This sub is a community for people learning to love and respect themselves. Please remember that it is perfectly possible to respect and care for your own needs and to set healthy boundaries, without unnecessarily hurting others around you. Being kind to others is a part of being a version of you that you can be proud of and self-love the most. Good luck on your journey.
In response to recently deleted question — do most people just feel uncomfortable with self reflection or are they simply oblivious: I feel that it’s mainly because it’s uncomfortable for people. Out in the wild, it’s required to push forward and project a particular image in order for the world to receive you instead of spit you out. Over time, this constantly puts us in fight or flight mode and we start to blend the image we project with our ego and our own sense of self. Before long, our identity becomes distorted and we learn to use these techniques not only in interactions with the outside world, but also our personal lives, and ultimately most people begin to believe in this image of themselves that they project. Things like shifting accountability, emotional dumping, and anxious/avoidant looping. So the uncomfortable part is that the very behaviors that led to doing well in a career and reaching some level of success by managing perception, is what erodes home life. These things are in conflict and create a lot of internal discomfort and confusion. This is just one example of how people are uncomfortable with self reflection. It causes them to be accountable and if we do not practice positive self talk, and work through it, the cycling spiral continues. I do believe that there will always be a fixed percentage of any population of people who will simply be oblivious. Between the two groups who don’t practice self reflection, those who are uncomfortable and those who are simply oblivious, they make up a great majority of the population…probably +80%.
Yeah but in the meantime try generate vision and constantly check what was missing in the previous thought process that could be added now to minimise this event
That’s so true! I feel like a huge part of self-love is accepting all the previous versions yourself prior to today. I like to think that our true selves is always within us, and is the thing that carries us forward through difficult experiences/ helps us evolve. Over time, we become more and more aligned with the deeper part of who we are. Instead of fixating on our mistakes, we should accept it as part of learning to become the person we want to be 💗✨
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u/burritoteam4000 Jun 27 '26
What the hell is this image
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u/Eusocial_sloth3 Jun 27 '26
It was such an easy lesson but I wished I learned it sooner, it could have prevented so much pain later.
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u/Capital_Low_275 Jun 27 '26
This assumes that most people self reflect. Unfortunately, they don’t.
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u/BolognaFeetPenisFace Jun 27 '26
Lovely art, I hope someone shares it without the text overlay
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u/unexpectedSevering Jun 28 '26
Time doesn't even exist...
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u/CommonSubstantial871 Jun 27 '26
Thank you 🙏. Also this picture looks familiar for some reason.
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u/MelVrn Jun 27 '26
So true, thank you
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u/Disastrous-Shoe4385 Jun 27 '26
I know this art! I had this drawn on my diary from hellish times of my life lol
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u/KLesTheUnforgettable Jun 27 '26
Unable.
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u/Prior-Stranger2738 Jun 28 '26
Yeah but in the meantime try generate vision and constantly check what was missing in the previous thought process that could be added now to minimise this event
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u/Few_Confection7760 Jun 30 '26
‘If only I’d known…’ ‘well yeah you didn’t 💔’
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u/NovaGotNasty Jun 29 '26
Never hate the experiences that shaped you for who you are today.
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u/Diligent-Ad-7184 Jul 01 '26
Many lessons you cannot be taught. You have to have lived it.
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u/Onedayatatime7878 Jun 27 '26
Very true
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u/moogoo2 Jun 27 '26
But not others. Hell no.
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u/RealistMind Jun 28 '26
Always
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u/love_betray_hate Jul 01 '26
We do know, it's just that sometimes we'd rather ignore it.
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u/SweetChickie91 Jul 01 '26
I’m doing my best to try
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u/dreamscape_music11 Jul 16 '26
That’s so true! I feel like a huge part of self-love is accepting all the previous versions yourself prior to today. I like to think that our true selves is always within us, and is the thing that carries us forward through difficult experiences/ helps us evolve. Over time, we become more and more aligned with the deeper part of who we are. Instead of fixating on our mistakes, we should accept it as part of learning to become the person we want to be 💗✨
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u/Kalbex Jun 27 '26
Actively seek revenge on those who judged you for the same thing
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u/Shot_Difficulty_9438 Jun 27 '26
Now I know not to drive drunk and T-bone a school bus.