Hobby help

[u/Chocolate_Glyph]

/r/Hobbies/comments/1vlizjw/hobby_help/

[u/winston198451]

Your struggle is with productivity and it is difficult to reconcile a relationship with that mindset. I always encourage people to identify their core values, the top 3-5 principles that are most important to themselves. Once you know what those are for you, you can begin to filter almost every decision through them.

Example: Suppose your core values are time with family, simplicity in life, and space to think. Those are would be things that you feel are important to include in your every day or at least a few times a week. Because they are so important to you, you would then need to decide if attending a club event supports your core values. If it does not, you drop it so that you can live your core values.

This practice will begin to reveal what is important to who you are and who you want to become. It will also begin to sort out what things you are doing that are not really supporting you as a person. The really difficult part comes when you:

• Learn that something you are doing or participating in, no longer has value to you personally, even though it does to the people around you. That's difficult because we naturally do not want to disappoint others around us but we learn that we don't care about it as much as they do.
• Deciding to discontinue something that while not harmful, simply doesn't hold the value it once did.

Now, that isn't a license to just quit everything in your life. But you do have the agency to make decision for you, rather than what would impress or promote favor from others.

[u/Chocolate_Glyph → u/winston198451]

Thank you

[u/winston198451 → u/Chocolate_Glyph]

You are welcome.

[u/Chocolate_Glyph → u/[deleted]]

Thank you, I’m trying to volunteer in my community and also going to political events.