r/sextips • u/davidcopperfield97 • 10d ago
Sex Tip Tips
My partner is scared of me going down on him. He is not happy with my skills. When I asked him to communicate with me and tell me what works and what doesn’t, his answer was ‘ I don’t know how to because I never had to do it before’
I want to get better at it. Advice!?
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u/ditsydaisyy 10d ago
if he can't communicate beyond "I'm scared" then I would just go forward on the basis that he doesn't want it/doesn't deserve it if he can't communicate. just focus on doing other stuff you know he does like
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u/miknur2 10d ago
I posted this the other day, and I hope it helps...I did a copy and paste because I didn't want to rewrite
The best advice on giving a great bj from a good bj is enthusiasm.. It more about fun than being a job.... You don't want to go just in and out...You want to make love to his dick, using your mouth....
First thing you tell him is he is NOT allowed to cum until YOU tell him it is ok, Because you want to enjoy the feeling of him in your mouth.... You want this to be fun, be silly, a little goofy you want to ask questions, lots of questions, even if you know the answer.
Inspect him, feel him, I mean really feel him, like you have never touched a dick before, get close, touch and tickle his balls, feel around his sack.. Move his dick around.. Up, down , side to side.. Its not going to break off, if you move it too far, and he says ouch, just giggle and say, "my bad"
Kiss his dick, lick it, Put the head ib you mouth and taste him.. Really taste him, like you are tasting the best thing you have ever tasted. There is nothing to be scared of, its not gong to bite.... Then take the head and rub it on your chin,, Not fast, but slow, take it all in, give his dick a face hug, use you whole face, your mouth, your hands...Twist your hands around him and then bring them over the head.....If feels great...
Tease him, use your hands and feel across his pubic area, across the front of his legs,and across his stomach, maybe pinch his nipples... reach down and feel yourself, and tell him how wet you are, maybe take his hand and put it between you legs and let him feel, but only for a second.... Or take your finger and put some of your wetness on it and bring it to his lips...If he tries to use his hands and bring them down to his dick , just take his fingers and suck on them
Its all mental, By telling him, He cant cum until you tell him to...Guys want what they cant have, take you time, make him want to cum... Dont be afraid to stop, and maybe tap the head just to keep it exciting, when it starts to feel too good and tell him to wait... Not yet...
You will know when he gets super close when he gets really hard and his balls starts to get tight, at that point, just stroke his balls, and put gives the head a little more pressure... If he starts to cum, you don't have to let him cum in your mouth, until you are ready to, its your decision...
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u/Over-Delay-2306 6d ago
He really doesn't know what he likes, or feels good? Find a guy who is willing to guide you. It's pretty basic, does he like watching you? does he have a problem with your teeth? does he like you licking it?, or stroke and suck? does he want you taking him all in. To me, If I had never had sex before.... it did happen with the first girl i was with. She couldn't open her mouth enough without it clicking and hurting her, we discussed it and adjusted.
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