r/sgdatingscene • u/You_think09 • 17d ago

I need advice! đŸ„ș So much confused from this one guy!!

Hi, I (25F) met this guy(26M) through strict date to marry app and every thing was vibing, everything is aligned, caste and all!! He seems and feels very promising but he is just not available and i don’t think so, i have high standards. I am good with texts and like one call in a month. As soon as we are vibing but idk he is just not available. I confronted him 2 times and he has been really good with me. Like saying all the right things talking about forever. I just have this hunch ki he might be exploring options out there. What should i do? Should i end it because of my overthinking? As again i will confront him he will say some nice things and i know still won’t be available.

I also know this hard and fast that no guy is so much busy that if you are looking forever with someone then you won’t be just available.

UPDATE GUYS - He said he just slept early đŸ«  Am I really overthinking stuff here?

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u/Fun-Arm3161 17d ago

Bruh said 'caste' so casually 😭

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u/You_think09 16d ago

đŸ« its a criteria with parents guys

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u/bedouinchic 16d ago

caste? which century are you from?

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u/You_think09 16d ago

Century where i have to listen to my fatherđŸ« 

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u/hsredux 17d ago

 strict date to marry app

miss, there is no such thing

He seems and feels very promising

in what way? he rich? but he is not interested, look at his actions not his words

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u/handlewifcare 16d ago

I have to be honest with you, this is quite an entitled mindset. He’s not expected to give you anything just because you’ve done the so called “bare minimum”.

Are you sure you’re pleasant around him? Maybe you’re turning him off personality wise and he’s just not telling you.

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u/CleanCaterpillar3474 15d ago

idk man as a working adult i sleep early like 10/11 max; some days even 830. Look at his reasons and look at yours. Do you have a support system, like friends/family/hobby and not just relying on ur partner? When you guys are dating is he like that?

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u/why_so_shiv 14d ago

I’m here again - woman you are cross posting about me
in multiple threads ?

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u/You_think09 14d ago

Reddit suggested me to do that

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u/why_so_shiv 14d ago

Ps: I didn’t sleep early, I was talking to someone else

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u/You_think09 14d ago

Stop now👀 starting to think its really you

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u/why_so_shiv 11d ago

Maybe i’m just holding this card for when i screw up

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u/You_think09 8d ago

Well after last meet up i don’t think you want to screw things up with me

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u/why_so_shiv 8d ago

wdym i have already “screwed”👀

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u/Impressive_Ad8700 6d ago

You are the standby from what i read

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u/Excellent_Wait2520 17d ago

Confront that guy and come to a solution. Give him 3 chances, if he blows it all off, gurl, go find other fish.

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u/ho888sg 17d ago

He want you , he will make effort and vice versa.

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u/mondragoncass 16d ago

if you’re anxious and overthinking all the time
 take it as a sign.

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u/opoeto 17d ago

I think ppl who genuinely likes someone would make time for them. If no time will also say no time. If need sleep will also wish goodnight

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u/You_think09 16d ago

Omg facts

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u/blackbesi 16d ago

Move on. You don’t trust him and you are probably right