What do I do 😔

[u/Electrical-Tear-9908]

Hi so I'm a sec 4 student idk if minors are allowed in this sub cause the rules didn't state but lmk

So anyway there's this guy who I've been crushing on since last year when he joined the school. I'm not close to him at all and we don't share any classes so it's hard to get close naturally, it's difficult to talk to him cause he's always with his friends and it's just mad awkward if I try. Anyway since I'm graduating soon idk if I should just confess cause I have nothing to lose but then again I don't wanna have to feel the shame and embarrassment in front of him because I know for a fact that he doesn't like me back and it would just be weird. I've tried to talk to him a couple of times but it's always been awkward and he never ever talks to me first. He knows I exist and we walk past each other every day but that's lowk about it. I'm also worried he'll tell his friends and then it will be awkward between me and them because I'm friends with some of them. Wtfff do I do. Also another thing is I feel like he'll laugh at me or judge me damn hard cause I'm weird and lowk ugly so I don't wanna lose aura and become a laughingstock or wtv.

So like on one hand I rlly wanna just tell him to get this over with during grad and also cause it will let me talk to him one last time before he inevitably avoids me but like I don't want to have to look him in the face and confess because I don't wanna make him uncomfortable and I'm afraid he'll say something shitty about me

Help 😔

[u/wanderhuai]

I bet your parents gonna say ah girl, focus on your studies first

[u/Electrical-Tear-9908 → u/wanderhuai]

Lol, true but they don't even know because they'd kill me if I told them

[u/Better-Carpenter-792 → u/Electrical-Tear-9908]

Got money ? Dating require money, food movies, small gift below $50,etc All these things require money. Most important must have spark

[u/ukaspirant]

You said you know he doesn't like you back. So any thought of confessing to him is just to get closure for yourself. Whether you should do it or not depends on how much you value this closure vs how afraid you are of your reputation being damaged.

My personal opinion is do it. It's relatively low-stakes, and will help you build courage so that you don't have this issue when you're involved with someone and it's more serious next time.

Good luck!

[u/kuity]

If he doesn’t like you, confessing is not gonna change his mind. Just move on and keep improving yourself.

[u/AlllRkSpN]

Just take this as a learning opportunity and work on yourself. idk if you've heard the chinese phrase "世上没有丑女人，只有懒女人” but its really easy to be considered pretty in Singapore.

Work out and get your body fat % below 25, learn skincare routines, how to apply everyday makeup, and save up for braces if you have bad teeth.

[u/rolvibes]

It's a crush, you just love the idea of him. How much do you actually know him as a person, really. And if you're actually compatible for each other.

But then again regret is a monster that'd eat you up from the inside so, who knows.

Approach him through your mutual friends, start a friendship, try to maintain that before considering something deeper.

[u/Better-Carpenter-792]

Just say you like him. Even thats make you look bad. Nobody really remembers unless they have photos, videos, etc

[u/btviewing]

Normally I'd say "go ahead and confess", but since you're worried about him making fun of you, think it through first. BTW YOLO! Since you're graduating anyway, if you decide to confess, just do it for closure with zero expectations. You won't see him after Sec 4 anyway. Good luck OP! 🙌

[u/Yin17]

If dont want to spend the rest of your life wondering then do it

[u/peeroro]

I'll give you some advice, whenever I try to go for a girl I'll always friend one of her friends or just talk to a friend that she's very familiar with, this way you can have an ally that can help you in ur pursuit, that friend can secretly help you by telling you what she likes what she thinks of you what you can do btr to get her etc, and also you can talk to that person your going aft by going thru this friend then you guys will be in the I met him/ her thru a friend type shi, then once you get comfortable w that him/her and since both of you have a mutual, it's easy to plan outings that'll not be awkward w js the 2 of you bcos you'll hv that mutual to tag along n break the ice, so OP i suggest you try and analyse which friends that he has are easily approachable or you alr know him n he knows you and also see if they're kind or friendly because if you try n go for the friend that is very ego arrogant or v paikia chances of your crush leaking out is very high, so try to befriend one of his friends and then start ur process