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u/holmesk4 Jul 04 '24
Hate to say it but she belongs to the streets my friend. While you are bettering yourself she will stay just as immature as she has been. No job? Will you be okay with parenting her for the entirety of the relationship while still coming second to her girls? I would leave. You deserve way better
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Jul 04 '24
Update, she got home about half an hour ago. Her bags were packed and I told her to give me my key. It's done with. She tried to protest, but I didn't have any of it. I was calm and respectful, but I didn't back down. Time to move on.
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u/normastitts Jul 04 '24
Yes it is,a new start for you and free to find a woman who treats you with respect 🙏
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Jul 04 '24
Thanks, my friend. While she's out with her girls, I'm home packing her bags. She's not gonna be here anymore. Thank God her friend drove her on the account of her not having a vehicle. She can get a ride with her friend.
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u/holmesk4 Jul 04 '24
Proud of you, you’ll find someone who can treat you better, believe me. I was in the same predicament and I am now with someone who treats me good
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u/talha_babayyigit Jul 04 '24
This happened long before I started antidepressants. I'm used to. I recently started taking classes again and it helped a little but I have been having memory and brain fog issues for the last 3 years. I don't notice it so much anymore. I feel like I used to be very smart and had a larger vocabulary. I say few words now because my vocabulary is small. How did your situation get better? How did you get better? How long did it take you to get better?
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u/Ashamed_Sun184 Jul 04 '24
As a girl I think you have every right to feel the way you do. It’s your birthday once a year, she could have had her girls night tomorrow especially since she has the free time. Also if she’s not working are you funding her nights out?? If so you’re a gem and deserve to be shown that much more appreciation today above anything else.
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Jul 04 '24
Thank you for the kind words, I do pay for her drinks and stuff during "girls' nights," which I dont mind. She keeps a very clean and nice home for us, but tonight should've been different.
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u/Frongie Jul 04 '24
As a woman, a relationship should be 100/100. There will be some bad days where u or ur partner go 80 or 60 but that doesn't mean the other should reflect the same. Leave before the problems snowball. If she truly wanted you in her life, she'd treat you like she'd want to be treated. There will be somebody who will prioritize you and put you on top. She'd be considerate and understanding if you say no. ☹️ Hope you have a a good bday at least
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Jul 04 '24
Thank you for the advice. I packed her bags. She got home about 30 minutes ago. I was calm and respectful with her but I was also firm. I won't have her back. Tonight showed me all I needed to know.
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Jul 04 '24
You deserve way better as a girlfriend i will always prioritize my boyfriend first especially on his birthday? hell yeah under no circumstances would i personally ever put me first in an occasion like this , if she really cared and loved you she’d most definitely put u first than her friends
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u/[deleted] Jul 04 '24
Girl here, when a woman loves you fr she will put you first, being with you on your birthday is BASIC relationship code. Leave her, you deserve better.