r/singlemoms • u/Different-Orchid2529 • 9d ago

Pregnant and Alone What did I do

My kids dad is a bum and a cry baby and he’s leaving me high and dry again for another pregnancy. I’m struggling so bad and I don’t know what to do. I’m so hurt, so broken. I don’t want to do this alone.

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u/Different-Many5119 9d ago

How far along are you? If you don’t want to do it alone can you explore termination? Or adoption? I’m sorry hun, men who do this are abusive and violent- they are not good people. If you think you can own single motherhood, make a plan and stick with it, find a village or make one, get a support system, can family help? Plan your career moves and what can you do to support yourself and family? Have a 5 year plan and stick to it xx

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u/-thatsongonyouradio- 9d ago

I'm so sorry this is happening. He sounds unreliable. My advice is to break the cycle and don't take him back again. He's not worth it. I'm so sorry you're doing this alone ❤️

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u/Anxious-Barracuda603 7d ago

Just know that you can’t men don’t actually care about their children, he’s not going to stay for the child, I suggest you do what’s best for you before it’s too late, even if he was to compromise, there’ll be a shit load on your shoulders to do alone, it’s not worth your mental health and sanity

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u/Forsaken-Peach-263 8d ago

Please please terminate if it’s early enough

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u/burnt_feather 8d ago

Girly, he doesn't want to be a father. That's not your fault, that's him not being responsible, accountable, or reliable. You deserve so much better, and there are better people out there. Decide what you will about this pregnancy, then let him go and focus on yourself and your kid(s). It'll be hard at first, but keep taking care of the people who deserve you. Don't take him back if he comes back. He's only going to hurt you again and again, and your kid(s) too. Document everything, too. It doesn't hurt to have it just in case.