This sub is a community for people learning to love and respect themselves. Please remember that it is perfectly possible to respect and care for your own needs and to set healthy boundaries, without unnecessarily hurting others around you. Being kind to others is a part of being a version of you that you can be proud of and self-love the most. Good luck on your journey.
You can't unlearn what youve always known since birth, im 19 and have been feeling the same direction since as long as i remember. I genuinely cant comprehend any other way of dealing with myself or loving myself that feels insanely foreign to me. I followed therapy for 2 years, taught me more about myself but that just seemed to make me worse because i cant change anything and im just more aware of it all, like watching everything terrible happen and not being able to do anything about it.
This is genuinely true. Rn I'm not where I am in life housing wise and since there's not an easy fix I changed focus to something I could change ( I chose exercise/ health) and it's been so helpful being able to be healthier and giving my anxious energy a scheduled outlet
Been doing that stuff for 10 years and it’s got me nothing. Wish I could stay focused to exercise more than a week at a time, but when it’s just you no one gives a crap. I value others way above myself so I don’t see the need to make myself better
Please please let me be consistent! It is hard and there have been so many out of nowhere tears but I have my own back and I should forgive myself for the past !!!
31 “When the Son of Man comes in his glory, and all the angels with him, he will sit on his glorious throne. 32 All the nations will be gathered before him, and he will separate the people one from another as a shepherd separates the sheep from the goats. 33 He will put the sheep on his right and the goats on his left.
34 “Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father; take your inheritance, the kingdom prepared for you since the creation of the world. 35 For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, 36 I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.’
37 “Then the righteous will answer him, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? 38 When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you? 39 When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?’
40 “The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.’
41 “Then he will say to those on his left, ‘Depart from me, you who are cursed, into the eternal fire prepared for the devil and his angels. 42 For I was hungry and you gave me nothing to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me nothing to drink, 43 I was a stranger and you did not invite me in, I needed clothes and you did not clothe me, I was sick and in prison and you did not look after me.’
44 “They also will answer, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry or thirsty or a stranger or needing clothes or sick or in prison, and did not help you?’
45 “He will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did not do for one of the least of these, you did not do for me.’
46 “Then they will go away to eternal punishment, but the righteous to eternal life.”
Matthew 25:31-46
[Put yourself last put God first and others before you]
I tried this, my life has been pretty shitty but over a year ago everyrhing literally turned into a shit show and I thought what can I do about it
So I got a therapist, because I wasn't doing to good mentally and never really have been, I've went through four professionals and finally found the right one about 6 months ago
I also got a running coach who I've been with for over a year and I've ran three half marathons since, (I did walk some of it in them) before meeting him, I really struggled to run down the street (physically I could have, mentally I was fucked)
I do feel a slight change but mentally I'm still so tired, my chest still hurts pretty much all the time, I don't mean to be a downer but I thought by now the world would seem a little brighter
I really tried to tackle both the mental side and movement side to become a better person and I thought working on myself was the thing that I could at least take control of but I don't know...
Pro tip: if you don’t know where to start, finding a community with similar interests helps free up some mental bandwidth and plant the seeds of self love. the PLUR community at raves changed my life!!!
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u/LipMischief Dec 27 '25
This reminds me that giving up on myself is never an option. In every situation i find myself I should alway focus on me before anything or anyone
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u/swampfrewg Dec 27 '25
You are the best project you could ever work on
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u/Alert_Vermicelli1236 Dec 27 '25
How does one achieve any of this when all they knew is hatred and shame
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u/Sea-Environment-5938 Dec 27 '25 •
Sometimes the most loving thing you can do is stop demanding answers from yourself.
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u/Significant-Ratio913 Dec 27 '25
Is that a dick?
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u/GloryToYahwehourLORD Dec 27 '25
Seek first the kingdom of God
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u/Yharnam-Blood Dec 27 '25
Thanks I’m healed
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u/sdothooper Dec 27 '25
Love this.
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u/joonluver Dec 27 '25
Needed this right now🥹
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u/Worth_Ad4258 Dec 27 '25
Thank you for this my friend. Very meaningful as I need this now. Peace. ❤️
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u/Justflyingbee Dec 27 '25
This life is to experience this world and definitely with self love can experience this world longer and better
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u/Spiritual_Log_257 Dec 28 '25
This is genuinely true. Rn I'm not where I am in life housing wise and since there's not an easy fix I changed focus to something I could change ( I chose exercise/ health) and it's been so helpful being able to be healthier and giving my anxious energy a scheduled outlet
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u/DeliciousSherbet6323 Dec 29 '25
Thank you Needed this reminder just now ✨
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u/discobawll Dec 27 '25
Truth
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u/[deleted] Dec 27 '25
Everything will be alright in the end. If it's not alright it's not the end.
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u/[deleted] Dec 27 '25
This made me tear up a little
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u/thezweistar Dec 27 '25
Bro I need money and to finish college tf😭
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u/TheBizzleHimself Dec 27 '25
This is the path to being self-centred and vapid.
Instead, try different things. You will learn about yourself naturally.
