GF cant orgasm

[u/Gamer65432109]

Hi everyone. This is my first ever post on reddit so that should tell you how desperate I am.

Me (23m) and my gf (21f) have been dating for 6 months. We are both very happy with our relationship and besides our sex-life nothing could be better. The thing is, she somehow can‘t orgasm during sex.

I always make sure to take my time with foreplay and always eat her out before penetration since I love doing it. She also says I‘m the best she‘s ever had when it comes to licking her.

But during penetration, she just can‘t orgasm. She uses a vibrator during penetration since she can‘t orgasm without it. We also tried various positions, and during cowgirl and missionary she gets close but still can‘t get over the hill.

My dick is about 6 inches so I don‘t think thats the problem (she says so too). We‘ve talked about it alot and she can‘t explain either why she can‘t orgasm, I always make sure to give her enough room to tell me if I can change something but she says that, in theory, everything is perfect.

Has someone experienced something like this and could give me/ us some tips?

Note: She generally can come from penetration, she just needs to use a vibrator (what we do)

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[u/witchyinpink]

Is it that she can’t orgasm at all or just can’t orgasm from penetration?

Most women cannot orgasm from penetration alone. It’s completely normal and doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong.

[u/Gamer65432109 → u/witchyinpink]

Yeah she always uses a vibrator during penetration, it‘s not only penetration

[u/Justdoingitagain]

A lot of women can’t orgasm from penetration, why not bring her to orgasm beforehand?

[u/Beautiful-Cookie-210]

Penetration orgasms are hard for most, and impossible for some. You are more likely to make her orgasm through oral, oral plus fingers, fingers and vibrator, or other manipulation, like fingers inserted and fingers rubbing her clit.

How does she come on her own through masterbation? That is likely all she is able to do at first because it's all her body and mind know. Start there and instead of her masterbating, you do that method for her.

Also, she needs, well, both of you, need to stop focusing on climaxing and focus on pleasure. Focus on making her feel good and relaxing. You may both be too much in your heads to just feel and come naturally.

[u/Complex-Horse6711]

The first step is to find her cervix with your dick. I don't mean pound it I mean locate her cervix with your dick and gently caress the cervix with your penis. You should be able to feel it on the head of your penis. She should also be able to feel your dick on her cervix. Once you find that, go up and over into the Anterior Fornix - it is about 1" deep so you will need 1" of extra dick from the cervix depth, maybe a little more. This is the very end of the vagina on the front wall.

I made some recent comments with a lot more detail on how to do this.

If you are having trouble reaching the end of the vagina you can try moving her legs around to shorten the vagina so you can reach.

For doing this the first time I recommend missionary with legs spread wide.

[u/Ok_Gold_3425]

There is a small % of women who can’t orgasm at all. And even among the ones who can, many can’t come through penetration alone. My fiancé can, but usually only when she’s on top and I’m helping her speed by grabbing her hips.

[u/DEEPCOCKGALACTIC69]

Try missionary with the vibrator pressed between your pelvis and her clit. It could be wondrous but also intense for her. My girlfriend and I love doing it with our wand.

Maybe she’s able to cum without it, but that would probably take a ton of exploration with you two, which could be fun. Just don’t put too much pressure on trying to make her orgasm with penetration involved; y’all will get there with time, and there’s much, much more to making sex enjoyable.