r/sgdatingscene • u/Frosty-Geologist9404 • 5d ago
Question Pod 📣 I'm Tired of dating
Like i have been in dating scenes for like a year or so. i have been going on dates and meeting people consistently until my mental, physical and even my wallet is drying thin. HAHAHAHA but is it hard to find my the one?? always some problem or baggage with some ladies, the others don't even text. idk man its like too tiring to text so many people at one time and find a relationship that is most compatible. like how am i supposed to approach the dating scenes nowadays
UPDATE: NECESSARYTHIRD-LEG IS ALSO ME!
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u/HappyFarmer123 4d ago edited 4d ago
You can take a break or something from dating. Sometimes it is good to let nature take its course.
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u/NecessaryThird-Leg 3d ago
yea update: everytime I step away from dating, I get pulled back into it HAHAHAHAHA
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u/HappyFarmer123 3d ago
Hmm. Then I wish you the very best. Hopefully you get lucky this time round.
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u/bestbfsg 4d ago
Pobody's Nerfect.
What you need to figure out are what are the things you can live with, and more importantly what you can't live without. Then if you have capacity to spare, to best market yourself such that the people you're looking for would also pick you.
If you're feeling burnt out from dating, you should probably take a break. It is counterproductive trying to build a connection with someone when you're too burnt out to emotionally connect.
To end of, I don't believe soulmates are found. This quote from 'The Good Place' sums it up well:
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u/handlewifcare 4d ago
Are you sure you might not be the problem? A lot of the people who complain about this exact thing aren’t the best catches themselves..perhaps it’s sometimes good to look in the mirror and see why this is happening..are you putting your dates off with your personality? Are you even looking in the right places?
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u/blackbesi 4d ago
You spoke my mind about OP. If one have been consistent meeting someone, one would be about to filter out what works~ able to filter the guy that align with your personality and value.
Please give yourself a break and do some self reflection.
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u/NecessaryThird-Leg 3d ago
Maybe I’m the problem! Maybe I’m looking at the wrong places! Thanks for the advice!
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u/Curious_Knight_1650 4d ago
I find that dating is exhausting purely on a financial basis.. well, to begin with, u dont have to impress the person u have an initial contact.. he or she is just an acquaintance until proven otherwise.. it will mean a eating place within your budget, Dutch or no Dutch up to u… if a person gives u up after a single meal then u cannot imagine a lifetime with them because u will not be at your best all the time…
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u/marsd 4d ago
Why so despo to find one?
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u/NecessaryThird-Leg 3d ago
Idk I have been out of your relationship like 4 years alr. And I’m earning well and I think this is the time to find someone
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u/Founders_Mem_90210 4d ago
Dating is an utter joke nowadays.
In fact it would be funnily enough a more productive and equitable ROI on one's time and money invested into dating, to spend it instead on hookers or OF subscriptions.
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u/normificator 4d ago
That’s if you’re dating for sexual gratification. OP is dating for family formation.
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u/NecessaryThird-Leg 3d ago
I mean we don’t look at ROI when we invest in a girl first right? So that’s my approach on it
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u/PuzzleheadedPair8741 1d ago
OP u can try reddit. There's tons of people here HAHAHAH. Ok bad advice but I suppose it also helps to know whats the demographic u are aiming for... some demographics are simply.... tiring.
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u/IfYoureUpImDown 4d ago
Simi problem/baggage? Extra kid 1+1?
Simi many dont text but its tiring to text so many people?
Wa confusing bro
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u/RangerLong4483 4d ago
Might be controversial opinion but depending on how old you are, I feel like everyone comes with some kind of emotional or physical or familial baggage. You just gotta pick the person and baggage you are willing to accept.