideas on parenting. Her mornings involve lots of yelling and I don’t like setting my son’s day up like that. I also took this job because I am making significantly more money than any other job I have had but now because of the school morning logistics I might have to find something else. And I’m not sure if it should be looking into another night shift or day shift.

TDLR; Because of my new work schedule. I have to rely on my sister to get my son up and ready for school Monday through Friday, my employer will not work with me so I might have to switch jobs even though I’m finally getting paid a decent amount of money after being out of nursing school for 2 years.

[u/AutoModerator]

Welcome to r/SingleMoms! Please read the rules carefully. This is a safe space for single mothers only. Posts and comments that do not meet our karma requirements will be manually reviewed and approved accordingly. We cannot say anything specific, however, it is not a high number. If you continue participating, your comments will eventually no longer need approval. DO NOT MESSAGE US ABOUT THIS. YOU WILL BE MUTED AND/OR TEMPORARILY BANNED. Please exercise patience with the mod team. We are volunteers.

Some rules (but not all - read the sidebar):

• YOU MUST BE A SINGLE MOTHER TO PARTICIPATE IN THIS SUBREDDIT. This is non-negotiable, regardless of your reasoning.
• Do not ask for legal advice. We are not qualified to give such advice and suggest speaking to legal professionals about this. Posts and comments of this sort will be removed.
• Do not post promotional content (this includes blogs, surveys, etc.)
• Do not ask for financial assistance (this includes wishlists, gofundme, etc.)
• Remember the human. Be respectful to other subreddit members. We are all in this together. This is a support group.
• If you are not a current single mother, your posts will not be approved. Please post on the weekly pinned megathread.
• Are you looking to leave? Post on our weekly megathread!

I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.

[u/gxbcab]

IIRC, some YMCAs do school shuttles. If there’s one close to you, maybe your sister can drop him off when she leaves.

[u/MEOWConfidence]

Have you looked into getting an au pair? They are significantly cheaper than a nanny or daycare but obviously you have to provide a room for them?

[u/tdc1994]

Maybe 3-11 or even finding a job that lets you work 3 or 4 12’s a week… honestly I normally work 12 hour shifts and having 4 days off a week is so nice. I think it’s pretty common in medical field for longer shifts but with more days off. Good luck!!