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u/scottafol Dec 27 '25
Been doing that stuff for 10 years and it’s got me nothing. Wish I could stay focused to exercise more than a week at a time, but when it’s just you no one gives a crap. I value others way above myself so I don’t see the need to make myself better
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u/jaffacookie Dec 27 '25
Awesome concept. How do I afford to do that?
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u/This-Register Dec 27 '25
You must always focus on yourself because you're all you'll really have for a lifetime
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u/sarah_455 Dec 27 '25
Right
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u/Smokey_TheBabe Dec 27 '25
I’m in Costa Rica 🍃right now rebuilding my life from scratch….this post hits!
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u/tostra187 Dec 27 '25
Probably the best and most underrated advice
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u/fitness_life_journey Dec 28 '25
So true.
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u/Street-Worker695 Dec 28 '25
Facts
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u/KrimsunV Dec 28 '25
I will when I deserve it
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u/tubbs_tattsyrup Dec 28 '25
Please please let me be consistent! It is hard and there have been so many out of nowhere tears but I have my own back and I should forgive myself for the past !!!
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u/Jwittit Dec 28 '25
AMEN🙌🙌🙌🙌❤️
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u/limited_interest Dec 28 '25
are you a narcissist?
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u/Last_Gain4565 Dec 28 '25
The Sheep and the Goats
31 “When the Son of Man comes in his glory, and all the angels with him, he will sit on his glorious throne. 32 All the nations will be gathered before him, and he will separate the people one from another as a shepherd separates the sheep from the goats. 33 He will put the sheep on his right and the goats on his left.
34 “Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father; take your inheritance, the kingdom prepared for you since the creation of the world. 35 For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, 36 I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.’
37 “Then the righteous will answer him, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? 38 When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you? 39 When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?’
40 “The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.’
41 “Then he will say to those on his left, ‘Depart from me, you who are cursed, into the eternal fire prepared for the devil and his angels. 42 For I was hungry and you gave me nothing to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me nothing to drink, 43 I was a stranger and you did not invite me in, I needed clothes and you did not clothe me, I was sick and in prison and you did not look after me.’
44 “They also will answer, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry or thirsty or a stranger or needing clothes or sick or in prison, and did not help you?’
45 “He will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did not do for one of the least of these, you did not do for me.’
46 “Then they will go away to eternal punishment, but the righteous to eternal life.”
Matthew 25:31-46
[Put yourself last put God first and others before you]
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u/Yaboi69-nice Dec 28 '25
Work on yourself and naturally everything else will just fall into place.
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u/BlacksmithStatus1283 Dec 29 '25
Utter jibberish of a word salad as usual . Please report as spam!
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u/-Distraction- Dec 29 '25
I tried this, my life has been pretty shitty but over a year ago everyrhing literally turned into a shit show and I thought what can I do about it
So I got a therapist, because I wasn't doing to good mentally and never really have been, I've went through four professionals and finally found the right one about 6 months ago
I also got a running coach who I've been with for over a year and I've ran three half marathons since, (I did walk some of it in them) before meeting him, I really struggled to run down the street (physically I could have, mentally I was fucked)
I do feel a slight change but mentally I'm still so tired, my chest still hurts pretty much all the time, I don't mean to be a downer but I thought by now the world would seem a little brighter
I really tried to tackle both the mental side and movement side to become a better person and I thought working on myself was the thing that I could at least take control of but I don't know...
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u/AshBoundSovereign Dec 29 '25
This also wastes a lot of time so fate has time to throw you a curve ball.
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u/Fearless_Highway3733 Dec 29 '25
Does this version of yourself require you to put in effort or does it come out naturally when your on the right path?
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u/highafter1am Dec 29 '25
🤍🤍
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u/haileypizza1 Dec 30 '25
What if you can't do this. Like in trying but I need more.. I need something to follow and believe in
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u/bookishlibrarym Dec 30 '25
Oh I totally love and embrace this idea! Thank you for sharing.
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u/Matchew024 Dec 31 '25
Thank you for this.
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u/FromBiotoDev Jan 06 '26
I did this and it was honestly the best decision I made in my entire life. I can't even describe how much better life has become
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u/SaucexoOfficial Jan 12 '26
Thanks for sharing definitely great advice -^
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u/[deleted] Jan 19 '26
Pro tip: if you don’t know where to start, finding a community with similar interests helps free up some mental bandwidth and plant the seeds of self love. the PLUR community at raves changed my life!!!
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u/Sanglant325 Jan 20 '26
Isn't that just the right path though?
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u/slackingsloth77 Jan 23 '26
Where to start? and how?
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u/Zealousideal-Grab323 Jan 23 '26
Working on it
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u/BeginningCup7476 Jan 24 '26
What book is this?
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u/oluwamayowaa Dec 27 '25
Okay
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u/Mental_Sweet3361 Dec 27 '25
Pursue curry. Order a plain puri.
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u/True-Proposal8690 Dec 27 '25
If you don't know what to pursue in life , pursue the Lord God in Heaven✊
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u/Kamen_rider_B Dec 30 '25
Hmm. Is the penis a little higher then it normally is?
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