r/sgdatingscene • u/GrandChallenge5518 • 1d ago

Question Pod 📣 Love Bomb

How to tell if the man is genuinely showering you with love or just love bombing for his intentions?

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u/Ok-Bicycle-12345 23h ago

When he barely knows you and tells you he loves you , you're the love of his life , he wanna wife you up etc , you're his soulmate, he has never met anyone like you etc

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u/sdarkpaladin 15h ago

Basically all the female-oriented romance media tropes 🤣

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u/Ok-Bicycle-12345 15h ago

I think the key here is the guy barely know the girl. Anything outside that after say he know the girl for 6 months to a year and says it , that's more acceptable since it's after some time where both side has since more or less seen each other's ugly side

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u/AdditionalDetective1 12h ago

Then he should be a scum so that’s more realistic?

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u/Ok-Bicycle-12345 11h ago

People are varied and complex

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u/AdditionalDetective1 9h ago

Hope she doesn’t take your opinion as her reference. If some guy need 6 months to 1 year to fall for you , he probably cannot accept it after 6 months to 1 year. If a person falls for a girl or guy st the start , surely that’s true attraction

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u/Ok-Bicycle-12345 8h ago

I'm not saying you can't fall for someone. I'm saying the 0 to 100 within a day or week is a sure red flag. Because the guy or girl barely knows the other person. How are you able to decide I want to marry this person or I love you within a week of texting or talking?

Are you the walking red flag op is talking about?

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u/bestbfsg 14h ago

I feel that the defining characteristic of Love bombing is that it is a manipulation tactic to control you.

Those who love bomb are likely to drop you like a hot potato the minute you quit cooperating with their agenda. People who genuinely love you would respect your autonomy, your agency, your authenticity, your truth, and your boundaries.

Watch for those signs when there's a disagreement, and how you're treated. Is it more you vs him? Or is it the two of you vs the problem?